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  2. I am very unhappy and need to go back to the UK as I miss family, friends and culture badly. My partner does not want to go back to UK at all and even more now because of COVID. We have a 9 year old and 11 year old who know the UK well (we moved fove years ago), miss our family in the UK but enjoy the lifestyle here . We only came here for a two year adventure as my partner's medic work is loads better here. I have been trying to get home for three years but as my partner does not want to go he has resisted and refused. I don't want to rip out family apart so want us to go together. I'm desperate to go back. Time is running out due to kids schools and my partner digging in his heals more deeply every day. Would moving back to the UK be completely foolish in the current COVID situation?
  3. It can be confusing! Perhaps start with your GP - it sounds very much like you may have exogenous or situational depression (homesickness is that!) and when that interferes with your sleep, your ability to focus or be motivated, they should help you with a mental health plan. Or, as I said, many employers especially of larger concerns have EAPs specifically for employees to seek counselling because a settled employee is a better risk for them than one who is otherwise distressed! If you see a member on here who may be from your neck of the woods and maybe in nursing or some other allied health profession they may be able to steer you in the right direction too!
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  5. kevsan

    Lockdown living

    plus TOLL has suffered a couple of ransomware attacks this year, so all their distribution has had a load of problems that they are still working through
  6. Marisawright

    The (all new) Brexit Thread

    ...but is that because they are poor, or is it because housing in Hong Kong is so unreasonably expensive?
  7. Marisawright

    491 visa and coronavirus

    Yes, I'm sure it looks like that from outside. Officially, Australia was never aiming for elimination, but most states have got so close, I think people are thinking of it now. Around the world, we're seeing that "suppression" doesn't really work, because as soon as countries relax restrictions, the numbers shoot up again.
  8. Marisawright

    When to go?

    Melbourne is in lockdown, that's why there are no flights. Currently the cap is causing confusion but they're going to have to come up with a system to handle it, as they can't just keep cancelling wholesale. Currently they're giving priority to business class passengers (to maximise the income on these nearly-empty flights) so if you book economy, there's a chance you could get bumped. If you're just activating then you can go to any state AFAIK
  9. Anita85

    Sudden pull to move back to UK after 8 years in Aus

    So helpful thank you. I've been so confused googling services. This is really helpful, I appreciate it
  10. Has your GP given you advice? They’re often good for suggestions about local options and if they get you on a mental health plan it costs much less. As for finding a “therapist” - word of mouth is usually the best way. Psychiatrists are medical, they tend to operate within medical models and more important if you think medication is in your future. Psychologists are registered, they can also be part covered under Medicare, they may use different approaches so it rather depends on your personality and ways of dealing with things - some can be more wallowing in the angst, others might be more about mindfulness and others more solution focussed. Counsellors are not regulated and not part of Medicare - rather depends on the person as to what their qualifications are and what their practical approach may be. Personally, I’d go to a psychologist and they will advertise as such and, if possible I’d ask around for recommendations or you may find that your employer has an EAP which might also get you on track. I’m more of a CBT gal but I know others find that not mindful enough. Bottom line though, if you feel in the first session that you’re not going to get on with them, don’t go back! A good therapist will leave you feeling that they have empowered you and that working with them will help you move forward and look for a plan that has goals with an end date. Be wary of someone who says that it’ll take 18 months of weekly visits at $200 a pop! Good luck! Don’t be afraid to jump in, you’re in control of what you want to get out of it and don’t let anyone else tell you different!
  11. Hi Ssher, Could you please let us know what documents did you supply? Did you get your Police check from Afghanistan? How about medical cert? Did they ask for it or you provided it beforhand? My partner is struggling to get his police clearance from Afghanistan
  12. Quoll

    Norfolk or East Yorkshire?

    OP was 4 years ago. They’ve probably made a decision by now!
  13. Quoll

    Lockdown living

    My local yarn shops are doing really well I think! Have you tried yarn from Hobbii I haven’t but several folk here have used them and say it’s great
  14. Quoll

    When to go?

    No flights into Victoria at the moment, they’re in serious lockdown. Can’t you activate by landing in another state? How long were you thinking of staying because these really aren’t the times to be traveling unless you absolutely have to.
  15. Anita85

    Sudden pull to move back to UK after 8 years in Aus

    Thank you, I know it's going to be a while. That's making it worse. I don't know where to start with the therapy/ councillor/ psychiatrist stuff- is it all the same service? I had an appointment booked but I'm not sure it's the right place. If anyone has experience with this please let me know. There are alot of options out there. Thank you
  16. AmyL

    What happens during the Medical?

    Oh wow, I wouldn't have even considered that! Thanks so much for the advice
  17. BacktoDemocracy

    The (all new) Brexit Thread

    Maybe because so many live in council housing because that is all they can afford Public rental housing estates found across Hong Kong usually comprise several high-rise blocks, with flats of different sizes. They currently house about 3.3 million people – 44.7 per cent of Hong Kong's population.19 Jan 2019
  18. kimboslice

    What happens during the Medical?

