It has taken me a while to feel i can write this post,as i feel sad and had my confidence knoked big time.
I would just like to say to people who meet up with anyone to be honest from the start then you wont hurt thier feelings.
I met with someone twice,and thought we were getting on fine,but then text messages were being ignored,and an arrangement to meet never took place with no reason given.
It really hurts when that sort of thing happens,and it makes you think there is something wrong with you as a person.
When people arrive they are feeling homesick,sad and lonely.So some put a post in asking to meet new friends.
If you meet someone and you feel you have nothing in common with them,please be honest with them,they would prefer that than you just ignore them.
Honesty is the best policy,and i believe you should treat people the way you would like to be treated.
Arrr Mandy don't worry it is other peoples loss and thats the way to think about it.
Some people are just wrapped up in their own little worlds and don't even realise what they are doing, I'm sure your new found friend doesn't know how you feel and maybe something cropped up or they are having a bad time and are keeping quite.
I'm famous for reading into things & have just got in to trouble recently for not replying to friends text message!!! which is basically I haven't paid the bill for my phone, she doesnt know my home phone no.!!! Nothing init!! Just leave it for awhile and try again or else talk to me, I'm anybodies mate!!!
Trouble is i suppose, is that people have stuff of their own to worry about as well. I know that im the worlds worst for maybe not getting back to people and always surprised when i get a rash deal off them the next time i meet them.
Thing is, everyone has grief and problems in life and to be honest, if you only just met the person, maybe they werent able to let you know that.
Dont take it to heart, you're in a great place..i'm sure theres loads of people like you who want to meet up with people in the same situation i'm sure.
But really...don't read so much into it. As i wrote earlier...i do it all the time and its not intentional.
It has taken me a while to feel i can write this post,as i feel sad and had my confidence knoked big time.
I would just like to say to people who meet up with anyone to be honest from the start then you wont hurt thier feelings.
I met with someone twice,and thought we were getting on fine,but then text messages were being ignored,and an arrangement to meet never took place with no reason given.
It really hurts when that sort of thing happens,and it makes you think there is something wrong with you as a person.
When people arrive they are feeling homesick,sad and lonely.So some put a post in asking to meet new friends.
If you meet someone and you feel you have nothing in common with them,please be honest with them,they would prefer that than you just ignore them.
Honesty is the best policy,and i believe you should treat people the way you would like to be treated.
Hi Mandy ..... I understand your feelings about this - it would knock anybodys confidence.
This is really hard, but things will get better, then you will look back on this and be stronger for the experience.
Someone once told me "theres nowt wrong with you mate, its all the other F@@@@@@@@@" Ive never forgot this ... !
I was pretty low, but met me missus and we have a happy family life now - had to kiss a lot of toads along the way mind, but that makes our history.
Good Luck !
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They do know as i sent a text the day before we had arranged to meet asking if it was still on and got no reply.A few days later after lots of ignored texts i sent a text to say i finnally get the message that she does not want me as a friend,that i did not know why,but i wished her all the best in the future,and i would always be here if she ever changed her mind. That was 5 days ago and still nothing.So i will try to meet new friends in a few months i think.Do not want to go through this again really,not when im still feeling fragile after the big move.
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Hi mandy
well done for writing this post, yes people should be honest but it takes a secure person to be that honest
I would think this person is now feeling embarrassed at what they have done
you need to put this behind you and know that you will meet other people who you can be friends with, but it does take time to build those friendships, don't let this stop you making other friends
on the other hand, giving them the benefit of the doubt something could have happened in thier life that puts you way down their list of prioritys
chin up girl
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They do know as i sent a text the day before we had arranged to meet asking if it was still on and got no reply.A few days later after lots of ignored texts i sent a text to say i finnally get the message that she does not want me as a friend,that i did not know why,but i wished her all the best in the future,and i would always be here if she ever changed her mind. That was 5 days ago and still nothing.So i will try to meet new friends in a few months i think.Do not want to go through this again really,not when im still feeling fragile after the big move.
Sorry Mandy, I thought the friend was a guy and went down the wrong track.
This is bound to knock you, but you will find your feet - and give yourself some credit as you have achieved, and been through a lot to get where you are now.
Well done you for that.
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