Hi QPR 17,
Just wanted to give you our side of the story. We moved to Perth on August 08. Our daughter was 16 then and just finished school so we thought the timing was right for her. She like yourself also had a boyfriend from school that she didn't want to leave behind and she really did not want to come to oz with us but she said she would and give it a go. She decided not to go to college or school in Perth and elected to go to work full time instead, which she did in a child care centre within 2 weeks of us landing. She was on a lot better wage than she would have got here in the UK and her workplace put her through her level 3 child care certificate. She found it very hard to settle and didn't make many friends as her workmates were mainly older than her so she spent her weekends with us which was so hard for her after the social life she left behind. When she hit 18 after 19 months of being in Perth she decided she was going back to the UK with or without us. Some how her and the boyfriend she left in the UK kept the relationship going from all the way over there.
For all of us as a family we decided that she had give it a good go then who were we to stop her coming back to the UK. Funny thing is though we came back with her. Couldn't live us there and her here in the UK so back we all came.
Funnily enough we returned to where we come from....that grim Northern town, Manchester. We have now been back 20 months and she and the boyfriend are still together. We have no regrets to be back, even though we didn't reckon her and the boy friend would last. She went back to college to do the child care course she would have done if we had stayed here so all ok there.
I have no words of wisdom for you but I do understand where you are coming from and I so hope things work put for you and your family. For us it was an experience but my daughter came first when she decided to return even if she was 18...hence our return home as the whole family unit who went over.
Good luck. ps we had a son of 10 at the time we went to oz also so understand some of your concerns for your brother also.