I recently saw a comment that stated that 'Emigration is a selfish process'. I can understand if one person doesn't want to leave their home in England/Australia to move to one or the other, but does so because their OH wants to. I don't understand how that groups all emigration as selfish? There are plenty of families that move over together, both wanting the same thing. Myself included, my OH and I are moving to Aus where he was raised and it certainly won't be a selfish move on my part because we are both in a loving and trusting relationship and talk about the things we want, we don't hide anything. So I'm sorry but I don't understand how such a generalised statement can be made? Certainly sounds like a very uneducated one.
Aside from selfish partners, how is emigration itself selfish? Perhaps you could argue that it's selfish because you're taking children or future children away from their grandparents or uncles, etc. But would you consider family and friends selfish to ask you to stay because of that? Are children happier with their parents, or with their grandparents? I certainly know that had I had a child in Australia after moving there, the child wouldn't miss people it hadn't met before.
Perhaps selfish because you're taking away from people in the UK/Aus? Because they can't enjoy you or your kids anymore whilst you're there? Seems like that's a selfish act on the people who are staying though... if you love something, let it go and be happy.
So I agree that in some aspects you could say that people who emigrate that are taking loved ones with them would be a selfish act, but certainly not all, and I do think selfish is too strong a word. Is it selfish to follow what we'd like? With one set of grandparents in Aus and one in the UK, I know I couldn't stay in either country without being accused of being selfish because I would always be depriving one or the other of future grandchildren.
But surely a black and white statement like 'emigration is a selfish process' isn't necessary. Especially not on a forum that's directed at poms in Australia, whether they want to return or not. Certainly not very open-minded to make others think that by emigrating they will be selfish people making a selfish decision... A little like telling someone not to get the bus, because you might be taking up someone's seat who will aboard later on in the journey. Sometimes you have to think about what's best for your partner and yourself and not let other people try to keep you from your dreams. Because that might make those people the selfish ones. :)