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    The moaning thread

    Have family over from oz.. And there doing my head in... 3 weeks down, 7 months to go... Give me strength..
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    Was moving back to the Uk a mistake for you?

    Hiya.. We returned just over 6 months ago.. Mainly due to son not settling, and other reasons that now seem fickle. We were there for just over 1 year. We are planning to return but try another state.. With the knowledge of how things work over there, we feel that we are well informed and can over look the fickle things now.. Our son has come to realise , although we may miss what is comfortable and familiar in life, it is his best interest we have, and life is an adventure. He is up for the next chapter.. Its not that we don't love England , we love being back, we are going returning to oz, so hubby can get citizenship, and really are now up for the next challenge. In the year we have been away, uk has changed slightly. Employment is low, it all seems to be agency work. Hubby has about 4 jobs only to be told out of blue, we don't need you. Very disheartening. But we're not jumping ship for these reasons. Who knows we may return again one day.. Life is for living, and after this ping pong experience , it has taught us to grab oppurtunitys.
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    Easier to come back than go?

    Hi Sunshine.. Maybe it's the honeymoon is over. But to us it's new adventures. Hubby since being back, has seen to have the option of dual citizenship is a good thing. We have to be back soon, well he does to be with in the visa regulations. So that's our drive at moment. Get citizenship. We like England , and don't see it as we did before leaving. It has so much to offer, that we appreciate. I guess while we are young (ish), we are up for the next adventure. Our son is still young and at an fairly easy age to adjust. It all makes sense in our heads, and plans .. Just hard to relay to others
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    sponsor required for UK miner

    Just looked at this site.. Why do they want $12 100, salary sacrifice. Is it common practice? Has anyone used this and got jobs? I was under impression no one can guarantee a job in mines, unless it's the mines itself? Sorry for many questions, just don't waste money. Cheers
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    Easier to come back than go?

    Would agree its harder to come to UK. Supa.. What you have just said is where we are at now. Dont get me wrong.. I'm glad we did oz, then I'm glad we came back.. But now... I just don't know. Hubby wants to go back, try new state and all that.. Me I love both countries.. Our son.. Hasn't really said much, but is at least talking about it. We came home because of our son just didn't settle, in the end we didn't like where we're living, and did find our life style worse off in oz.. We don't feel like we failed.. Very much the opposite.. We're very fortunate to be in the position to choose. I swore I wouldn't be a ping ponger... But here we go again..
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    Will the Olympic strengthen the Pound?

    Got my fingers crossed..
  7. <p><p>thinking of heading back to oz in the near future,thought uk was better as we were away for a year but seems to of only got worse.</p></p>

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    UK / Australia name change?

    It does depend on if Australia recognise the country you were married in.. We were married in jamica and it was not recognise.. Had to get name change certain from births/deaths/marriages.. Once you have that cert, it's easy.. I belie if you ring b/d/m they can tell you.. Good luck
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    This feels right..

    Hi all.. Just a quick update in our progress of moving back to u.k.. We arrived on 1st of oct.. Couldn't believe the sunshine was still showing face.. Yes actually t-shirt weather in oct.. Loved it. Stayed with family for 6 weeks, while searching for house. This was a little problem. Most agencies want rental history of last 6 months at least. As we lived in oz for 12, we didn't have proof from uk. With a lot of searching and putting our story forward, one took a chance on us. Hubby has job, although with agency ( this was a problem with renting too), he has some prospect in his position. We don't think it's all doom and gloom, that everyone is saying in the media. Hubby has had 3 jobs with different agencies in 6 weeks. It's what you put into it, to what you receive. The only problem we have had is school for our boy. System has changed in the short time we were away. You now have to apply through council for any vacant positions. We were offered 1 space, unfortunately the of stead report for this school was very bad. So we began our own search according to these reports and our own inspections. 6 weeks in, still waiting. We have found an amazing school with excellent reports. But because this lays in another council, the process and line of communication is stretched out more. So long story kinda short, we hope to have him in next week, that's 8 weeks after arriving. I guess we could have looked sooner, but until we found a perm address, no school would temp educate him. On a great high at moment, just been told this morning our container is being delivered to us Friday.... Whoop whoop:biglaugh: It's been a long 8 weeks.. Think I will kiss my stuff and promise to never leave it again... We have camped out in new house with blow up beds and deck chairs.. Not much fun after a while, but well worth it for end result. As for the u.k itself.. I love it.. The greenness.. Countryside.. Pubs for Sunday dinner... Greggs.. And the cheapness of it all compared to oz.. There's to much to mention really.. We don't regret coming back.. It's been a bit of a slow start, but we are surviving .. I love walking around the shops, people watching with a costa coffee.. And just love the Christmas buzz to it all. Christmas here is amazing.. So I guess my short update is not so short.. So much to say, but don't want to bore you all... To all those doing or thinking of coming back.. All the best.. It's not as bad as the media say, but there are changes.
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    Any regrets on moving back to UK?

