mrsmen

We are moving back and i think it all depends on if the stuff you have is worth shipping (financially) to us it seemed easier to sell most things and just return with all our sentimental things and a few things we bought here that are well worth shipping. We are using Grace they seem to be ok so far, id say if you can start again and nothing is overly expensive then sell sell sell! we have sold our entire house in two weeks its actually been quite liberating almost like starting a new chapter. We are sharing a container and as we are moving into my mums rental property we dont need our stuff straight away and can take time to save up and get ourselves sorted again.

Jasepom Ive read a few of your posts and they are sometimes hard to read a bit haphazard for the use of a better word, i agree maybe you do need some counselling sometimes it is hard to see the wood for the trees. All i can say is my husband is giving up his dream to return with myself and our kids so I can be with my older children and family (we all came to oz but older ones left a few months later) he sulked for a day but then he said its cool on to the next chapter in our lives, you and the kids are more important than anything else and he can see although its been great for him its not been great for me. It really is that simple, kids come first, you have blown things out of proportion maybe because you are not feeling well. If you stepped out of the situation and your head for a sec you would see that your kids needs are more important than yours, yes you have to be happy in yourself but by writing on here everyday you obviously aren't happy with your decision hence your hatred of the UK. Please try to see things through your children's eyes they need a father just like my husband is being a father to my kids and his step kids and i love him deeply for it, best wishes

Great weather, resort lifestyle and one of the highest average wages in the world. Even Boris Johnson commented on a visit to Australia how amazed he was that people return to England. So it is surprising why so many people go back. If you have returned are you happy to be back in uk or wish you hadn't left ? - Boris Johnson making that comment is one of the infuriating things about the UK the constant put down of a brilliant country, the media constantly tells everyone what is wrong with Britain etc. When the Olympics were held in Britain what a difference to the atmosphere of the country. The fact they put on wanted down under on the TV in January when people are cold and miserable selling a life of sunshine and dreams. I am returning to Scotland, I do like Oz but its never been amazing to me its ok its nice but personally i prefer Scotland. I didn't leave because i hate Scotland i left because i thought and very naively thought my children would have a better life here, it is no better only different. I thought my kids would play outside with all the other kids in the street....no one seems to play outside after school, garage doors close and no one seems to leave. I want my children to see the world and see the beauty of their own country which up until now i took for granted. Its not about living a resort lifestyle i dont even know what that is, its about being part of my culture part of my families life and being there when and if they need me, nothing more and nothing less.

Im not surprised the poor woman has had enough of oz with responses like that when she is obviously distressed. SHAME ON YOU! Greta all the best don't let people drag you down i think i shall remove myself from this website before i say something i will regret.

Her comments are representative of how she feels and that is all that matters in her world, I have a nice house with a pool, i have a car that is less than a year old, I have friends, we put everything into our life here but what i don't have is far greater than material things and that is a sense of belonging and to be part of my families life on a day to day or week to week basis. Australia is not the dream life for everyone.

Hi Greta I know i don't know you but I'm sending you a hug! i can so relate to what you are saying, i myself have only been here a year and knew from the day i landed oh dear what have we done ( no offence to anyone who loves oz) i put the feelings down to tiredness stress the journey etc and soldiered on. I remember 2 months in crying at the check out at woolworths! i literally couldn't stop and cried all the way back to our house questioning what is wrong with me am i depressed is this normal?? I looked at other brits and they seemed to be relishing their lives and enjoying it and i couldn't understand why i didn't. When we had days out visiting new places it was great but coming home to the house and on a daily basis i felt something was missing and it began to dawn on me there was nothing wrong with me Oz just wasn't the place for me. Regardless of what another people think you are unique to your experience and no one can tell you how you will feel 2 months or 2 years on only you will know what is right for you and your family. We initially said four year then it was three then it was two and when my sons left to return to Scotland we thought ok now is the time to end all the tears and doubting and torturing ourselves with will we stay will we go.... and we decided to go. People back in scotland think we are mad why would you not like it?? you are living the dream??? but its not my dream my dream is my lovely house back home frosty mornings and being with the family i love dearly. So we set a plan in motion to get home as quickly as we could we have sold everything and we feel a huge weight has been lifted off our shoulders. Its not because we didn't try its not because we didn't want it enough it just simply wasn't for us, we haven't failed we've only closed a chapter on one part of our life and starting a new one. We are lucky we still have our home to go back to. If i can give you any advise start a plan to go home if you know in your heart its not right then its not right you are NOT a failure in anyway for thinking you were doing the right thing at that time. I wish you all the best x

