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    Post a job vacancy?

    Hello everyone It's been a while since I was on here, so am a bit out of touch with all the rules! I am pommy, now here 9 years (how time flies!) I need to source someone to help me run a British shop on the Gold Coast. Obviously I would like a British person to add to the authenticity of the shop. Am I allowed to post a job vacancy on here? If so, where? Thank you all very much!
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    convalescing in Australia?

    Thanks guys, obviously there are lots and lots of questions and concerns, and he is not likely to be coming any time soon. One of us could go back to get him so the flight should be ok, and of course we dont want him coming at all if that would endanger his health in any way or mean he could not get the medical assistance he needs. Lots to consider!
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    convalescing in Australia?

    Thank you wrussell, had a look at that, and yes that might work! Thank you x
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    convalescing in Australia?

    Good morning everyone. Sorry if this has been posted before but I am looking for some help. I am a UK citizen, been in Oz for six years and am also Oz citizen. I have a long standing friend in the UK who is currently in hospital. When he comes out, he will need a lot of care - particularly in respect of his day to day care as he has had a reasonably severe stroke. If I lived in the UK still he would be very welcome to come and stay with me until he was well enough to go home. But I am here..... His sister is here and also an Oz citizen. His mum is in the UK but lives miles away, is older and both he and her are not keen on the idea of him going there. He is only 50, but completely unable to work and look after himself right now. Hopefully that will come back but he is looking at a long time before this is an option/possibility Does anyone know if there is a visa which would allow him to come here for say 6-9-12 months until he is well? Like a convalescing period where he can come and stay with me and his sister and be somewhere safe until he is well enough to go home? We are able to support him with day to day care, he has money for his own outgoings so things like Centrelink do not come into the equation - it is really just is there a visa that we could apply for that would be appropriate? Yes I appreciate the logistics are a nightmare, but we can't see any other solutions at the moment as he is quite isolated and does not really have any other people to call on and we can see him going into some kind of care home rather than home home. Is there a visa that would allow him to come here to be looked after for a short to medium stay? Thanks all so much for any help you are able to give.
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    <p><p>Tell me how you are getting on, dont be scared, you can do it. If you need to tell them you hve a friend here that you can come to, then tell them you have me. I would do anything to help people in the same situation as I got stuck in and its so unfair that they can leave and then try and control you (dont get me started!!)</p></p>

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    <p><p>Anywya, I think it would help if you had a friend out here, it certainly did help me in my case - one friend was enough. She said she would put us up, help us, look after the kids whilst I found a job etc etc adn this did go in my favour - rather than having nowhere to go</p></p>

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    <p><p>Where do you want to go? We are on the Gold Coast. I would not have chosen here but had to as this is where my friend was, but now we are here I LOVE it</p></p>

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    <p><p>You can do it,</p></p>

    <p><p>Best wishes to you too, the world needs more strong women!</p></p>

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    <p><p>Take Care</p></p>

    <p><p>Stephanie</p></p>

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    <p><p>Hello I am so sorry I have only just logged in and got your message. How are you getting on? Please mail me on <a href="mailto:bluecatnurseries@yahoo.co.uk" rel="">bluecatnurseries@yahoo.co.uk</a> I check that and will get any message you send me</p></p>

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    <p><p>Yes it cost me so much because he fought back. Your situation is exactly the same as mine. I had no one here either, but we LOVE it, I would not go back if you paid me. Their father did follow us out here and things have all calmed down now - I wish he hadnt but its best for the kids. When I got permission, I had a clause put in that if we were unhappy or it didnt work out over here that I could give him 3 months notice and he would not prevent us moving back to the UK. I was worried about being stuck out here too</p></p>

