Dream blown out of water as OH has read NP.I wish I had not found this forum it has done so much harm. In the early days the threads gave positive & negative but in very contructive way but now those people who intentionaly spread or a single small minded bully who i expect got his visa refused is out to ruine it for most of us. It might of turned out wrong but we would of been happy trying. now i will never know.
Its a shame if you let the negative posters get you down! Is there anything particular that we can all help with?? What negatives are putting you off????
Every forum needs the "fors and againsts" of everything. Yeah there are posters that like to instigate a riot but you can normally wheedle them out and see the wood for the trees (if you know what I mean!)
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Joanne and Mark
Brisbane. (since Feb 2005) "POZZIE" - HAPPY AND LOVIN` IT
Hey, you have to be informed before you come to Oz, forewarned is forearmed as they say!1
BUT there,s a true saying also which I believe most of all!!
Better to have tried & failed than never to have tried at all
Its gotta be lifes philosophy!!
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. I know if its not for me in the end I'm not superglued so i can go back. But at least I know i'll have satisfied my curiosity instead of wondering "what if?"
I'm sorry guys, but if that really is the case then surely all the negative posts have done is save you a lot of money and heartache??
I'v been avidly reading them, and I am still just as desperate to go... i don't see how just a hand full of peoples opinions could change your OH's mind completely???????
Go and read some of the positive posts instead and give yourself a boost?? Have you been to Oz before?? I haven't so i'm reserving judgment until i get there, i'm hoping that after all those negative posts i'll be pleasently suprised!
When i read the negative posts, i decide wether or not i take them serioulsy by comparing myself to what i know about the person writing all the neagative stuff, and i'm pleased to say so far i think i'm nothing like them. So thier opinions merely make me laugh and pity them. They'll never be happy.
Listen everyone is different, everyone experiences their move to Aus in a different way. Others experiences may not necessarily be yours as we all enjoy different things and bring different life skills with us.
I am a really positive person but admit that the negative posts have been getting to me, so I try not to read them.
I AM a realist though, I know Aus has crime, graffiti, bad weather, high interest rates, low salaries etc etc BUT Im still going to give it a go because I want to see for myself.
My brother has lived in Aus for 17 yrs and LOVES it, he has been promoted through the ranks in the army far quicker than he would have here. He loves the outdoor life and scuba dives, paraglides, goes fishing, owns a jet ski etc and has far more opportunity to develop these types of hobbies . He has a fantastic life, is just building a very nice 5 bed house in a posh area in Brisbane and has 2 grown up children who have no intention of leaving Aus either. He arrived here in the UK yesterday as he is attending a course and said to me it scares him sometimes to think how different his life would have been had he NOT gone to Aus.
He did however talk about the settling in process, he had the "what have I done" moments, the homesickness, the feeling of everything being alien, from the food in the supermarket to not knowing anyone on tv, or where to find a decent garage etc. All that is NORMAL and nearly everyone goes through it, some push through it and some don't.
So sorry your OH has been put off, some people are more cautious than others and worry alot more about things.
Hope you find happiness whatever your decision
Angelcake
Oh dear, sorry to hear that, but emigrating is a life changing decision. If OH's mind was changed by a few neg posts by people unknown to you, then in the long run for you guys, finding this forum was probably a blessing in disguise.
Hi, Thats such a shame that a few negative posts would change your oh's mind. These are just one or a few peoples opinions are you sure your oh is not using these posts to hide behind his own real fears. You know want men are like, not very good at expressing themselves and worries.
I had similar conversations with my oh, he reads these negative posts and I think for a while he really thought oz would be perfect place to live, no crime, best schooling in the world etc etc you know Im saying........ but after a while he began to understand the saying "shame sh** but a shiner bucket" which I think sums oz up completely.
OH still wants to go as he wants an adventure in life, that he has never experience before, and why not.......lets go now....thats what I say.....
I agree with everyone else, you can't let other people make up your minds for you, as your mum or dad used to say when we were kids 'if so and so told you to go and jump off a bridge would you do it'.......do you get my drift??
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There may not be as many positives, cos those happy with their lives in Aus are out having a great time living their lives and dont feel the need to still come on these forums and moan.
Also, there are some, (not many) on here who are just unhappy with their lives and are negative people, if they can find something to moan about they will!!!
Ok I`ll apologise in advance if this is an unpopular view but I am getting sick of everyone complaining about the negative posts - it is a an open forum. I think posts aren`t necessarily negative - they are are what other people are experiencing and every bit as valid for them as anyone else.Instead of people always having a go about negative posts why not look at them objectively and see if you too could manage in that situation and what you would do differently. If people are put off so easily then do they really want to go?? It is a big , massive thing and not to be done lightly perhaps people already have that seed of doubt in them. We could all put on happy clappy posts but that isn`t reality and it does no one any good to think that Oz is the land of milk & honey - it`s not, it`s bloody hard work, you are giving up your entire way of life leaving all your friends and family and starting with a blank sheet. For some it`s worth it and make it work, others find find it`s worth it in a different way, in that they appreciate what they had in the UK, whether it`s M&S knickers or having family support. You as an individual have the power to take the positives out of every negative, even if the original poster can`t see it - trust me if you look hard enough you will always find one. By the way when Im talking about negative posts I mean ones where people are struggling financially, emotionally etc not the ones about Oz not having Tesco`s or people not wearing shoes in the shops - those are facts of life and not even worth registering on the scale of things!
