Does anyone else leave the room when the messages from the relatives come on during 'Wanted Down Under'? On the last series, I made myself watch them to have my own reality check and cried every time . Now that the decision is made and we are defo going, I can't watch them anymore, it's just too much!
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But how selfish was that chap today saying that the family who wanted to go are selfish! Cant be doing with that kind of emotional blackmail. He has to think of his wife and children! But they just seemed to want them to stay around to look after them in later life...
My thoughts are for them to retire over with them, obviously they need to go for a better life which is a serious decission.
I think even if families are devastated about you (us) going they should keep their emotions a little back for oursakes , children and others.
But how selfish was that chap today saying that the family who wanted to go are selfish! Cant be doing with that kind of emotional blackmail. He has to think of his wife and children! But they just seemed to want them to stay around to look after them in later life...
My thoughts are for them to retire over with them, obviously they need to go for a better life which is a serious decission.
I think even if families are devastated about you (us) going they should keep their emotions a little back for oursakes , children and others.
Ellie
I agree, I can't believe how selfish some of the parents and friends are. It's a hard enough decision as it is without being put through an emotional guilt trip. Why can't they send then off with their blessing!
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parents, do you know what my mum is just like that. She had a right go at me for about 2 hours when i told her. When its time to go she is going to be a nightmare and wont care how she acts in front of the kids, which will really upset my 7 year old. I dont want anyone waving us off on the day i just want to go.
Hi Nicky
I know exactly what you mean. Very few family members have been pleased that we have our visas (my bruv and oh sister were pleased for us).My mum doesn't even talk about it even though we are hopefully only weeks away from going. I know famiy are upset but we are upset too as leaving everyone behind is the hardest part of leaving and I don't think the family realises just how stressful this emigration process is for us. I also feel that I can't moan about how I am feeling as it is us that have made the decision to leave, so a part of me does feel that you have to 'put up and shut up' if you know what I mean. Also I'm with you about having nno one at the airport to see you off. I would find it too much and I certainly don't want to be getting on that plane in a state! We are in the middle opf planning a leaving party and I think that will be emotional enough.
Mandy x
This is such a hard thing to go through. When I first told me mam she said thing unimaginable that I never thought I would hear, but afterwards I realised that she thought she would never see us again. We go on this fantastic adventure and the poeple behind, their lives never change they just loose something. In this case it was a daughter and the only 2 grand children.
I can say this now as I have been thought it and at the time I was distraught, but now we are here, M's mam comes in April (with me back form uk) and my mam is hoping to coe out in October hopefully.
My mum has taken it hard , she doesnt like me talking about it , my dad keeps saying to the kids you wont go its all aload of rubbish and the mother in law well she blackmailed the kids saying you will never see me again , took me ages to talk the kids around again , I wouldnt mind but the mother in law dont see the kids that much anyway. no one could talk my kids out of going now though they can not wait . I know people deal with there upset in diffirent ways but they have to remember were all hurting as well ... karen
. Now that the decision is made and we are defo going, I can't watch them anymore, it's just too much!
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do you know what my mum is just like that. She had a right go at me for about 2 hours when i told her. When its time to go she is going to be a nightmare and wont care how she acts in front of the kids, which will really upset my 7 year old. I dont want anyone waving us off on the day i just want to go.
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