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  7. Hi 2tigers Which way around do you have them? Maybe Oz court orders are able to be registered in the UK (dont know) but when I tried to obtain mirror orders in Australia of my UK order I was told it could not be done. When I was searching for information on the web there was none - which, when I found I could not register the order then made perfect sense. I am no legal expert but I could not do it before I came to australia. I could have done it after I got here - I think you can register them in the country once the CHILDREN have arrived provided it is by consent but until the kids are here they are not interested. In fact here is the letter they sent me, all personal information removed hope this helps someone, I could not find any information for love nor money! Brisbane Registry Commonwealth Law Courts Cnr North Tank & Quay Street Brisbane QLD 4001 DX 41107 Brisbane GPO Box 9991 BRISBANE Q 4000 Telephone: (07) 3248 2233 Registry Facsimile: (07) 3236 1534 www.familycourt.gov.au ■ www.fmc.gov.au Family Law Courts Enquiry Centre: 1300 352 000 01 June 2010 Ms Address England By email ********@yahoo.co.uk Dear Madam Re: APPLICATION TO REGISTER ORDERS I refer your correspondence dated 20 May, 2010. I note that you are seeking that we register an order made in the ***** County Court related to arrangements for your children in the Family Court of Australia. I advise that registration of overseas child orders made in a prescribed overseas jurisdiction can occur in Australia pursuant to Regulation 23 of the Family Law Regulations 1984. The meaning of “prescribed overseas jurisdiction” is described in Regulation 14 and Schedule 1A of those Regulations. I advise that, unfortunately, the United Kingdom is not a prescribed overseas jurisdiction pursuant to the Regulations and, as a result, we are unable to register the Order provided by you in the Family Court of Australia. Please find enclosed with the original of this correspondence the certified copy of the Orders which was enclosed with your correspondence. Yours faithfully FAMILY COURT OF AUSTRALIA Registrar B*****
  8. Hi again What I found out, is that court orders made in the UK are NOT enforceable in Australia. So if the court orders are not enforceable its quite possible that nothing else will be. Send me a PM if you would like more information - I tried to register a UK court order but Oz is not a reciprocal jurisdiction so it wouldnt accept it. Dont really want to get into any more personal stuff on the forum but happy to help if you PM me. But basically I dont think you will get anything drawn up in the UK which will be valid here after 3 months from your arrival date - then you are out of the jurisdiction and it is no longer valid nor is the UK jurisdiction interested! But for your wife, this is the best place in space, dont doubt it til you have tried it. Get an agreement and get here and THEN register it with the family courts within three months if you are in any doubt at all, they are not interested until your children are here. However, , this is far the better life for your children without a shadow of a doubt. IMHO!! Hope that might be a little bit helpful, I would not have gone through what I went through if I was not sure, and having arrived I am more certain than I was before that I have done the right thing for the kids and at the end of the day they are what matters more than anything.
  9. umm pumpkin umm well he was TOLD he was probably going to lose at the begninning of the court case at which point he could have come to an arrangement with me but he decided to force me through four court hearings and untold expense instead. Money that I could have spent on his children instead of lawyers and court fees. Price of a decent car instead of the overpriced shed I am now driving! (Gosh aren't cars expensive here!!) And yes of course he wants to be near his children but hey, he could have done a lot of things a whole lot different instead of winding up / slagging off / cheating on / blackmailing (etc etc shall I go on?) the mother he could have been working with her to come to an arrangement which suited everyone instead of trying to keep me prisoner so I could babysit his children whilst he carried on like nothing happened. If I had a visa and my children were possibly going to be taken to the other side of the world I would leave no stone unturned to make sure I was on the side of the parent leaving. I would want to be as much a part of their life as possible without having to force my way in, but if you refuse to work with the other parent then you are going to get their back up and that is not going to be productive is it? If you have to use force then everyone resents it, and the bully along with it. Personally I wouldnt have done half the things he has done but he cant seem to see how destructive his behaviour is, and indeed continues to be. Mothers are entitled to a life too, they do not exist to facilitate everyone elses life yet we get the short end of the 'life' stick too often because we are only here to be bullied by the system, the fathers, the state, etc etc. I am pleased I stuck through to the end to be here, even miles away from home I am happier than I ever was in the UK even with my amazing friends there. Susie, thank you. xx There were times I was going to give up but I didnt, I had a dream and now we are living it. Parleycross, thank you I hope it works out too but until he grows up and stops bullying me I am not hopeful.
  10. Well just to add another possible outcome here, I followed this thread with interest whilst going through the courts in the UK to secure permission to leave the UK to come to Australia with my children and I thought I would add my story. Short version - was married to the father of my children, we got PR visas in 2006, he left me in early 2007 whilst I was pregnant with our twins, after we had validated our visas and delayed coming for family reasons (elderly relatives). He went off with someone else leaving me and three children under 5 including the twins. Anyway once the fog of newborn babies and no sleep wore off, I decided I still wanted to emigrate even without him (brave or stupid not sure!) and I went through court to get permission to come. I got Leave to Remove permission after 18 months, lots of intrusion into my life by Cafcass, and £15000 later - despite his best attempts to stop me from coming. He resorted to lying, stealing, intercepting and recording phone conversations and blackmail but I still got permission and came over in late 2010. It was getting a bit late in the day as the visas nearly expired (Jan 2011) but we made it. I applied as a single mother for the twins' 101 visas and was accepted. I was expecting somewhere along the line that something would go wrong. I waited shaking when we arrived at Sydney airport, expecting that the immigration officer would point out the reason why we should not be coming into the country! Bleary eyed I was waiting for that knock back but it didnt come! We arrived at the end of 2010, are settled and loving it. Its been an uphill struggle but the pleasure of hearing the kids playing out day in day out til the sun goes down makes it all worth while. I am now trying to buy somewhere for us to live so we can set down roots and they can grow up in the sunshine. HOWEVER. Despite trying to stop us from coming, costing me an arm and a leg, trying to dictate my life to me and failing to see how the constant attacks on the mother of his children might actually have an impact on the lives of the children..... their father decided to emigrate as well and followed us out here at the end of 2010. So now, potentially, having already faced a battle and a half to get here, I could, if things dont work out for me or the children any reason (not that I can see one) potentially face a battle to go back to the UK I would have to reapply for Leave to Remove from here which I understand would probably not be granted - I am now where I want to be, but still half way round the world from my support network with my abusive ex living a few k's away. Nothing I can do about it and I am now awaiting him starting a custody battle with me here because he can. So, I thought I had escaped to start a wonderful new life without wondering each day where the next attack was going to come from only to have the fight transferred miles from home. Groundhog day.
  11. Hello pjnews I would activate your visas. I know its a lot of money but then as you say you have 5 years to make the decision. If you dont activate, your chance is gone. If you activate then your options are still open. There will always be up and down sides to everything but for me, I left a good job and came here on my own with my three children. I dont yet have a job and am living on fresh air most days. But watching them play outside day after day with friends in the sunshine is priceless. If you are considering starting a family, this is just a fantastic place to do it, my kids love it. You need time to heal and decide, keep your options open so that you can make a right decision for yourselves in the fullness of time. Hope that helps
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    Minor issue, how much?

