I just wanted to let you know that I had similar problems with my eldest daughter, the doctor told me she would eat when she was hungry enough......
She is 18 now and 5ft 11in so it didn't affect her growth.
There is some really good advice for you from the other Mum's, I do hope it makes you feel a bit better.
April
Thank you April , i do feel alot better now i have shared it with other mums , the info they have given is great ,its great to know that you can come on here and ask questions about anything and there is always a friend there to help you out . your all the best thanks karen
Just thought i would let you all know i took afiya down to feed the ducks before and she gave them her bottle . I went and bought her a new beaker for her milk she will not entertain it , and she ate all her tea to night , but i still have the night bottle problem to go yet ... thanks again girls .
Hi Karen,
Just take one step at a time, sort out the meals then deal with the night bottle. I found with Libby altho she is only 15 months she would not take any kind of drinking bottle. When we arrived in OZ she refused to drink it was hot she was constipated and I was fraught. I was frightened she would get dehydrated with the climate etc etc. I bought tommy tippee drinking cups, a mum typr drinking cup nope wouldnt have it, I bought some really cheap sippy cups for $1.99 and found she took that although it wasnt great. My older daughter has a sports type bottle for her juice/water so I bought one these for Libby and she loves it, she drinks so much better with it.
When I weaned Ella from her bottle at 18 month I started to put the milk in a "mum" drinking bottle (from Asda)they have soft silicone spout and she seemed to take that ok and within 4 weeks of changing it she came off it altogether.
Keep at it, sometimes you just have to be strong and ride it through.
Hiya, I have to agree with Monty and the others. I too am a children's nurse but also have 4 children. My now 5 year old has never really been interested in food, even when I first weaned her. She is now 5 and taller than my son who is 7. She doesn't eat any cooked food apart from sausages so tea times are a nightmare. What I did with her when she was around two was this. Stopped milk drinks during the day. She had one to go to bed and one AFTER breakfast (milky breakfast). She had her milk in bottles but juice in a beaker. She would never eat lunch so I always had a bowl of healthy finger foods that she could pick at during the day with no pressure on her to eat a meal. ((I also have a 2 year old who loves her food but she loves nothing more than when I put a blanket on the floor and we have a picnic, she doesn't eat much lunch (makes up for it at tea time) but will eat well if we have a picnic, especially if her teddies 'eat' aswell.)) This food I used to take away at 3pm so she didn't fill up before dinner at 5pm. This did work really well and when she started to go to nursery I changed this to her having lunch. I felt really stressed when she didn't eat and OH does now but I have found that if I don't make a big deal of it she eats more. The more I focus on her eating the less she does, her way of getting attention!! What I am tring to say is don't worry to much, your child will not starve themselves, ensure that when she does eat you offer healthy food like fruit etc then they will get what they need. At the end of the day if your daughter is happy, active, healthy and thriving then she is getting what she needs.
HTH to put your mind at rest.
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Hi (((((Karen)))))
and I just want to say that there has been some excellent advice given here, the key to dealing with this is to stay calm (I do get the impression that you are), children are very good at picking up anxiety from adults, it is very important that it does not become a battle of wills, which at this age it so easily could.
Children of this age like to feel that they have some control over things so offering limited choices can work really well, say a yogurt or a stick of cheese? raisins or dried apricot?
and to be consistant, this means that the same routine is followed by everyone Mum, Dad, who ever looks after her.
and as has already been said there is no quick fix, this is a long haul
stay strong hun, you will get there
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Looks like you've had some sound advice from lots of the mums on this site. Chrissy, Em, Trakki and Mrs C have given you common sense advice. I also have personal experience my oldest son who is now 24yrs old is a fine strapping six footer, was a fussy eater and would pick like a sparrow. He's fine, fit and healthy but he worried me so; but he ate when he was hungry and didn't starve. By the time I had my fourth and youngest child now 15yrs I learned to be much more relaxed about things. Children are very clever and they pick up on your anxieties so try to relax, take it one step at a time and be kind to yourself.
Love Monty
P.s Trakki what is it with childrens nurses, we all seem to have hoards of kids, I know so many with 3s and 4s!!!!
P.s Trakki what is it with childrens nurses, we all seem to have hoards of kids, I know so many with 3s and 4s!!!!
I know, wierd isn't it, the majority that I work with have 3,4 or more children, you'd think that working with children it would put you off although I must admit that we stopped at two then I persuaded OH to have one more and then Number 4 was a real surprise. But I have to agree with my first 2 I was quite worried about their eating and Jack 7 is a picky eater, Sophie 5 as mentioned before doesn't eat cooked food apart from sausages. When in got to Niamh, despite her being born prem and having lots of problems I was alot more relaxed with the weaning and she eats everything in sight. Joe now 6 months is just weaning and I can't fill him up!! breast feeds for england and on 3 solid meals aday.
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My youngest son is 3 and since he hasnt had a bottle he want drink milk at all, where as when he had the bottle he to went through a period of time that he would only want milk.
Ijust try him every know and again, but make sure he has other dairy products, but know he is addicted to cheese.
Some times it very hard to get the balance right.
It will pass, all my 3 sons have gone through something similar, My eldest would only eat sausages for about 3 months, when he was 2, it drove us mad, but it passed, now he cant stand them, funny little things arnt there.
My advice would be Stay calm, dish her dinner up let her decide if she wants it, if no take it away. and try to reduce the milk and replace with juice.
