Hi All, well we have arrived here in Brisbane, and I want to go home, please please some one tell me this is all normal, after going through the trauma of saying all the goodbyes, I thought once the plane landed, we would be able to look ahead to our new life. We arrived on Wednesday, and we are staying in Carina for 10 weeks, in that time we need to find a place to settle, we have two young children (5 & 2) so we also have to find a school for my 5 year old. We have had a drive round and so far have not fell in love, we entered Oz without having ever visited before, are we mad !!!!!!! I am missing my family so much, and there is not a day gone by where I don't wounder what they are doing. Can anyone reckomend areas to look at, I know it is all down to personal preference, Jimboomba keeps appearing, we make take a drive there, my husband is a plant fitter, so hopefully he should be able to find work in most areas, at the moment he has two maybe's set up, but these look like they would be working either out of crestmead, or located in Central Brisbane. I feel so heavy hearted, this could be the shortest migration ever.
YOU ARE NOT MAD!!!
We arrived in Brissie almost three years ago. We are in Sinnamon Park in Brissies west and we love it there. Good schools in the area too.
FIrstly, come to the POMS IN OZ meet up on the 1st December and put faces to all the people that talk on here. I will be there with my OH as will many more. Pm me if you want details.
You WILL feel homesick. You will never get over the homesickness!! Its natural, human nature to want to be close to the ones you love. Speaking from personal experience, I did not feel homesick until NOW! Yeah you heard me three years down the line, it has hit me like a freight train. Not missing the place you understand, missing the people, mainly my parents. Its true, you dont know what you have til its gone.
I am lucky as my parents are coming here to live so I know that they will be with me but until they get here, its hard!
you WILL learn to live with the homesickness. Get yourself hooked up to webcam, skype, write letters email daily - do whatever it takes....but DO give yourself time.
Hi. Having read your recent message I thought I'd just write to tell you that I emigrated to Australia from the UK 17 years ago having never been there before, enjoyed the first 6 months then decided to come home again 6 months later, which I did. However, there is hope! With the benefit of hindsight and several subsequent visits to Australia to really explore the country I realise now that I never gave it a chance. So much so that we are now towards the end of the emigration process again and we will be going back to Australia next year! I know exactly how you feel right now - I had the same feelings way back when! But... you have to give it a chance and accept that you will be very homesick for at least 12 months. It really is a land of opportunity and it is so true to say that "It is what you make of it!" I don't think that the future in England is particularly bright! We have young children and we are emigrating as much for their futures as for our own. Be aware that there is a strong possibility that you could return to the UK only to regret it and wish you had given it a proper go in Australia. It happened to me! Stick at it and at the very least give it enough time to make a rational decision. I sound like I'm preaching don't I? I am sorry, I don't mean to. Obviously you will make a decision based on what is best for you and your family - I just wish someone had made me think twice all those years ago! Good luck, be positive and try to be patient.
Best wishes, Neil.
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Hi Mel don't be sad, you Know the grass always looks greener on the other side and as we have now got the webcam set up we can see each other all the time and as you have realised I will still ring you daily, to me you are only round the corner so my darling daughter you keep that positive head on and it will only get better.Your little family is the reason you went out there and as long as you have them that's all you need.Love you loads and we will speak tomorrow. Sorry David I bet you thought you had got rid off your mother-in-law only jesting and I know you will get me back and while I'm on why did you say you could'nt record Ghost Whisperer for me!Hugs for my Munchkins and you two as well
Hi Mel don't be sad, you Know the grass always looks greener on the other side and as we have now got the webcam set up we can see each other all the time and as you have realised I will still ring you daily, to me you are only round the corner so my darling daughter you keep that positive head on and it will only get better.Your little family is the reason you went out there and as long as you have them that's all you need.Love you loads and we will speak tomorrow. Sorry David I bet you thought you had got rid off your mother-in-law only jesting and I know you will get me back and while I'm on why did you say you could'nt record Ghost Whisperer for me!Hugs for my Munchkins and you two as well
Oh what at lovely mum you are! Think i'm going to need to get the tissues out!
