jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Pushed me into giving up my dream job and sell our dream home to be unemployed in Uk. Has anyone else had their wife do that to them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parley Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Plenty I think. Often the wife misses her parents too much, which is understandable I think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Pom Queen Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 It sounds like you are struggling being back and that in turn may put pressure on your relationship. I hope you can sort things out and that you get a job soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 If I had been thinking straight I should have taken unpaid leave then could have gone back to Australia to my old job Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dxboz Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 How long have you been back jase? It takes time to adjust. I hope things get better for you and you find employment. I am sure things would look much better when you have a job Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helz980 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Do you resent her for 'making' you do this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Yeah I hope so too. Do you know the ironic thing ? I was team lead at a University here (I know govt job) and I interviewed a guy for a admin position. When I left he was given my job that I'd built over 5 years. She still doesn't realise what she's done to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest66881 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 **** man thats horrible, why is she being so selfish if you don't mind me asking? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helz980 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 I thought you had stayed in oz while your wife went back with the kids? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 No we all went back stupidly to Uk giving up well paid jobs here sadly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Just felt horrible back there I hated every minute Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 You are back in Aus now though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parley Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Yes but his wife and kids have refused to follow him back to Aus, so he is here on his own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest66881 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Predicament that be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parley Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 I think even if I hated the wife (not saying he does), I would go back for the kids. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parley Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Jase, Do you think she ever intended to follow you out ? or was she just saying she would and had no intention of doing so ? I really feel for you, but I guess you need to decide what you are going to do now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sustain Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 What part of UK and what sort of job would you be seeking Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 My wife's in Yorkshire but have no plans on moving back there. I feel at home in Australia and wish we could start again here as a film. Unfortunately my wife is very stubborn. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sustain Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Tell her the new thai girl at work has graciously offered to cook you a authentic thai meal at home Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Guest66881 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Have you told the kids whats going on between you and your wife? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest21235 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Think about what you really have to do and what you really want to do and see what elements of both columns you are willing to compromise on. Then I guess you can present that to your wife and see if she can compromise on some of hers. You never know, you might just agree on something. Nevertheless, I wish you all the best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quoll Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 I remember your angst when this all happened originally and I vaguely recall that it was you that drove the move back at the time. I'm sure, as always, there are two sides to every story and one can change the reality in ones mind to make one feel better about decisions made. You're back in Aus where you want to be, draw a line and get on with the life you want to have and let your family get on with the lives they want to have. Have you thought about seeing a counsellor to help you through all this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sammy1 Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 It must have been a huge decision to choose a country over your family. You have made your choice and your wife made her choice to live in her home country. Time perhaps to just get on with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Her family don't really want her around cause she has caused a huge rift. I remember her phoning me at work asking me if I've handed my notice in. I knew it was a huge mistake then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasepom Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Well she promised shed come back here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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