You are certainly not alone. I have been here for 4 years (Brisbane) and still get homesick at times. Everything was fantastic for the first 5-6 months, we say it was the 'honeymoon period' and then it hit like a ton of bricks. I found myself walking in the city at lunch time (out from my job) and finding myself crying .... bet people though 'what a crazy woman' but i could not stop. The weirdest feeling was knowing that i would not see anyone i knew or went to school with. Having lived in the same area from 16 till we migrated i never went anywhere without knowing someone.
But dont despair, it gets better.... honest. I think people will always have 'bad' days and we will always all miss our family and friends, but the homesick days get fewer as time goes on.
The worst times are special birthdays, births and Christmas (sorry but Oz is just not the same at Christmas) but the plus points of being here outweigh any of the bad times.
I became a migration agent so i now help people to get over here (so it cant be that bad) but i know how people feel during the process and also when they arrive so I try to offer as much support as I can.
If you want to meet up for a coffee and chat I only live in Westlake (near Indooroopilly) so pm me and we can meet.
You are certainly not alone. I have been here for 4 years (Brisbane) and still get homesick at times. Everything was fantastic for the first 5-6 months, we say it was the 'honeymoon period' and then it hit like a ton of bricks. I found myself walking in the city at lunch time (out from my job) and finding myself crying .... bet people though 'what a crazy woman' but i could not stop. The weirdest feeling was knowing that i would not see anyone i knew or went to school with. Having lived in the same area from 16 till we migrated i never went anywhere without knowing someone.
But dont despair, it gets better.... honest. I think people will always have 'bad' days and we will always all miss our family and friends, but the homesick days get fewer as time goes on.
The worst times are special birthdays, births and Christmas (sorry but Oz is just not the same at Christmas) but the plus points of being here outweigh any of the bad times.
I became a migration agent so i now help people to get over here (so it cant be that bad) but i know how people feel during the process and also when they arrive so I try to offer as much support as I can.
If you want to meet up for a coffee and chat I only live in Westlake (near Indooroopilly) so pm me and we can meet.
Oz is definately not the same for Chrissy!!! TRy telling an aussie that!
Hi Mandy..my heart really goes out to you:)..my husband felt exactly like you are the first time we were in Perth and it was such a hard time..i couldn't really understand it, because even though i did miss some things, i had grown up in Perth and had some connection to it..he'd grown up in a place all his life where he had family, long-term friends and the streets and shops were so familiar to him..now he was in a place where the only people he knew were myself and the kids, and my brothers..he didn't know where anything was..all i can say is it took 'time' to pass, and as the days and months went by he started to feel better..he got to know workmates and the nature of his job meant he had to start to know the area of Perth well very quickly..now he looks back on his experiences and is so proud to have been able to go there..he will never call it home, but it has changed him and his perception of his home..he loves Australia..you have been so brave to even give Australia a try because it doesn't suit everyone...i just think you should give yourself a bit more time as this is a huge thing you've done..don't be so hard on yourself..take care and hope you do feel better very soon.. Pingpong
hi there,
I have just been reading your post and my son was standing behind me asking if I had posted it because what you are going thru is exactly how I have been. I thought I was the only one feeling like this cos most people I have met have only told me the good bits and I felt so lonely and thought I was going mad cos no-one else seemed to feel this way. Anyway I came over last year with my hubbie and son, and could'nt settle, so I went home to UK for a holiday and had a great time, everyone told me that that was to be expected, but I knew better!!!!! and so decided to pack up and go back, when the time came I felt really unsure but went anyway cos hubbie said that I had driven up him the wall, got back to UK, so many things had changed, friends and family still there but doing their own thing, and I felt so lost, did,nt belong in Oz but now did'nt feel like I belonged in UK. Hubby and son came back a few weeks later, we all found it difficult to get jobs, and I found myself missing here, so guess what we all came back, the container of furniture has had a round the world trip, cost us a fortune, and we're now in another rental unpacking. HAHA Feels like Christmas has come soon. I still feel cut off and lonely, also feel that sometimes I just want someone to talk to who understands and can become good friends with. Feel more positive than last year and will hopefully get my head round it all. Am on the Gold Coast but can always meet up or e-mail with you. I made contact on this site a few weeks ago and let that slide but am determined to try this time. Went to a meet up with another site a few weeks ago, but ended up on our own all night, but we are going to put our names down for this one and take it from there. Hope to see you there and if anyone sees a generous size cockney gal and short fat welsh guy it's us!
we have only been here 11 months and yes its been realllllllly hard.we have our families ring up every week and they have been out so when they left it took us a few days to get back to normal,but you have to sit back,and sy to yourself "why did i come out here in the first place".you will find friends and everything will fall into place.we are in the same boat as you when it comes with friends.we have lots of aquantancies {if thats how you spell it** but we know it will all fit into place.keep your head up and keep focused why you came over here in the first place.
hi there,
I have just been reading your post and my son was standing behind me asking if I had posted it because what you are going thru is exactly how I have been. I thought I was the only one feeling like this cos most people I have met have only told me the good bits and I felt so lonely and thought I was going mad cos no-one else seemed to feel this way. Anyway I came over last year with my hubbie and son, and could'nt settle, so I went home to UK for a holiday and had a great time, everyone told me that that was to be expected, but I knew better!!!!! and so decided to pack up and go back, when the time came I felt really unsure but went anyway cos hubbie said that I had driven up him the wall, got back to UK, so many things had changed, friends and family still there but doing their own thing, and I felt so lost, did,nt belong in Oz but now did'nt feel like I belonged in UK. Hubby and son came back a few weeks later, we all found it difficult to get jobs, and I found myself missing here, so guess what we all came back, the container of furniture has had a round the world trip, cost us a fortune, and we're now in another rental unpacking. HAHA Feels like Christmas has come soon. I still feel cut off and lonely, also feel that sometimes I just want someone to talk to who understands and can become good friends with. Feel more positive than last year and will hopefully get my head round it all. Am on the Gold Coast but can always meet up or e-mail with you. I made contact on this site a few weeks ago and let that slide but am determined to try this time. Went to a meet up with another site a few weeks ago, but ended up on our own all night, but we are going to put our names down for this one and take it from there. Hope to see you there and if anyone sees a generous size cockney gal and short fat welsh guy it's us!
Hi, i have sent you a PM,i cant believe i did the same as you.The PM says it all.
Take Care
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