HI Scottiegirl, thanks for your reply.
The decision for me to return to UK was quite simple, my son gave me a gorgeous grandchild, so it was a no brainer. It was our only reason for returning because he would Skype us with his little girl sitting on his lap and I wanted to be part of her life, I missed not seeing her in person.
However, we feel cheated out of returning because our son has turned out to be selfish, uncaring and we hardly see him, despite living not even 1 minute away, he has also had a son too since our return. We have had many fall outs as we never or hardly get included in their lives now we are back. To this day, we cannot understand why it is like this, although his girlfriend has the say in everything and what she says, goes. Everything is all about her family, not ours, and he goes along with it. We have so much love to give to our grandchildren and we are not even allowed to pop round unless an appointment is made. He promises things and is always letting us down, not only us, but other family members too. My parents even moved into the area to be a part of their lives and they feel left out too.
So, you can get the jist of things and why I feel like I do. If we knew it was going to be like this we wouldn't have come back, but none of us have a crystal ball, so I have this situation right under my nose.
Our daughter, who is nearly 26, has been wonderful and if we ever return to Oz she said she will come too this time. But we will have to wait and see what the future holds.
I think you're angry with yourself and feel your husband took advantage of your vulnerability when you made the decision to move back to the UK.
Having said that, you can't expect everyone to upsticks and pack their life away when you say.
You need a shift of focus. Stop the blame and beating yourself up and enjoy the holiday you are able to have.
You are making your family feel they are not enough and it's not what you want. Embrace what you have. Throw yourself into a project that brings you back into the here and now and allow yourself to enjoy being with family and friends.
Allow yourself to just be.
I wish you good luck x
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You're not doing yourself any favours hon.
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I'm sorry its not working out as you planned but as ameber of the sandwich generation its not just about the kids. If you were to return you would have to deal with the reality of ageing parents and trust me that is not something that can be easily managed from a time zone 12 hours apart. Plus the reality is post Brexit your money will not go nearly as far in Aus as it did when you were last here. Tough but true. I suspect your unhappiness has more to do with the family situation and less to do with location. A holiday in Aus may just aggravate the wound, but you need a holiday. There are plenty of warm exotic locations that are not Aus, treat yourself
In regards to grandchildren, it is something I have worried about. Unfortunately as the mother to the son we get and will get left out of a lot of things as our daughter in law will,always be with her family and our sons will have to follow. We just have to realise they have their own life.
Whatever you decide I wish you all the best
If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present.
Imy definitely not depressed, just angry and frustrated.
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