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HELP..
My husband and I are hoping to move to Aus next year with our 1 year old son. Going to visit Melbourne in Nov (we haven't been before)and if we like it then and decide to go then because I will be sponsoring my husband it is a quick process. The problem is my husband seems to be having little doubts. Mainly about leaving family behind and that we are taking our son away from his grandparents and cousins.. Also so worried that we might not be better off financially over there and what if he can't get a job (he is in insurance).. Has anybody else had these worries. He does say he knows it is for the best and our lives will improve in the great outdoors but then adds what if our life is the same as here.. Don't get me wrong our life isn't terrible here and family are wonderful...
He is a little worrier but is this normal??? Has your life really changed or are you looking for a better lifestyle like us???
Welcome,my wife and myself had all them same worries.But if all else fails you can always come back.We look at it this way better to have tried and not liked. You would hate yourselves later if you dont try
Thanks for that and there is that option but we have said we would never come back but move state if we felt like we couldn't settle. I think it is just the nerves and the thought of such a huge move and what you have to give up but I guess what you gain is so much too. So are you living there now and if so how are you finding it??
I think as your son grows and forms opinions of his own and finds out and discovers things for himself, like ours are.
Stuff we wished we could shield them from i.e drugs, knives and guns, violence, the total disrespect for authority that most teens have (not all obviously) we vowed that as they grew, sport and education would be their focus. Sadly this country doesn't offer enough support or funds for this our children our bright (1 classed as gifted) no support for this either, it may not be the ideal situation for us, leaving family comfort and safety of jobs and home, but... it's all for them isn't it?
Thanks for the support and yes you are right it is for them. I can't stand seeing constant graffitti, scratched windows and kids hanging around on corners and don't want my son falling into those crowds in years to come which is why we also want to move. I want him to play sport and not bored with nothing to do.. Goodness me, reading this it seems like we come from a right hole but actually live in Surrey!
I actually think it helps to type things like this because it makes you realise why you want to go..
Location: From Bury,Manchester To Jimboomba, Brisbane
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why do you think we escaped we had to put with Manchester !!!!!! and to ease your worrys our kids are loving it as are we and wouldnt go back to the uk if you paid us,so far living here is everything we wanted and more ,the only regret is we should have done it years ago.
Cal x
We all want what is best for our children and as a Mum of a troubled teenage son at the mo I wish we had not left OZ ten years ago then perhaps we would not be dealing with some of these issues. However, do it for you too, not just them, that is crucial as when you hit hard times and your support network is not there the homesickness will stifle your dreams!When they're giving you a hard time you'll question what you gave up for them. So do it cos you want a better quality of life as well, the road will be alot smoother.
it seems from reading posts in this forum that it is not just a handfull of areas that are littered with grafiti and idol teenagers with nothing to do but cause grief for residents but the whole country, we are in essex and about midnight every night we are woken by the sounds of police helicopters hovering over our house, i said no to going to oz for years but as our eldest is getting bigger(he is only 9) i started to think that eventually i am going to haave to let him out of the house without an adult with him and that thought terrifies me. it seems the world is changing or maybe just this forsaken country. when we were kids we were educeted about strangers and the roads but now it seems kids are mugging and stabbing kids, how am i supposed to educate him about that apart from telling him to have no friends and dont speak to other kids. it is too scarry!!!!!!. also he is very intelligent at school but when he finishes his work instead of giving him more to do as he gets it quickly he is sent out to help non english speaking kids with their work. while i accept they need help it should be staff doing this and not my son who is not pushed to his potential at all. hopefully this will change when we are in acountry that values education and not statistics. and welcome quality family time instead of my husband having to work all hours and not seeing kids just to survive and pay more taxes.
im going to stop there before i really get going and say something politically incorrect :evil: :lol:
good luck, hope it all works out for you
kelly
My hubby was the same, we moved to Perth in 2003 whilst I was pregnant and stayed with family. My hubby was a bricky labourer and called a few jobs in the paper, after 1 said no he was completly deflated and immediately wanted to return to UK. He did get a job but wasn't getting same as in UK, so decided to return. I protested but he said it would just be 3 - 4 years while he comes back and learns to be bricky. I reluctantly agreed.
