tell your loved ones you love them

[kellyjamie]

(both men & women, sons & daughters -
need to read this)

BEING A MOTHER...

After 17 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to
take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She
said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves
you and would love to spend some time with you.'
* * *
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit
was my MOTHER, who has been alone for 20 years,
but the demands of my work and my two boys had
made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
* * *
That night I called to invite her to go out for
dinner and a movie.
* * *
'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?
* * *
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a
late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign
of bad news.
* * *
'I thought it would be pleasant to spend some
time with you,' I responded. 'Just the two of us.'
She thought about it for a moment, and then said,
'I would like that very much.'
* * *
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick
her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her
house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous
about our date. She waited in the door. She had
curled her hair and was wearing the
dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
Birthday on November 19th.
* * *
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an
Angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go
out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said,
as she got into that new white van. 'They can't
wait to hear about our date'.
* * *
We went to a restaurant that, although not
elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my
arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat
down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only
read large print. Half way through the entries, I
lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at
me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I
who used to have to read the menu when you were
small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and
let me return the favor,' I responded.
* * *
During the dinner, we had an agreeable
conversation- -nothing extraordinary but catching up
on recent events of each other's life. We talked so
much that we missed the movie.
* * *
As we arrived at her house later, she said,
'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me
invite you.' I agreed.
* * *
'How was your dinner date ?'
asked my wife when I got home.
'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,'
I answered.
* * *
A few days later, my mother died of a massive
heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't
have a chance to do anything for her.
* * *
Some time later, I received an envelope with a
copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place
mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I
paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I
could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two
plates - one for you and the other for your wife.
You will never know what that night meant for me.
I love you, son.'
* * *
At that moment, I understood the importance of
saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our loved
ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is
more important than your family. Give them the time
they deserve, because these things cannot be put off
till 'some other time.'
* * *
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back
to normal after you've had a baby.... somebody
doesn't know that once you're a mother,
'normal' is history.
* * *
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by
instinct .. somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
* * *
Somebody said being a mother is boring ....
somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager
with a driver's permit.
Somebody said if you're a'good' mother,
your child will 'turn out good'....
somebody thinks a child comes with
directions and a guarantee.
* * *
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a
mother.... somebody never helped a fourth grader
with his math.
* * *
Somebody said you can't love the second child as
much as you love the first .... somebody doesn't
have two children.
* * *
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother
is labor and delivery....
somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus
for the first day of kindergarten ...
or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'
* * *
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her
child gets married....somebody doesn't know that
marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a
mother's heartstrings.
* * *
Somebody said a mother's job is done when
her last child leaves home....
somebody never had grandchildren.
* * *
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so
you don't need to tell her....
somebody isn't a mother.

Pass this along to all the 'mothers' in your life
and to everyone who ever had a mother. This isn't
just about being a mother; it's about appreciating
the people in your life while you have them....no
matter who that person is.

[moving2melbourne]

Goy I am sat here crying now, lol:)

[the hutchies]

well that is beautiful you certainly got me blubbing...more so because i lost my mum 12 years ago and she was only 45...i was with her when she had her heartattack

Lisaxxx

[kellyjamie]

yep i was crying to! bless you lisa you,ll know just how precious life and loved ones are. i just think its good to remember those close to you,its so easy to get caught up in the immigration process we can easily forget how people around us are feeling, they are "losing" us in a sense as much as we are losing them x

[cartertucker]

I am in floods of tears now...

That is very emotional.

Kelly.

[roma 1]

i had read your post through 3 times and the tears are flowing now. i have no parents now but always told them i loved them and they told me. everyday my oh tells me and our daughter how much he loves us and we do the same.Time is the most important thing you can give someone you love.we spend much time together as a family because life is too short not too.
Thank you for the post ,
gail xxx

[calNgary]

Oh lisa i really feel for you thats mustve been so hard ,i lost my mum when i was only 12 weeks old, very sad but ive grown up knowing no different ,to have one and then have her taken away must be the hardest thing ever at least you were there with her.Thinking of you.
Cal x

[sanders family]

Thank you that was lovely i'm sitting here crying my eyes out and thinking of my mum who died when i was 16 and she was 42 and my beautiful children thank you.

[eddie&tina]

Great post Kelly



eddie

[kellyjamie]

my OH lost his dad back in march aged 58 and it was very very hard, but we knew for some time it was going to happen the c word, so it was a blessing in a way as it allowed my hubby to talk to his dad and tell him things and he told him 100 times everyday he loved him and that he would miss him, ill never forget being in the hospital and my hubby nipped to the toilet and his dad said to me, promise me you,ll look after my laddie for me!!!!! oh my god try not crying at that point! my hubby finds it very hard everyday but he can take solace in the fact he was able to tell his dad all he needed to , and we all know the cliche lifes too short but it really is his dad was our biggest supporter for going to oz so we will get there even just for him if nothing else