Hi folks, Having a major dilemma today. I was due to go down south at the end of month to tell my family our plans for oz. I wanted to tell them face to face and not over the phone.
Having spoken to one of my sisters last night, she tells me that my other sister is ill again. When I say ill the bottom line is she is an alcoholic. In the summer she spent time in detox then hospital as she ended up with severe jaundice. She lost a hell of a lot of weight and was basically like a frail old women when I last saw her back in August. Anyway, she came out of hospital and we all thought she was beginning to head in the right direction to get better. However, last night I found out that she has started drinking again and we think she started as soon as she came out of hospital. My brother in law has found hidden vodka bottles around the house (again) and she opening admits she is drinking 2 bottles of white wine a day. We have been told by her counsellor to prepare ourselves for the worse, especially my 15 year old niece. Basically, if she continues to drink at that level every day, she will be dead by christmas, as her liver just cannot take anymore.
We are all at a dead end as to what we can do to help her. Im so angry with my sister for putting my niece through all this and but at the some time Im so sad for her that she feels so angry and bitter with everyone that she has to do this to herself. My mum is yet to be told the seriousness of the situtation. She will know at the weekend.
However, at the risk of sounding selfish and thinking of my own worries, how the hell can I tell my family that I am planning on moving to oz when we have all this going on.
Im just not sure what to do. I mean if I tell them, my mum going to feel like she is losing 2 daughters in one go. But how long do I put it off for, I mean my alcholic sister, is so up and down, we have been going on like this for nearly a year now with her, and it could go on like this for, well I don't know, days, months, years, we don't know.
I just don't know what to do. Do I go ahead and tell them like plan or should I wait and see what happens with my sister, but if the worse happens to my sister, again it just wouldn't feel like the right time to tell them.
Sorry to waffle.