Shes gone...sorry needed to share....please dont read if feelings wobbly!
Well as I type my best friend, husband and little girl are in the departure lounge at Manchester Airport waiting to jet off to their new life in Perth.
I have had a weird weekend being happy, staying positive for her, feeling sad and not getting upset as I knew she would have enough emotion without mine too. On Sat we all went out along with our girls for food and talked about things we did years ago and how we are going ot meet up in Airlie Beach hopefully by the end of the year when we arrive. However we are going to Brisbane and they will be in Perth.
She told me that nothing prepared her for saying goodbye last nite, she has been staying with her mam for few days with her 2 years old. Her mam has totally blanked what is happening and just kept having digs in at her. She told me things were so strained she just wanted her mam to put her arms around her, she tried so much to gain some sort of relationship with her in the last few days, but failed. She told me that due to her reaction to her leaving (she has no brothers or sisters) she was shell shocked last night as her mam was screaming at the car for them not to leave. Maybe she had just shut it out.
She also left behind her 18yr old daughter, she wanted to go to OZ at the start of the application but then met a lad so decided not to go, although she is on PR so she can easily follow them. Her daughter has just text her to say that she wished that she had gone with them. Bless her.
I wish them all the luck in the world, its maybe give me some insite into how our friends/parents will feel when we leave. I'm so not looking forward to it
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Oh Em how sad. I can only imagine that your friends Mum reacted as she did out of guilt/denial and the realisation that she was in fact going. I'm dreading the goodbyes, but it's a part of this incredible journey that we are all making.
Our thoughts are with you at this sad time hun but keep you pecker up as you are making the right decision, Huge (((((((((((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Hy
Sorry to hear you friend left like that with her mother.
There must be lots of people on this forum who will have and have had similar feelings.
On a personal note i cannot wait for those 747 wheels to come up and set me on my way. My partner says i am heartless but hey i have family outside my immediate one and i have to do whats right for them....don't i ?
I know there are people i won't see ever again but i will meet other people i would never have met, sorry to sound a bit cheesy here but " We are only here once " so make something of it.
Well as I type my best friend, husband and little girl are in the departure lounge at Manchester Airport waiting to jet off to their new life in Perth.
I have had a weird weekend being happy, staying positive for her, feeling sad and not getting upset as I knew she would have enough emotion without mine too. On Sat we all went out along with our girls for food and talked about things we did years ago and how we are going ot meet up in Airlie Beach hopefully by the end of the year when we arrive. However we are going to Brisbane and they will be in Perth.
She told me that nothing prepared her for saying goodbye last nite, she has been staying with her mam for few days with her 2 years old. Her mam has totally blanked what is happening and just kept having digs in at her. She told me things were so strained she just wanted her mam to put her arms around her, she tried so much to gain some sort of relationship with her in the last few days, but failed. She told me that due to her reaction to her leaving (she has no brothers or sisters) she was shell shocked last night as her mam was screaming at the car for them not to leave. Maybe she had just shut it out.
She also left behind her 18yr old daughter, she wanted to go to OZ at the start of the application but then met a lad so decided not to go, although she is on PR so she can easily follow them. Her daughter has just text her to say that she wished that she had gone with them. Bless her.
I wish them all the luck in the world, its maybe give me some insite into how our friends/parents will feel when we leave. I'm so not looking forward to it
Em x
Hi Em,
Went to a family do the other day and my dad was talking to my oh about how hed seen a slide at homebase and was going to buy it for our son but then remebered we wouldnt be about,and how he keeps getting really down about us all going. Dont think it was intentional but it gave me the wobbles... (again),then i read this without reading the title and then laughed when i saw your warning after. Have now had enough wobbles for one weekend and still feel im doing the right thing. hope my folks dont chase after my car screaming tho....how embarrasing(joke):biggrin:
How awful for her, although at least she now knows why her mother didn't react as she'd expected earlier. Her mum must be feeling terrible, but I guess she's finally shown how much she loves her. What a terrible picture to take with you on that long journey though; your poor friend.
My best friend left for Melbourne about six months before we came to SA. It's really hard saying goodbye, but I'm sure you will see her again. Clair and I have met up a few times now, it's always good, always relaxed and it's really like there isn't any gap; we just pick up where we left off. We speak regularly on the phone too. And I now have - I'm obviously a bit fickle*- a new best friend (I have three bestest friends; one in the UK, one in Melbourne and one here!).
So, put away those sad thoughts Em and co. It seems sad, but not only can you keep your friends in the UK, but you'll undoubtedly find more over here! So just look forward to it!
:wub: and fluffy things,
LC.
*Just incase TB is about, that's fickle, not fick. OK?
Hi Em,
my thoughts are with you and your friend. I am trying not to think too much about crunch time at the moment coz it seems so far away.
One thing Phil and I have decided is that all our goodbyes will be said on other peoples terriatory, so it is in our control when to walk away, and also we do not want anyone to wave us off from home or the airport....we want it to be an exciting beginning of our adventure, not a tearfull emotional time where the girls are crying their little hearts out saying that they dont want to leave. I couldnt cope with that!!!
im sure your friends mum will deal with it in her own time. And you will be over there before you know it (its nearly the middle of april already)
I feel for your friend Em, how awful. If she needs to get in touch with anyone here in Perth, PM me and I'll give you my number she can always pop round or chat
Shes gone...sorry needed to share....please dont read if feelings wobbly!