    Drink plenty of water beforehand, I had a very small trace of blood in my urine test and so did my wife, we both sat there drinking about 8 cups of water, tested again and my wife’s was clear, mine was still showing a slight trace of blood. I was told to go to my doctors who referred me to a kidney specialist, only problem was the waiting list was 3 months, so I went private, £2,000 later I was given the all clear. Very worrying because you start thinking what it could be. It was an early appointment so didn’t really drink much, the nurse did say it is common but does normally flush through with water. Good luck.
  19. Tulip1

    Impossible decision

    If you think it’s what you really want, go for it. Just like people moving from the U.K. to Australia, you need to make sure you have a descent start up fund. You’ll need perhaps 6/12 months rent for a place, based on many landlords may want it upfront if you don’t have a job at the time of securing the place. You will need to allow for many months of living expenses whilst searching for a job, especially in current times. If that’s all doable then definitely get your citizenship first, just in case. For many, starting up somewhere new at your age would be scary but for others, exciting. There are thousands of parents moving to Australia every year on parent visas, most a lot older than you and they make a new life for themselves. If you’re prepared to embrace new, step out of your comfort zone and join clubs/met new people then it could be a very exciting adventure and start to a happy new life. Best of luck.
  20. Tech Sales Rep

    Skillselect ENS 186 Timeline

    As per my MA and I did the same, a letter from the employer confirming your employment status remains full time and there has been no affect on your position, roles and responsibilities and salary. And that there is still a genuine need for your position in the company. Also providing payslips for last few months till date will help proving your status.
  21. AmyL

    What happens during the Medical?

    Thank you that's really helpful
  22. Tech Sales Rep

    Skillselect ENS 186 Timeline

    Wonder when our nomination will get approved having applied in Nov'19. Not a single response from dept. or request for more info/documents. MA even uploaded status update requests recently and emailed same employer nomination section but no reply. Also, uploaded letter confirming full time employment through the entire COVID period with no affect on position, salary . Just having the nomination approved feels like a dream right now.
  23. db100

    What happens during the Medical?

    At mine I had a chest x-ray, blood sample and urine sample taken. Did the usual height, weight, blood pressure, medical history questions. Did a brief sight test too. Then lay on bed in underwear and the doctor had a feel for lumps and bumps, then tested knee and joint reflexes. From arriving to leaving it was under an hour. Wasn't uncomfortable at all.
  24. Quoll

    Impossible decision

    Sadly, I don’t think there is a one size fits all solution to situations like you find yourself in! You could start to be pragmatic though - get your citizenship then you’ve got your bases covered! While you are waiting for that start rationalising your “stuff” So that if an opportunity not to be missed comes along, you won’t miss it! I’d say you’re probably on the cusp of being too old - but I think you can still do it - but if you don’t do it now then you’re probably not going to do it at all or at least until you’ve stopped working and by then the pull of an elderly parent is probably not going to be there. If you go in the next couple of years you have a chance to get reestablished before you retire. My observation was that Britain wasn’t nearly so ageist as Australia and even though we weren’t looking for work, my husband and I both got offered jobs! Like Marisa, we came back but it wasn’t because it didn’t work for us - it did, as far as I was concerned it worked brilliantly. It assuaged my guilt because we cared for my parents, I was happy all the time, lost weight, got fitter and generally had a great time but staying there when dad needed to go into care was a non starter and, pragmatically, we had left it too late, financially it stacked up being better back in Australia. What would I have done at your age and single? I have no idea but I’d like to think I would have up sticks and gone. Even back then (20 years ago) I always said that if anything happened to my Aussie husband I would be on the next plane home. Of course, back then I had two kids at Uni so I don’t know if the stars would have aligned for me or not. So, small steps to prepare - get citizenship, start to declutter, look for jobs in U.K. you would kill to get and start applying so that when we are free to travel the world again, if you feel like it you can go! Good luck with your decision making, whichever way you jump.
  25. Can anyone who has had the medical let me know what is involved? Is it invasive?
  26. Brenmav

    When to go?

    My family need to activate our PR and need to travel next month but there are no flights to Melbourne at this point till the 10th of Aug with Emirate, Qatar and Ethiad. Does anyone know if Victoria is charging for the 14days self isolation? I also so confused by this 4000 people cap, are airlines selling tickets with that in mind or they are just selling and not caring what happens to you ahead? How does one know if they are within the 4000? Please help as I'm ready to book our tickets but don't want a second cancellation. We are still waiting for a refund from qantas since they cancelled our first tickets.
  27. newjez

    Lockdown living

    Sort of depends on who you ask.
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