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my hubbie and i have decided to "go for it ! how do we tell our parents we are going,we are all v-close and we would be taking away their(only)3 grandchildren??!this is so frustrating.....help!
Myself, hubby and three childen are also in the very early stages of taking the plunge, we too are very close to parents and as yet have not mentioned it to them, because the process can take so long, and dont want to worry them more than necessary.
Im sure well sort it out it the end, and hopefully have their blessing.
thanx for reply !do you even know what you will say when the time comes?we are in business with my ma and pa aswell as the personal stuff,just so fed-up with 60 hour weeks,kids not seeing daddy etc,you cant go anywhere coz weather is always awful but i'm sure my parents will think all these reasons are "weak"compared to leaving them behind?!
Its a hard decision to make to take the kids away hasnt been that difficult for me having no real close relatives butmore difficult for husband.
Not sure if this willsoften the blow for them but they can get visas which will allow them long holidays in Australia for up to 6 months every year, maybe they are in a position to do this.
if you are looking possibly to do that look for gollywobbler's threads shes the expert on all things to do with parents.
No we dont know what we are going to say, I know my mother/father in law will be ok as hubbys sister and family live in LA and have done for past 15 years or so. They have two small childen who the hardly ever see. Its my parents I am worried about, I know if we go my dad certainly would not be able to do the trip to aust and i dont think my mum would be up to it, and also would not like to leave my dad for a long period.
Anyway i will worry about that as and when. We seem to have the same feelings as yourself though, my hubby works very long hours and also works away for 2-3 days mos weeks, i find this hard, working and looking after the kids as well as chauffering them around here, there and everywhere.
You just have to build regular trips home into your budget. We do, maintains my sanity and seems to keep everyone happy but it gets harder and harder to leave when I have to come back here. My parents have been brilliant given that I am the only child with only 2 grandkids and now we have their gt gd here whom they will never get to see, sad to say. They do have one of our kids there though, he emigrated back for better job prospects!!!!
THanks for your reply, i work as a school secretary and hubby is an IT architect for IBM. If we take the plunge we would be looking to relocate through hubbys job. We have made preliminary enquiries and jobs are there its up to us to do all the research first before making final decision. Hoping to go to Leeds expo in april and hopefully that will make our minds up for us.
My only drawback is my 21 yr old daughter who is to my first marriage and doesnt want to come, she is not happy and she only said to me the other day that if she could she would do 6months with her dad and 6 months with us, but unfortunately that would not work with work commitments and I think she is getting upset now that we are making more enquiries.
