Leaving your kids behind..............

[Dawny]

Just want to say a big and welcome!

im the same my husband and i will be taking three kids 10, 7 and 4 and leaving my eldest and grand daughter behind, with the hope that she may follow later down the line.
Dawn & John, Ellie, Kyle and Aimee xx

[dnex721]

Originally Posted by jimrie

hi, thanks for all your replies, I no its not going to be easy to leave them but like you say she can come visit and maybe she will love it to! I just hope my 17 year old settles as well as yours Sue, hes just worried about leaving his friends we have told him his friends can come visit so at this rate we will have a house full of 17 year olds!!!! At least my 10 year old cant wait to go and my 11 month old dosnt no any difference so 2 out of 3 aint bad..... thanks again Julie, Dave, Jake, Chloe and Tyler x

Hi , welcome

just wanted to say i have a 17 year old who is driving us mad about going /not going leaving mates behind etc etc etc ... hoping to be in perth in march
and fingers crossed she settles and realises we are not the worst parents ever taking her from mates, and meets new people and enjoys it x
good luck with yours lol

speak soon

Bev & Tony

[Que Sera, Sera]

Hi Bev and Tony , I know where you are coming from with the 17 year old thing.
My eldest when she was 15 decided she wanted to go and live with her Father in Brisbane. He had emigrated out there a year or so previuosly with his new wife. I was dead against it at her age but to be honest she maid ours lives such a misery that I finally caved in and allowed her to go. She was going over on a 3 month ticket so if she hated it she could come back. I drove her up to Heathrow one Sunday and had to say goodbye to her and send her off around the otherside of the world. As you can imagine I was in bits!
Well last Christmas morning I was getting dressed and there was a knock at the door and in walked my daughter now 17. She had travelled all the way back on her own for a visit. After her months visit was up she decided she wanted to stay so stayed for another month. The lure of Oz was too much though and she went back again at the end of February! I drove her up to Heathrow in bits again!
Well my point to you is tell you daughter that my 17 year old absolutly loves it there and despite coming back for a bit realised it is far better there for her than here.She says the girls are far less bitchy and far more friendly and the guys all love the English accent!
The final bit of this story is, we are now following my daughter out there, because she has sold it to us too! Take care and I now have to convince my 14 year old daughter who does not want to go despite the fact her sister and her father, Nan and Aunty are already there!
Kids eh!

[Quoll]

LOL you never can tell what your kids are going to do! Many Aussie kids are absolutely busting to get out of the place once they have finished school/uni because they are bored with it and want to get more out of life. One of mine has gone in the opposite direction - went for a "gap year" after uni and absolutely adores being in UK and, 6 years later, has no intention of returning in the forseeable future because the career opportunities, travel, social events etc are so much better there. So, even if you bring a child here, there is no guarantee that they are going to stay here. It isnt easy however having a kid on the other side of the world but if they are having a good time I guess it is their life they are living!

[Que Sera, Sera]

Originally Posted by Quoll

LOL you never can tell what your kids are going to do! Many Aussie kids are absolutely busting to get out of the place once they have finished school/uni because they are bored with it and want to get more out of life. One of mine has gone in the opposite direction - went for a "gap year" after uni and absolutely adores being in UK and, 6 years later, has no intention of returning in the forseeable future because the career opportunities, travel, social events etc are so much better there. So, even if you bring a child here, there is no guarantee that they are going to stay here. It isnt easy however having a kid on the other side of the world but if they are having a good time I guess it is their life they are living!

Quoll well said but I will say if any of them do decide to come back to the Uk I sure as hell won't be going through all this to follow them again.

[trixabella]

Originally Posted by MattCath

Well last Christmas morning I was getting dressed and there was a knock at the door and in walked my daughter now 17. She had travelled all the way back on her own for a visit.

hi cath
your story brought tears to my eyes
how sweet that your daughter came all the way back from oz for xmas to see you.
i will be leaving my 19 year old daughter behind when we go next year and i know that will break my heart.
i dont honestly think that a reccie will make her change her mind but i live in hope.

[Wenders]

Hi,
We tooare leaving 5 children & 4 grandchildren, huge decision but I just know they will love it when they visit and possibly make the move themselves...............we live in hope!

[mcgow]

For everyone hoping thier kids will follow them: Emigrating was my oh idea we went to the gold coast for a holiday in 2006 and I was adamant that to me it was just going to be the holiday of a life time I told him straight I wasnt making any promises at all, well I completely fell in love with the place and was even keener than he was after that and we havent got any family out there at all so there is definately hope yet

[linzi]

hi,i hope u don't mind me asking but where in Brisy are u? I'm a nurse who's got a job in Brisbane private hospital (in springhill)on a sponsered 457. About to apply for visa's for me and my 3 kids (17,12 & 8 when we get there in jan!) but not sure about areas to live(gonna rent as i do here) and is it gonna be hard for me managing on $53k b4 tax (?? to the tax system too!!) as a single parent? Do u pay for kids schooling in qld if not a pr? Hope u don't mind me asking and midering u?! Just don't want to be shelling out money for visa's and medical's if its not feasible ,already paid out enuff to get this far!!
thanks for any help or advice u may have
lindsey

[dnex721]

Originally Posted by MattCath

Hi Bev and Tony , I know where you are coming from with the 17 year old thing.
My eldest when she was 15 decided she wanted to go and live with her Father in Brisbane. He had emigrated out there a year or so previuosly with his new wife. I was dead against it at her age but to be honest she maid ours lives such a misery that I finally caved in and allowed her to go. She was going over on a 3 month ticket so if she hated it she could come back. I drove her up to Heathrow one Sunday and had to say goodbye to her and send her off around the otherside of the world. As you can imagine I was in bits!
Well last Christmas morning I was getting dressed and there was a knock at the door and in walked my daughter now 17. She had travelled all the way back on her own for a visit. After her months visit was up she decided she wanted to stay so stayed for another month. The lure of Oz was too much though and she went back again at the end of February! I drove her up to Heathrow in bits again!
Well my point to you is tell you daughter that my 17 year old absolutly loves it there and despite coming back for a bit realised it is far better there for her than here.She says the girls are far less bitchy and far more friendly and the guys all love the English accent!
The final bit of this story is, we are now following my daughter out there, because she has sold it to us too! Take care and I now have to convince my 14 year old daughter who does not want to go despite the fact her sister and her father, Nan and Aunty are already there!
Kids eh!

kids -
i agree thanks for that - they break your hearts eh !!
went to estate agents she refused to step into the door , stood outside in the uk rain just to prove a point - mad ..


i'm sure we'll get through this

thanks again
Bev