    mortgage statements if you want to get a mortgage soon ish?
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    How Do We Manage This??!!

    Here we go, information on NSW Starting School The first non compulsory year is called kindergarten in NSW rather than prep. Hope that all helps
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    How Do We Manage This??!!

    Hello Your daughter will only be eligible to start school (Prep year) in January 2011 so when you arrive she will only just have missed a little bit of school. I do appreciate that you want to keep her in a routine etc, however prep is not a compulsory year, so if she did have a bit of a break you would not have anyone on your back making you put her in school. So, although thats not what you want, if you took a little while to find a place to live that you were happy with, she would be missing non compulsory schooling - this might take the pressure off you and give you breathing space to find a place and a school that you like and put her in just the once when you find a place you want to stay Some of the schools are zoned which means you have to live in catchment but many are not, and you can just ring up and then go down and enrol - its not (in my experience) anything like as rigid as the UK system. We had an extra month off school when we arrived but people here appreciate that you want to make good choices for yourselves and the kids so you wont find yourself pressured into making quick decisions which may be wrong Anyway, that doesnt help with the juggling of it all but I hope its useful. Here is the Queensland school start information (which I appreciate may be different in NSW) but try looking up "enrolling in prep NSW" and see what info comes up Good luck with it all! http://education.qld.gov.au/studentservices/inclusive/prep/docs/prep_info_sheet.pdf
  15. Hi Sean from Coventry, Steph from Southampton here Living in Archipelago street, pac pines, three kids, boy 7, twin girls of 3. Arrived Sept 2010 so still settling in!! Where are you and if you fancy a coffee anytime, give me a shout. Stef x
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