oh my god! where on earth do we start.does anyone suggest a length of time to think things thru? do we get an agent or do it ourselves? what are all the abbreviations for? any suggested reading? oh my head hurts. hi by the way my name is steph my husbands is dunc, we have 3 boys 2 of whome will be comeing out with us, if we get accepted of course, and if we can get up of the floor and get going, i feel like i dont know where to start. any suggestions? we have contacted 2 agents but they a reluctant to give any info, is this the norm?