I told my sister we are trying to go to OZ and she didnt take it well at all . It was very upsetting one of her sons was out so I never got to talk to him but my sister told him and its broken him little heart. Tommy my sisters son is like one of my own he is like a big bro to my little boy and were always having him over to stay . I feel like im doing something very bad but I still wont to leave the UK to hopefully find a better life for my wife and two kids!
I knew it would be hard telling people and that were going to miss and be missed but this is hard! Im going to see Tommy after work today to tell him my self but I dont know what to say to him.
This is one of the most difficult bits and you'll be met with lots of different reactions. You have to remember why you want to go, and that you can't live your life for someone else you have to do what's best for you.
It isn't easy and from time to time you'll feel really guilty - come onto PIO and we'll give you all the support you need
Ali
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Got to agree with Ali its the hardest part of moving here ,but its worth it ,if he hasnt got a webcam maybe buy one for him before you leave and set it up for him ,with msn etc my kids see some people more than they did when we lived there,good luck
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Hi Darren
I have been in exactly the same position as you but with my parents. My mum made me feel so guilty about wanting to make a new life in Oz. There are times when you have got to put yourself first , think about your kids and whats best for them. I got some great help off PIO." My mum still thinks I won't leave!" I do get upset sometimes thinking how hard it is going to be to leave them, but we can't put our dreams on hold to please others. If I don't do it now I'm not sure I will ever go.
Good Luck
Hi when we told my family that we were thinking of emigrating they all laughed and said that we would never go through with it,that was before we sent off the TRA back in august 06,well we are only a few weeks from getting the visa now( fingers crossed),and still nobody thinks we will go,infact the subject is hardly ever mentioned,there have been no tears yet,but like i said they don't think we will go,but we will.
It does help to have this site and to hear that were not the only ones to have these promblems! We have only told my mum and stepdad and my wifes mum and dad who have been quite supportive ( which was a suprise!) Ive still got my real dad my grandad who at the age of 95 years young I know I will never see again. Plus countless freinds and more family.
We know its some thing that we HAVE to do moving to OZ seems like a shineing light for a life thats already a happy one in the UK! We just belive that there is more to life and we can improve it 10fold (hopefully!) by moving down under!
No matter what reacation we get its not going to stop us in our quest BUT telling people is soooo VERY hard and I guess there is no easy way of doing so.
I will just have to keep smiling and hiding my/our tears and fears and tell them about how we can and will stay in touch and that we will have to save up and bring them out on very long hoildays in the Ozzie SUN!!!
I think most of us know exactly what you are going through. My mum is 80 this year and is having a real problem with it. Mainly because it means I'm taking her grandchildren away from her. This week she said.that she doesn't approve of what I'm doing and how would I feel if she had decided to move to the other side of the world?!!!!!!!(Didn't like to say " I would have said good on ya mum.If that's what you want to do..DO IT")
In the end I had to say, look, I don't expect you to approve but quite honestly I'm not asking for anyones approval. This isn't about you, it doesn't always have to be about you!this is about me and my family and doing what's right for them.
I can't just sit around waiting for her to die before feeling that we can make a decision (sorry if that sounds hard) because it will be too late for us by then
I know its hard, but like peeps have said, you have to do what's right for you and your family. If you wait for everyone to approve of what you are doing you'll have to wait for a very long time! Let people live their own lives and make their own decisions but they have to let you live your life too.
Big Gugz cummin at ya!
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I think most of us know exactly what you are going through. My mum is 80 this year and is having a real problem with it. Mainly because it means I'm taking her grandchildren away from her. This week she said.that she doesn't approve of what I'm doing and how would I feel if she had decided to move to the other side of the world?!!!!!!!(Didn't like to say " I would have said good on ya mum.If that's what you want to do..DO IT")
In the end I had to say, look, I don't expect you to approve but quite honestly I'm not asking for anyones approval. This isn't about you, it doesn't always have to be about you!this is about me and my family and doing what's right for them.
I can't just sit around waiting for her to die before feeling that we can make a decision (sorry if that sounds hard) because it will be too late for us by then
I know its hard, but like peeps have said, you have to do what's right for you and your family. If you wait for everyone to approve of what you are doing you'll have to wait for a very long time! Let people live their own lives and make their own decisions but they have to let you live your life too.
Big Gugz cummin at ya!
Couldn't have put it better myself,well said dibbers.
Telling family your leaving