    No regrets.. It depends on how you look at it.. So happy we returned.. But regret spending so much money..
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    This feels right..

    Good luck chris.. It's awful to feel stuck.. I wish you a speedy return home..
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    Help planning suprise trip to the UK

    Sounds like fun.. For old world charm, we love Stratford upon Avon .. Shakespeer country.. It's pretty, lovely old buildings, loads of walking to do.. Just a thought anyway.. May not be your cup of tea, but we find it a beautiful part of England.
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    This feels right..

    Hi alandee.. I understand exactly how you are feeling.. Apart from our son not settling.. What you have just mentioned, is what got to us. We couldn't afford anything, no weekends out, food in general.. It got me down trying to shop for my family on limited money. As for housing, it wasn't even a dream for us, just plain out of the question. So really we saw no hope for the near future. The uk is so cheap for food, loving the fact I can go out with £50 and feed my family for days. Housing we think is more affordable, our rent here is just over half of what we paid in oz. We put it down to experience and empty bank account.. Would of always said "what if" if we didn't try. I know (being Aussie) that oz is not where i want to live.. It will always be home, but not to live. I wish you a safe journey home, and all the best for settling back in.. To us it was so right..
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    6 months in Melbourne and it is breaking us

    Hiya.. I do feel for you as we just went through this... I do agree with Quoll. You dont reclaim your life when moving back to u.k.. we have just moved back. To us its just the next step in life. My husband (english), knew he didnt like in oz around week 6... Me the aussie convinced him to stay at least 1 year, and give it a good go of things. It was when our son started showing huge signs of not having a good life there, it convinced me my family was not happy. I must say, since i had not been living in oz for over 10 years, i found it very hard to adjust. I knew too, that this is not where I want to spend my days. The feeling of being "stuck", did become over whelming for us. It something you need discuss in depth. I believe like most have said, you may become desensitzed to it all.. But to us thats not living life. We moved back after 1 year, and so glad we did. We didnt move to back to our old life. We have stayed near city, to get restablished and better chance of saving money to move to our next step in life. The u.k has so much to offer in diverse places to live.. who knows where we will end up.. i find that exciting. The sense of belonging is strong feeling, that does not go away. I whish you all best in your descision..
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    Playing the "Waiting Game"

    Hi candy girl.. The waiting is only a ripple in the ocean. Yes it's an anxious time, and feels like forever. But with what lies ahead.. Buckle down and be prepared. Australia has changed a lot in 12 years, I hope it is what you want in life. It's a beautiful country, and has a lot to offer. As for waiting we are experts now.. And it doesn't get any easier, you just get fed up with it and wonder why your doing this to your self.. Good luck in your quest..
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    Young children coping with move

    Hi Mandy.. Yes it was hard, thank goodness we nipped it in the but. He isn't in school here yet, only been back 8 weeks. Long story as why not in school yet, but have to wait for the system to push some pens around. We moved to Melbourne , the school has all cultures there, and some English and Scottish kids not long arrived. I believe it's just kids these days ( god sound old).. My boy who in uk grew up in lil village life with a very small school, so I guess it was to over whelming for him. He seems happy now, but I think the true test will come when he starts school. He knows finically we are better off here, and can't wait for our holiday next year. I truly believe it's an individual experience .. Kids and adults, just be prepared for the unexpected. All the best and hope your kids do settle well xx
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    This feels right..

