Interesting, and valid. But I do see why people from Africa settle in easier and adapt to Aussie it is a similar way of life. No benefits there at all. No seasons etc
Hi I just joined this forum as I am in a dilemma about whether to go back to the UK or not. In my heart, it's where I want to be, for many reasons. I moved out here 10 years ago with my husband of 1 year, mainly to be near my sister who had been out here after marrying an Aussie guy over 20 years ago. My marriage failed after 2 years, leaving me with a newly built house and feeling a bit shell shocked. I had a good job in education though, so picked up the pieces and go on with life. Met husband No 2 - all great, until that went the same way as the first one, leaving me totally on my own, with large mortgage, 4 dogs, debt and very few friends (only acquaintances, nothing really deep). Hardly see my sister. I talk to my long standing friends in the UK, who I have known since school and Uni days, on MSN and webcam, and miss them like mad. I always have really, ever since I got out here. I miss England for many reasons, but most of all I miss my friends. My other sister is moving out here in November with her partner, but not sure where she will settle as they are going to go where the work is, and that could be a long way from where I am. I have been back to the UK once (2 years ago) for a visit, and despite going back in Jan/Feb/March, enjoyed it, though did miss the Aussie weather a bit!! I have NO idea what to do - I have no real friends here as have found it hard to make friends, and there will never be the sort of friendships like the ones I have in the UK. I am beginning to feel as though it's more important to be where your friends are than where the lifestyle is - could I be right? I get homesick very easily, despite having a great job here, and living in a beautiful part of Australia (south coast of South Australia). Anyone got any hints or ideas!!!!? I am an Australian citizen now, but does that mean I still have dual citizenship? Also, if I go back to the UK, my dogs come with me!!!! That one's not negotiable!!
2 failed relationships, and no real friendships after 10 years ..... hmmmm ..... and relationships on hold for 10 years "back home" have inexorably moved on ...... hmmmm ...... and you think that moving countries this might improve your sense of wellbeing? I would suggest not. The issue seems to be one of relationships, not country. But on the other hand, if you don't try it, you will never know.
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Hi to you. I first must say that I can't answer any of your questions but I am sure lots of people on this sit will.
You sound very depressed so my first bit of advice would be to have a check up at the doctors to make sure its not just that.
You say you can never make friends like the ones you have in England why? Almost all of the current friends that I see on a regular basis are not the ones I made from school. Every time I start at a new place of work I make new friends for example. Try getting out and socialising more and actively look for friends. Perhaps other PIO members are near you and would like to meet up for a chat.
I many be wrong but if you were to come back to the UK wouldnt the dogs have to be in quarentine for 6 months, so you would be without them for all that time anyway.
To go through one marriage break up i so stressful ( I know because I have!) but to go through two must be unbearable. Could you not move nearer either of your sisters because that way you will have someone close and have aready made group of friends to start mixing with until you find your feet.
If having said all of this you know that you do desperatly want to come back then of course follow your heart. I am sending you lots of hugs and kind thoughts take care!
2 failed relationships, and no real friendships after 10 years ..... hmmmm ..... and relationships on hold for 10 years "back home" have inexorably moved on ...... hmmmm ...... and you think that moving countries this might improve your sense of wellbeing? I would suggest not. The issue seems to be one of relationships, not country. But on the other hand, if you don't try it, you will never know.
Thank you for your reply. However, I have to say I wasn't exactly expecting this sort of reply - I thought replies might be in the context of practical advice and not some comment on my ability/inability to form relationships. With all due respect, you do not know the details of the 'failed relationships' and I am actually quite appalled that someone who doesn't know me should pass judgement on this without knowing the full story. To anyone else who might feel like making some sort of diagnosis on my state of relationships/mental health - this is not why I am on this forum; I was only trying to find people who may have had some similar experiences!
I agree actually,Docboat:Don't bother replying to posts if you cannot show some empathy,especially if someone is willing to share some personal story?Very inconsiderate I feel?
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Hi I just joined this forum as I am in a dilemma about whether to go back to the UK or not. In my heart, it's where I want to be, for many reasons. I moved out here 10 years ago with my husband of 1 year, mainly to be near my sister who had been out here after marrying an Aussie guy over 20 years ago. My marriage failed after 2 years, leaving me with a newly built house and feeling a bit shell shocked. I had a good job in education though, so picked up the pieces and go on with life. Met husband No 2 - all great, until that went the same way as the first one, leaving me totally on my own, with large mortgage, 4 dogs, debt and very few friends (only acquaintances, nothing really deep). Hardly see my sister. I talk to my long standing friends in the UK, who I have known since school and Uni days, on MSN and webcam, and miss them like mad. I always have really, ever since I got out here. I miss England for many reasons, but most of all I miss my friends. My other sister is moving out here in November with her partner, but not sure where she will settle as they are going to go where the work is, and that could be a long way from where I am. I have been back to the UK once (2 years ago) for a visit, and despite going back in Jan/Feb/March, enjoyed it, though did miss the Aussie weather a bit!! I have NO idea what to do - I have no real friends here as have found it hard to make friends, and there will never be the sort of friendships like the ones I have in the UK. I am beginning to feel as though it's more important to be where your friends are than where the lifestyle is - could I be right? I get homesick very easily, despite having a great job here, and living in a beautiful part of Australia (south coast of South Australia). Anyone got any hints or ideas!!!!? I am an Australian citizen now, but does that mean I still have dual citizenship? Also, if I go back to the UK, my dogs come with me!!!! That one's not negotiable!!
Come home girl!
If you get your dogs done for rabbies now and stay in Aus for the six monthes after blood test then they will get a doggie passport and will be able to come home with you on the plane.
It will be hard for you coming back as things have changed but friends and family are far more important than things.
Thank you for your reply. However, I have to say I wasn't exactly expecting this sort of reply - I thought replies might be in the context of practical advice and not some comment on my ability/inability to form relationships. With all due respect, you do not know the details of the 'failed relationships' and I am actually quite appalled that someone who doesn't know me should pass judgement on this without knowing the full story. To anyone else who might feel like making some sort of diagnosis on my state of relationships/mental health - this is not why I am on this forum; I was only trying to find people who may have had some similar experiences!
I am mortified! I certainly did not mean to offend!
I certainly did not mean to offend!