I agree wholeheartedly Are you moving back mrsmen? I think you can 'get over' the grief but there has to be a good reason to put yourself through that, just because other people think Australia is paradise and you are lucky to live there isn't a reason to stay! I am glad we stayed 5 years though, I don't think I will ever wonder 'what if?' but my situation was very different, just one child and he was with me and to be honest the first couple of years were great - an adventure, a long holiday, but when the novelty wore off I realised I liked my life in Scotland better and as we all agreed as a family there was no drama in returning. We did get citizenship so should my son choose he can return as an adult (& of course so could we and who knows I might be posting on here in 20 years about moving to be near my grand children ) Hi yes we are moving back as soon as we can, a part of me when we are at the beach in the sunny weather makes me think are we doing the right thing??? then when i think of spending time as a family in Scotland, christmas all together in the cold i think no its the right decision! we can go on holiday to escape the winter but at least we will all be together. I know the kids will grow up and fly the nest and rightly so but i want to be there to help them with all the trials and tribulations adult life brings and no amount of sunshine will make up for that. So its back to my beloved Scotland and i can't wait! x

Hi Bennyboy I am in a similar situation (minus the grandchildren) i have two older boys in scotland and the younger children here in Perth with me and my husband and its the hardest thing ever to be apart from them and not part of their daily or even weekly lives, i know there is Skype but it just doesn't cut it some how well not for me. We al came out on this adventure probably naively thinking it would be the best thing for all of us, i think we were seduced by blue skies and the dream of a wonderful life in the sun. Our life was good in Scotland we both worked didn't struggle financially and had a nice home with family close by, looking back i question why i felt i wanted to go! My sons being older returned after 4 months then the other after 6 months and we are still here 8 months on and not a day doesn't pass i don't cry over how much i miss them. People say give it time it'll get better but that aching for your kids doesn't go or maybe i don't want it to go because I'm not in love with Oz like other people are. No offence to anyone who loves being here I am truly happy for people who build a life here and embrace it, i just preferred my old life, oz is good its beautiful but its not home to me and never will be. So in my opinion go with your heart if your heart says go home and be with your son and grandchildren go because you never get those years back but if you love oz and you can visit or your son can visit then stay. We can't all go back every year and my sons can't afford to travel over every year either so for me home wins and i honestly can't wait to get off that plane and give my boys the biggest hug ever!! wishing you all the best x

Hi Itchyfeet76 basically it means me and the real estate agent are looking to find a new tenant as we won't be staying for the full length of the lease, costly business but we have no option unfortunately. We are responsible for the rent until we find a new tenant so if you know of anyone! haha!

Modern home available to rent asap, lovely home very clean and modern we are breaking the lease due to relocation if interested please mail me or contact agent http://www.obrienrealestate.com.au/property/details/42971 Thanks! Tara & Allen

I am moving to Perth and im a hairdresser on my husbands 457 visa yes you can work, bring all your certificates with you as evidence, not sure on work in Brisbane there are a few job web sites you could look up SEEK is supposed to be a good one, best of luck!

thanks for the advise! much appreciated

Thanks i will have a look on that site, i think we will take as much as we can fit in, one more question take beds too?? thanks for the help everyone

Thanks, thats great information i did think of buying the kids a stock of clothes in a bigger size but wasnt sure if it was worth it, do you think shipping our sofa is worth it as its quite old what is the price of furniture like in Perth? I heard there is an IKEA?? thanks

It hasnt take too long to be honest the hardest part was making the decision to go! My husband has been offered a job in Perth and they are relocating us, we are just sorting things out here, renting house out deciding what to take etc etc so id say 6 months in total but we have been fortunate that my husbands job is in demand and we are being sponsored. what about you?