Leaving your kids behind..............

[emi-great]

Hi guys

We moved to Perth around 10 years ago & intended to bring our four children with us who were 21, 13, 11 & 8 at the time. Our 21 year old daughter suddenly decided to stay in the UK when she got engaged (after a whirlwind romance). It was so difficult to leave her & it is no point saying to anyone that it wasnt heartbreaking for us all.

Four years ago she & her partner decided to migrate here with our grandaughter & you can imagine how delighted I was. We had three very precious years together but in the end they decided that Australia was not the place for them.

We cant make decisions for our kids ... though I am sure if we could at times we would save them from various mistakes & "scrapes" & really so long as they are happy with life & are healthy that is the main thing & all we can wish for.

As to the teenagers I honestly believe it is the hardest for them... they are almost adults yet have no choice but to go along with Mum & Dad's "bizzare & totally insane" idea that they will move to Australia. Who wants to hang around with the "oldies" leaving behind all the important people in their lives (friends), we have found, in our experience having seen many families arrive on our doorstep, that although they find life hard for the first few weeks ... more often than not (& there have been a couple of exceptions) they do settle down once they get out & about & mix with people their own age. We always suggest to our clients that if at all possible they encourage their teens to either go back to school or go to TAFE & do a course because in this way they immediately start to mix with people from their peer group.

As we all know (even I remember & I am old!) friends are far more important than rellies when your teenagers & most teens can think of nothing worse than moving somewhere & knowing no one except the parents & siblings ... shocking

Good luck to you all & hopefully some of you will have your wish granted that your family will follow.

Eve
Emi-Great - Home - Short Term Rental Accommodation for migrants emigrating from England to Rockingham, Mandurah, Port Kennedy, Warnbro and Perth

[pominnz]

Hi all

We migrated to NZ about four years ago. Our eldest daughter lasted a year and returned to the UK where she is currently living and studying to be a nurse. She is 20 years.

We leave for Aus on 175 visas on Wednesday 15th October and this time we are leaving our youngest 17 yr old daughter behind as she just didnt want to come with us. We also have no family or family friends to look out for her in NZ and she is moving in with her friends parents who upset me a bit offering her somewhere to stay without discussing it with us first.

So we will have two daughters both living in different countries to us!

Its tough but we are hoping that both girls may follow eventually when/if things get tough. They are both flying out for a visit at Xmas, so all we can do at the moment is look forward to that.

All the best everyone. Debbie

[wiccanwitch]

we are hoping to move to aus in the next few yrs
i will leave my 2 kids maybe 3 behind
marc my oldest is 23 and married with his own daughter
my daughter louise is 22 she live on her own and is a legal sec
my son lewis 18 we dont know wether he is coming or not ?
although i am very upset at the thought of leaving them behind
i have to stop and tell myself they are adults now and have to make there own way in life and there own mistakes too
and i tell myself that they are only a plaine ride away and they are all young enough to fly over

i will take with me my other 4 boys seems i have had 7 kids lol
i hope that one day they may be all over in oz with us but i wont hold my breath on that one
what will be will be

[mel ward]

Hi everyone
I have just joined this fantastic site well where do i start! I am 34, husband 39, 2 kids 5 and 9. We have applied for our visas. we are going to perth for 3 weeks in April 2009. My daughter is saying she doesnt want to move, and My ex husband is sure to take me to court, to stop me taking her. Has anyone been through the same?