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      Quote Originally Posted by snifter View Post
      Are you looking for some assurances or validation?
      I would reckon by the question that the OP is having a tough time away from family.

      My wife and I come from very small families who are not particularly close. We have found it pretty easy to settle. In my case I had lived my whole life (54 years) in SE England. Was happy enough there most of the time but so far have not missed anything or anyone. Skyped a fair bit at first - in fact I communicated more with family in the 6 months either side of moving than I had in years but it has returned to normal now. Rare!

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      I do t know why you think it is easier. I have no family here so if anything goes wrong, I'm in my own. Imagine trying to deal with cancer with no family or friends for support

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      Not in my case. I am an only child of only children so somewhat short on relatives but that hasn't made it easier for me to settle. As boganbear says being on your own is hard - wherever you are. Plus having no ties introduces the misery of choice.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Red Rose View Post
      It must make it so much easier for you to settle in Australia?
      What do you define as close? I was extremely close emotionally to my dad but not geographically. As a couple/family we didn't rely on any family members to provide child care etc., and were pretty much a self sufficient unit - which I believe helped in the settling process as we'd never relied on anyone else other than ourselves ... however, we had a close relationship with family members.
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      Quote Originally Posted by ali View Post
      What do you define as close? I was extremely close emotionally to my dad but not geographically. As a couple/family we didn't rely on any family members to provide child care etc., and were pretty much a self sufficient unit - which I believe helped in the settling process as we'd never relied on anyone else other than ourselves ... however, we had a close relationship with family members.
      I'd agree - what does "close" mean? We are a small family and I would say "close" emotionally but independent and self sufficient to the max. When I moved, to some extent it was a case of out of sight, out of mind but that didn't stop the "closeness". We have never been a family living in each others pockets - for me that would be overwhelmingly stifling - but I imagine if that is the life you are coming from them migration would be impossible.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Quoll View Post
      I'd agree - what does "close" mean? We are a small family and I would say "close" emotionally but independent and self sufficient to the max. When I moved, to some extent it was a case of out of sight, out of mind but that didn't stop the "closeness". We have never been a family living in each others pockets - for me that would be overwhelmingly stifling - but I imagine if that is the life you are coming from them migration would be impossible.
      i agree too. We have been a small family and have moved around Europe a bit, so it seemed unsurprising when our daughter went off to live in Oz. Doesn't mean we weren't close. The problem with Australia is that of course you can't do any of the little flights to see people for a weekend or to join a special celebration. We we're able to get back to Wales for my parents diamond wedding, for example, all in a weekend. Although I don't miss my daughter on a day to day level any more, the distance makes me sad. So I'd say we are close emotionally but not physically. If that makes sense.
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      I would turn it on it head and say that people who are very close to family can find it harder. But, not being close is no guarantee of settling. I am as far from close to family as a person is likely to be, but struggled.

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      Quote Originally Posted by AJ View Post
      Just because some families dont live in each others pockets doesnt make them disfunctional!
      I never said it did.

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      Quote Originally Posted by LovelyWA View Post
      Bit it of a disfunctional comment, to be honest, define disfunctional?
      I have met many people who have migrated who have no relationship with their parents. Haven't spoken with them for years. There has been a complete breakdown in their relationship for reasons they are usually unwilling to discuss. I would define that family as dysfunctional.
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      Quote Originally Posted by ADAVIDH View Post
      Are people who didn't spell dysfunctional dysfunctional? Google provides two definitions (hardly the world authority on word definitions but it's a starting point). The two definitions are: 'not operating normally or properly' and 'unable to deal adequately with normal social relations'. I think to define what is normal when it comes to a family relations is very hard to say and very subjective.
      I didn't mean to imply that the people were dysfunctional, but that the families were, in fact, I actually said that; and I do have mild dyslexia, but you have a pop anyway if it makes you feel better.
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