Feeling the jitters

gilly · 06-08-2007, 11:06 AM

Hi, I dont know why but having only a few weeks to go has brought on a bad case of the jitters which is leaving me feeling really confused and down

I have waited and planned for so long for this moment but I now seem to have lost all direction. Soon I will be leaving my children 19 and 16, my home and even my dog and the whole thing is becomming quite over whelming. My husband keeps trying to make it all right but every now and then it hits me. I know the children will be ok, one going to uni the other staying with his dad, but Im scared if I feel thiss bad now how will it be when I get there. Everything is so uncertain at the moment. Sorry to whinge but I could really do with a bit of help. Has anyone been there and come out the otherside cause at the moment I feel like giving it all up. I have always dreamed of living in Australia since a child and I love the country from years of visitng but am I just breaking my heart for nothing. Sorry again, dont want to depress anyone but any words of wisdom would be appreciated. also they may bring some normality back to my husband who is being so nice (to nice really its scarey)

Gilly

mandy1 · 06-08-2007, 11:28 AM

Hi Gilly
I think what you are are feeling is absaloutely the norm! We (me. oh and 2 kids ages 8 & 12) are hoping to get to Perth in November and this week our house is going on the market and to be honest I go from feeling excited one minute to dreading it the next! When you think about what a huge step we're undertaking it'd be wierd if you didn't have the jitters. Just try and keep calm and think about why you wanted this move in the first place. I know when it gets nearer to our time to go I'll be just as bad as you if not worse. As for the hubby being extra nice-make the most of it you know it can't last-lol
Mandy x

calNgary · 06-08-2007, 11:45 AM

It is normal ,so many times i thought why am i doing this? and the kids would ask why are we moving mummy if it makes you so sad,the goodbyes are a bloody nightmare ,but just keep thinking of all the reasons your leaving and the better prospects you will have in Oz.once on that plane you perk up and get excited and i must say we have never looked back ,we are happier than ever.Keep smiling you'll make it
Cal x

skirk · 06-08-2007, 04:39 PM

I know its sad but it makes me feel re-assured that other people are too leaving kids behind, my 21 is staying behind but does want to come over in a couple of years but time will tell - i really feel for you

dizzy blonde · 06-08-2007, 04:49 PM

Hi Gilly

I know exactly how you feel - never mind jitters I just have total stomach churning fear at the moment. I am a really strong, logical, mostly sane person most of the time. Have spent the last so many months reassuring our kids, my parents, OH parents, family, friends that this is a good move for us. The question is who do I turn to for that same reassurance without frightening everyone! My OH is great but as a man (sorry sweeping generalisation here) if I get upset he tries to find a solution. Hard to find a solution when don't really know what I am scared of. Am usually really positive about the move but now we are into days away not months all feels very real. I just try to focus past the goodbyes and onto what I will be doing in 3 weeks time when in Perth. When and where are you going.

Big Hugs and it does help to chat (type) it over with someone else who feels the same. PM me if you want and perhaps we can prop each other up!

Lynne

ali · 06-08-2007, 11:05 PM

I think it's pretty normal, after all it's a life changing decision you're making. The goodbyes will be the most difficult thing (that's the reality of it), but you will get through it and from time to time you'll wish you were back with them which again is all normal. Like Jo says though, they too have their lives and in a couple of years they may be saying "I'm off travelling me". my brother did this.... came home to earn money to be off again! He visited Aus on route to NZ, met his future wife and is settled in QLD.

Ali

gilly · 07-08-2007, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ali

I think it's pretty normal, after all it's a life changing decision you're making. The goodbyes will be the most difficult thing (that's the reality of it), but you will get through it and from time to time you'll wish you were back with them which again is all normal. Like Jo says though, they too have their lives and in a couple of years they may be saying "I'm off travelling me". my brother did this.... came home to earn money to be off again! He visited Aus on route to NZ, met his future wife and is settled in QLD.

Ali

Thanks for all your kind words.

They really do help. Think I will take one day at a time and try and remember the reasons for wanting this to happen in the first place. Children have the choice to come or not and at mo. want to carry on with their lives here. I like to think they will come out later and I have just gone on ahead to find a home. My husband is not so sure but it helps me cope so Im sticking with it. I cant think of the dog at the moment and I just hope I can persuade my ex to have him. I know my children would be devestated if he had to go. Im just trying to break everything down into small managable chunks instead of going round and round in circles

I hope we all have the life we want and its great to think of those that are there already living their dream. Here's to more sleep at night, less blubbing in the car to a sad tune and less ranting at my husband as he enters the house and dares to breath

. Once again thanks Gilly xx

Davidgolf · 07-08-2007, 11:53 AM

Hi Gilly
We Are 5 Weeks Away From Going And All Of A Sudden I Keep Finding Myself Crying About Nothing And When My Best Friend And I Are Together We Sometimes Just Look At Each Other And Start Crying So You Really Are Not Alone As The Other Have Said, Remeber We Are Going To A New Life It Is Abit Scarey But We Will Be Fine, Take Care
Love Sharon Xx

kate.b · 20-08-2007, 03:32 AM

Hi,
You will need to know when you are going to see your children again. Accept the fact that you will miss them and your dog. Remember the reasons why you are coming to Oz. Just try to keep positive. The days when you feel down, give in to them, it's like a wave that engulfs you, then subsides. Emotions are what you are, don't try to keep them inside, get them out. The support of your hubby will get you through. I always say the travel is only a day in your life.
Hope this helps.
Kate