Its when you read posts like this that you realise that everyone goes through all the same emotions, i cried my heart out when my sister moved to oz. I had to really pull myself together and think god its not like shes died! I can pick up the phone and call/text her whenever i want. Its just such a change for the people who move to oz and also for the friends and family that are left here, and it all takes some time to adjust.
What can I say, all your kind words, thank you so much, this site is such a fantastic thing, to know that people are going through the same emotions, we will most defianetely make the PIO meeting, I think I saw the details before we left the UK. Its such a strange feeling and it is so hard to explain what you are going through and I do tend to forget about the feeling of those loved ones we have left behind. My sister lost her son, sister and neice and nephew all in one fell swoop, and my mum lost her daughter, son in law and grandaughter, grandson all at once as well. Not lost, like you say, we have not died, just opening another door of opertunity, this way they may see places they have never seen. Thanks again everyone, I understand I will have to take each day as it comes, we visited Wynumm (East of Brisbane) & Caloundra (Sunshine Coast) yesterday, both beutiful places. Thanks again, I feel like hugging you all, that woukd be a lot of hugs !!! LOL. Mel, Dave & Family x
I just wanted to post and say how great it is that your family are members of poms in oz and using the forum publicly to try and cheer you up. The first few days here for me were strange. I found I couldn't talk about my family at home without wanting to cry. When the phone rang on our first weekend I was praying it wasn't my mum because I didn't want to cry. As it happens it was Mum and I didn't cry!
Hang in there hun, as others have said it is a really scary time but really give your new life a chance. I'm sure you'll start to feel more positive once you get out and about meeting people and when your belongings arrive you'll feel more at home.
Take care,
Felicity
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Hi Mel.
Its hard to start with,we all know that,give it a chance it will be worth it.Me the wife and 3 wee ones 4 5 & 6 have been in the Gold Coast for 2 months,it is fantastic.Better lifestlye,great family time,beaches,climate,great schooling and friendly people.We earnt more money had a lovely house great family and friends all back in the uk,but we now enjoy being together,no pressures,we are all happier.Give it a go,dont give up,it is made for people willing to give it a chance.
Remember you only have one shot at the title,give it your best shot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BLUE FOR LIFE
Colin
What can I say, all your kind words, thank you so much, this site is such a fantastic thing, to know that people are going through the same emotions, we will most defianetely make the PIO meeting, I think I saw the details before we left the UK. Its such a strange feeling and it is so hard to explain what you are going through and I do tend to forget about the feeling of those loved ones we have left behind. My sister lost her son, sister and neice and nephew all in one fell swoop, and my mum lost her daughter, son in law and grandaughter, grandson all at once as well. Not lost, like you say, we have not died, just opening another door of opertunity, this way they may see places they have never seen. Thanks again everyone, I understand I will have to take each day as it comes, we visited Wynumm (East of Brisbane) & Caloundra (Sunshine Coast) yesterday, both beutiful places. Thanks again, I feel like hugging you all, that woukd be a lot of hugs !!! LOL. Mel, Dave & Family x
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Hi Mel, Havent had a chance to have a good ole read on here for a while, and I have to say it is a good site!! Sorry to hear your feeling down hearted and at least you have the PIO meet to look forward too!
Made me smile when I read about how you hadnt visited before and it wasnt like you thought, it was like that for me too when we visited Brisbane although thats were we are going to lay our hat too!
You can feel low where ever in the world you are, ive had a rubbish few months and looking forward to new people, views and cultures.
Keep us updated on how things are going
Hi Mel don't be sad, you Know the grass always looks greener on the other side and as we have now got the webcam set up we can see each other all the time and as you have realised I will still ring you daily, to me you are only round the corner so my darling daughter you keep that positive head on and it will only get better.Your little family is the reason you went out there and as long as you have them that's all you need.Love you loads and we will speak tomorrow. Sorry David I bet you thought you had got rid off your mother-in-law only jesting and I know you will get me back and while I'm on why did you say you could'nt record Ghost Whisperer for me!
Hugs for my Munchkins and you two as well
nowty