    Asylum.. Really... We did miss our stake bakes.. That's all, nothing big, but when you take that first bite after so long.. It's comforting.. I'm the Aussie in the relationship, and it was me who missed it. Not to mention the proper curries... :jiggy:
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    This feels right..

    Thanks Kate.. Yes schooling is a pain, they said it's so they keep track of where children are in the u.k.. Kinda big brother, but I see there point. Never mind it's like summer Hols for our son again, just a bit colder.. xx
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    Young children coping with move

    We like most post on here, had included our son in the whole process. We had family over there, and he was excited in the fact he will have cousins to be with, uncles and aunts to pay attention to him, and grandparents to love and spoil him.. Well sadly, after the first hello.. It fizzed out. He then got picked on at school for his lovely lil English accent. The school situation just got so bad, I kept him of from time to time. With all this going on, our poor boy got himself into a slump. He Freud daily, pretending to be sick in toilet, you name it, just so he can stay with me ( mum ). He cried to go back to uk, and see old friends and just be around familiar surroundings. So we returned after 1 year. We just couldn't see our boy like this. Before we left he was bubbly, always into clubs, loved being out and about friends. We tried in Australia to get him in all the clubs he seemed interested in.. His heart just wasnt in it. So yes we stayed positive before the move to oz.. Included him, did all the positive things for him over in oz.. But it just wasn't for him.. And in the long run not for us either. We never expected our outgoing boy, to turn into a sad lonely one.. So it can either way. I wish you and your family all the best, and hope your kids do adjust. P.s our son was 8 when we moved .
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    The day is finally here ...

    Well the day has come.... Shippers due tomorrow, and I can't wait.. We are happy we gave Australia a fair go.. But for us we never felt at home.. We fly out Friday night, and return knowing we will be home. A big thank you to all who gave me strength when I was feeling down, and encouragement to do what was best for us as a family.. To all thinking or in process of doing so, all the best for the future.. There is always hope, and do what is best for you.. :jiggy::hug:
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    The day is finally here ...

    Sunni: we fly from Melbourne ... Thank you all for well wishes, Glad we "lived our dream" and feel such happiness with our choice to go back.. Will up date on the other side..
  22. We completely understand that feeling.. We have felt that way for a while, made the hard decision to move back to uk... And now the shippers are coming tomorrow. We are going back knowing it's home, and where we belong. Me personally knowing this gives me peace.. All the best with your move..
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    House sold now fun begins

    Australian van lines $7000 for sole use of 20 ft.. All the best for your move back ..
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    Funny thread... Love it.. I brought a "radley" bag in sales in uk, £200... Love it so much and scared of putting it down on the floor to get dirty, I don't use it so much.. I love hand bags, which hubby just doesn't get, but if he can collect gadgets that do god knows what, then I can treat my self from time to time...
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    Is Australia too expensive for us??

    Hiya.. All the advice you have been given is wise. But.... It is extremely expensive here, so much has changed since the time I have lived out of the country. Like you I am a Aussie with English hubby and child, been out of oz for 10 years. I found it hard to adapt here, and truthfully I don't like the constant finacial struggle. I'll probably be attacked for saying this.. But in my opinion, people who say just go for it, is not good advice. It's a huge upheaval for kids, it's a constant struggle finacialy, and a stressful move for all the family. We are moving back in 4 weeks because we just can't go on living in poverty. We could never think of buying a home here, just not in reach for us, and our son has never setteled here. We didn't come for the Aussie dream either, and truthfully it's not there any more. The sun and beaches and maybe seeing family every few months is not enough for us, compared to the finacial strain and unhappiness we all feel. What ever way you go.. I wish all the success and happiness.