Been back in UK for 3 years now (I've hated nearly every minute), and I'm still desperate to return, but he keeps moving the boundaries of when that will be. I must admit it was a bit of a nightmare whilst in Oz as he obviously didn't want to be there, but it is such a better life. I am so desperate for my son to be brought up there instead of this place. But my hubby is worried about money as since we left Perth houses prices have rocketed and he can't earn as much there as here, but money isn't eveything (although I'm finding it hard to convince him of this). I don't think we'd be able to afford to buy our own property in Perth, and this is what's putting hubby off along with lower wages.
I lived in Oz for a year when I was 12 and went to school there, it was the best year of my life. I was top of my class in almost every subject and the experiences I had were amazing. For example, our geography trip was to the Rainforest to study plants, wildlife etc, when I returned to the UK our geography trip was to Milton Keynes to study housing density (says it all!!). And then I was no longer at the top of the class.
Although Oz still has crimes and bad points I don't feel it's to the extent it is here, and although you need to do this for you as well as your kids, you have kids to put them first and give them the best start in life you possibly can.
It won't be easy settling in, it will take 1-2 :lol: years and you will definately miss your family and friends, but as I keep saying to my hubby, treat it as an adventure, a new challenge, enjoy making new friends and visiting new places, after all you only live once.
Good luck, you'll be fine if you stick together and just enjoy it! Your son will beenfit enormously. :lol:
Hi the Winsors
Hope these few lines will help to re-assure you.We live in essex/london borders and have applied for visa's etc if we are accepted we will go to australia sometime this year to have a look at schools/houses etc to get a feel of the place.
We will be bringing with us our 13 year old son & hopefully our 20year old daughter(we will try to sell it to her when we come for holiday).We also have 2 older daughters both with new born babies, yeah that is the killer to leave the grandchildren(its usually the other way round lol).
Ok this is the way i see it,i am a london cab driver and i am working harder now than ever before,i have been working 12/14 hours a day in the london traffic dealing with ignorant selfish drivers,drunken louts,people who want to fight me and scum who throw bottles at the cab and kick the cab,and i put up with all this just to survive and pay my contributions to this country.I just think that as a strait person in this country you are penalised,i had 2 council guys rummaging through my rubbish the other day who warned me "if i dont re-cycle more i will be fined",they are gathering an army of inspectors who will come round our houses and individually asses us for council tax,so if you have a nice home in a nice area with maybe an extention and well kept garden you will pay the price,so tell me what is the insentive to make a nice home for your family and to bring your kids up as decent members of society,you would be better off on the 10th floor of a council tower block and signing on (no disrespect to the people who do,thats where we started).
As for the kids,well our 2 older daughters are established here and their husbands have good jobs,but we hope they will come to love australia when they visit and fully supportive of our plans,and our dream is that we will all end up there.Our20 year old is getting nowhere in a nowhere job so life can only be better for her with better prospects and the chance of maybe getting her own place ,something that would not happen here.Our 13 year old son is of the age now where he wants to hang out and be cool like his mates,we have so far been lucky as he goes karate 3 times a week,football and other activities take up his time.But what about when he starts wanting to go to pubs and clubs etc,i am terrified to think what it is going to be like her in a few years time,ever-increasing violance,stabbings,guns,and the people who are coming here with little or no respect for life and our way of life.
I have come to hate this country,the country i have lived all my life and for which my father fought for in the war,i hate the way this goverment have destroyed this country,and make no mistake it dosnt matter now who runs the country ,the scene is set.
I guess what i am trying to say is yeah go to australia and live your life for you and your kids ok there are snakes and sharks and things that can make your life hell but at least they are not running the country.
Any way thats my story mr&mrs Windsor i can only add that if you dont try it how the hell will you know,i dont want to be sitting on the rank at waterloo stn when i am a skinny old man thinking i wish i had moved to australia.
All i can say is good luck to you and your family whatever you decide to do.....Jamie :D :D :D :D :D
