When someone utters these words IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN ALWAYS COME HOME it really gets my back up, I feel that they think it is just another of my whims, which I must admit, I have had quite a few great ideas in the past. I think they believe I will move there, not like it and come home.
We have sold our house and are taking everything with us and leaving nothing back in the uk. If things did get tough, it would be too easy to give up and come back if we had a property left in the uk.
I never think "if I don't like it I can always come back" because, I know, I will like it! Also as I am a Hypnotherapist, I can always hypnotise the whole family into loving it, although I'm sure I won't need to.
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Great attitidue Nikki!!
Like you, I think people think this idea of mine is another of my mad moments. I'm sure my mother in law thinks I have forced my OH into it and we will back within 12 months. I keep telling her a return for us won't be an option for a couple of reasons. One being money, two being uprooting the kids and damaging their education all over again, and three, I have no desire to return. If for some reason it doesn't work out, I would move to another state and hopefully find somewhere to be happy. We are a family of 4 with 2 kids, we don't have a huge circle of friends and tend to do a lot as a family, my sister will be following us out within a couple of years and I don't feel we are really leaving much behind. I have a best friend who I will miss terribly but who has family is OZ and will definately come and visit and I have an aunt who I hope will visit lots. Apart from that, I don't really see why I would come back.
After all, home to me is where my OH and kids are!!
When someone utters these words IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN ALWAYS COME HOME it really gets my back up, I feel that they think it is just another of my whims, which I must admit, I have had quite a few great ideas in the past. I think they believe I will move there, not like it and come home.
We have sold our house and are taking everything with us and leaving nothing back in the uk. If things did get tough, it would be too easy to give up and come back if we had a property left in the uk.
I never think "if I don't like it I can always come back" because, I know, I will like it! Also as I am a Hypnotherapist, I can always hypnotise the whole family into loving it, although I'm sure I won't need to.
Nikki x
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So true, home is where your partner and children are.
We seem to see our own families less and less, I think I have been doing this unconciously, so we are not depending on them so much. They too seem to be excluding us more and more, or perhaps its mainly coming from my side.
Now, whilst I would love to hypnotise all the co's into giving us all visas, perhaps, instead, we should send them some crates of red bull to liven them all up!
Perhaps the red bull will give them wings and our visas will in turn wing their way to the uk!
I think a lot of people go with the attitude that if they do not like it they can go back.
Its a good attitude to have IMO as you dont really know untill you have been here a few months that you can stick it, knowing the option is there helps a lot of people settle in Oz.
When someone utters these words IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT, YOU CAN ALWAYS COME HOME it really gets my back up, I feel that they think it is just another of my whims, which I must admit, I have had quite a few great ideas in the past. I think they believe I will move there, not like it and come home.
We have sold our house and are taking everything with us and leaving nothing back in the uk. If things did get tough, it would be too easy to give up and come back if we had a property left in the uk.
I never think "if I don't like it I can always come back" because, I know, I will like it! Also as I am a Hypnotherapist, I can always hypnotise the whole family into loving it, although I'm sure I won't need to.
Nikki x
Hi Nikki this was our attitude...we also sold everything in Uk for that reason....and we are now going back after 18 months.
Im not saying it will happen to you...but you never know what the future holds...people are just trying to be nice .
I think a lot of people go with the attitude that if they do not like it they can go back.
Its a good attitude to have IMO as you dont really know untill you have been here a few months that you can stick it, knowing the option is there helps a lot of people settle in Oz.
I agree with this. When we were close to leaving the UK, my mum made me promise that I wouldn't be afraid to go back if life wasn't as we hoped. She told me that her and my Dad would be proud of me whatever happened and it wouldn't be a failing if we did go back.
Felicity
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I quite agree - having the option to go home does make it easier to settle here. It is once you know that you have burned all your bridges - financially, emotionally etc - that it can become difficult because you know that you are stuck here for ever. Moral - never burn your bridges!
We have enough funds to return if we wish, but what I was trying to say, is that we didn't want to make it too easy to give up without giving it a good try. Nobody has even mentioned judging us if we come back, they would have no right, I need no approval and have not asked for any.
Yes, If god forbid we hated it, we would pack up and move suburb, state, country just as we have moved around here.
When people are unhappy in Australia is it always the country, I am sure that sometimes there are other issues that people thought a fresh start would fix. But issues are only made worse by the isolation from familiar surroundings and family. If you are seeking a new life in a new country, I am sure you need to make big changes inside.
I have been through a lot in the last few years and emigrating I know will be a breeze compared to that!
The person who was most emotional about our move was my friend, who cried buckets whenever Aus was mentioned and she always used to say we could come back. After a few months of her saying it, I very gently said "but I don't think we will" ... I think that's when it really hit her that we would be gone for good.
Ali
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in the past. I think they believe I will move there, not like it and come home. 
