Younger OnesA forum especially for teenagers and the younger ones making the big move down under. Its here to discuss all things with migrating and living in Australia.
I have two sons aged 12 and 16 and they would be leaving their dad, stepmum and half-sister, kieran the youngest is very sad about this also about leaving nan, grandad aunts cousins.... is there anyone who has done this and how do you cope with it? how often do you return to see family? I am trying to encourage kieran to come on here and chat, he has msn but is not interested in going to Oz so does'nt want to talk about it.
Jane,
This is the sort of situation that i am dreading
I too have a son and he is twelve. He will also be leaving his dad behind in the UK. We are both going on a holiday to perth for a month in the summer just to test the water. Want to move late 2009.
I started crying when I read your thread It really touched home with me - I know how hard it will be for my son to leave his family behind. Do you think that you will ever be able to change you younger boys mind? If he is into footy - What about the soccer schools/clubs. The outdoors life etc. Do you have any family/friends in Oz that he can talk too?
thanks for reply, I have uncle(late 60's) in perth but not spoken to him for about 7 years although my mum and dad still keep contact. we are going to essex meet in june and have told kieran but all he asked for was if there was a footie goal! He does already belong to a club over here so he has all he needs according to him. I know what you mean about things hitting home though, there are many threads on here that make me blub. My situ is rather difficult anyway as gonna have to take boys dad to court to try and get court order allowing us to go, also my family don't want us to go and are trying to make plans for the near future with us to try and get our minds off this silly australia thing. I am just worried it will all be too much to bear when it comes to boys saying goodbyes and the eldest changing his mind (he is saying at the mo' that he would give it a go) You are very lucky to be going soon for a month, just wish we could to let the boys see what they could have(we never even been and can't afford reccie)might help them along. You must let me know how you get on and i am sure your boy will love it. Can i ask how often do you think your boy will see his dad once you have emmigrated and how you will go about it? so many questions i will have to answer in court!!
thanks, jane
Hi jane, hows you your boy still not having any of it, wish we could make the essex meet 1st of june my 2 boys are mad on chelsea too syd would take his football with him i think footie is a good ice breaker for kids, hang on in there good things come to those who wait i will pm you syd msn then when kieran is it? is ready or wants to talk syd will be waiting he often posts on here about his worries and some one always gives him positive replies( thanks ali) talk soon Lou.
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thanks for reply, I have uncle(late 60's) in perth but not spoken to him for about 7 years although my mum and dad still keep contact. we are going to essex meet in june and have told kieran but all he asked for was if there was a footie goal! He does already belong to a club over here so he has all he needs according to him. I know what you mean about things hitting home though, there are many threads on here that make me blub. My situ is rather difficult anyway as gonna have to take boys dad to court to try and get court order allowing us to go, also my family don't want us to go and are trying to make plans for the near future with us to try and get our minds off this silly australia thing. I am just worried it will all be too much to bear when it comes to boys saying goodbyes and the eldest changing his mind (he is saying at the mo' that he would give it a go) You are very lucky to be going soon for a month, just wish we could to let the boys see what they could have(we never even been and can't afford reccie)might help them along. You must let me know how you get on and i am sure your boy will love it. Can i ask how often do you think your boy will see his dad once you have emmigrated and how you will go about it? so many questions i will have to answer in court!!
thanks, jane
Hi Jane,
How long have you got until your court date? Are you nervous? silly question!! I haven't even started that part yet.
Do you think that your family would take you more seriously if you did do a reccie? I am planning to remortgage my house in order to raise the cash for ours. It is going to be expensive but when dealing with the little bloke a trip to Oz will be worth it in the end. I just don't want my son to hate me. Taking him away from his Dad isn't going to get me any brownie points! I am planning to have at least 3/4 trips back to england every year. This should help him have the contact with his Dad that he needs and not to forget the contact with both families.
Hi We Are Hoping To Go Out In 2009.i Have A Step Son And Two Other Kids . Jack Will Be Leaving His Dad And His Side Of The Family Behind. They Are All Behind Him With What He Wants .that Can Prove A Problem As Jack Doesent Know What To Do. He Likes The Idea But Says He Will Miss Them All And His Freinds . Maybe They Could All Speak To Each Other To Give Each Other A Bit Of Support Jack Is 12
well, lucy, we havent set a date for court yet, we are due to see a solicitor on tuesday we wanted to get lots of info so we can arm ourselves in court first, the likelyhood will be having to wait ages for a date but just in case they say "next week" we need to know that we have got our little folder filled, and yes i will be REALLY nervous(not that good in front of lots of peeps) hopefully they will allow my partner to say some things as he is better with words unlike me who will most probably get wound up if ex butts in
You are very lucky to be able to have reccie and come back to blighty few times a year when over Oz, i am sure this will not be the case for us unless we win lottery!! we did remortgage but that was to do house up with to sell it,so....but saying that maybe things would be different out there, maybe it will be easier to save some money??wait and see ey?
rach, your jack is brave i have sent him pm for sending a message, its good that he can see the good things about oz, have you been before? we have'nt and boys dad will be using this against us in court when we do go, thinks i am nuts watching too many holiday programs, maybe i have but still seems like nicer way to live for us as i know we would enjoy more of outside lifestyle. Hopefully kieran will get his butt on here and have chat with jack and lou's boys, which by the way lou its a shame you can't come to essex meet which i will be dragging boys to!!
anyway chat soon ladies, jane x
I am planning to represent myself in court but unlike you i do not have anyone to speak for me. So any advice after you have visited your solicitor I will be greatful. I phoned up my local solicitors to see them about my situation and they warned me that it would cost £100 for the first half hour & £175 per hour after that.
well, i went to solicitor which surprisingly we thought we would be charged at the end of about an hour but was'nt! very nice lady we saw understanding, but... £203 an hour!!!!!!
what she said was that it would probably take about 8 months all in all as cafcass would have to get involved and they are very busy at the mo'. i may jsut start with letter to ex from solicitor and wait and see what i do know though is that no way are we forking out 5 grand just can't do it. she also said after we had long chat that odds are i would win court order and would be advised to use barrister in court who would be experienced in this sort of thing they would charge about a grand, least to say think we would be representing ourselves!
anymore news then will let you know, if you get date for court then send us a message let us know how you get on, good luck...
Hi,
we feel for all of you, my son is 7 and the sun shines out of his dads backside! he can do no wrong, however we could say alot different.
We are heading over to Oz in October for a taste, my partner being Australian helps. I asked my son about moving to Oz and he said he wont make up his mind until he sees what Oz is about. Fair play to him, but we know that no matter what Jake wants ,his dad will not let him go.
Im sad to say but it wont be because he couldn't live without him, but more to stop us from going. i know he loves Jake but just does not have the time for him most weekends when at his dads he gets shipped off to one of his aunties.
we know court is the only option that feels us with dred, as we have been there before. the only other option is handing over Jake to his dad and saying here you have him! as we know that he does not have the room or the time? but what happens if it back fires???
So the only option is court so please keep us up dated so we know what to face ourselves.
Thanks Tracy
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Me too!
It really touched home with me - I know how hard it will be for my son to leave his family behind. Do you think that you will ever be able to change you younger boys mind? If he is into footy - What about the soccer schools/clubs. The outdoors life etc. Do you have any family/friends in Oz that he can talk too? 
Good Luck!
