Going back after only 8 weeks!!

[Shkurka's]

Originally Posted by bohlesover

Thanks for that, it is very hard to settle, and I have just had my first trip back to UK, not sure if it was the right thing to do, I have come back and feel very unsettled again! I have tried to find friends in these part but it is proving very hard, I am a very outgoing and sociable person, work is proving an even harder task! it seems for work that you did in UK is not recognised here, unless you have a certificate here....at a cost! so any poms in Cairns please look me up. My daughter has just arrived from UK she is 25 and already she wants out! it is not as easy as you might think trying to settle in another country, and I have now been here nearly 3 years....will it ever feel like home??

I will be in Cairns for Christmas and new year and would be interested in finding out more about your experience there. I do know a few people friends and family may be I could link you up with some new contacts!
Hopeyou have settled back in to the life again.

[lezo]

Originally Posted by caznik

mornin peeps (well it is here in leeds), i spent 10 years in melbourne.
came back after 16 months - really missed my parents in scotland, lasted 6 months and went back to melbourne for the rest of the duration, been back now17 years and miss oz like something silly. got grandkids in uk now - makes the decision harder on wether to leave them here and follow my heart back to oz.
Hard choice to make but i never thought my grandkids would be here so quickly, thought i could get the kids back to oz after my dad died, before they all started sprouting out babies,but all happened same time.

hi just wanted to say we moved to melbourne 4 years ago and lasted a year, i had 2nd child only 6 mnths old. I had always worked and had a social life before 2 nd child. Any ho i wasnt good and we came home to liverpool although oh from here i am scottish. We now want to go back and regret coming home although at the time maybe had no choice as was bad for our relationship the way i was. We have 3 daughters aged 8 4 2 and perm res visa runs out in may 09.

[kali02]

Originally Posted by earlswood

No..plenty of aussies in London I have met working in bars who are living perpenant in the UK through marriage of parents... I love winter and especially xmas and I am never depressed at the weather in the UK as it does not stop me doing anything I want to do...never to hot and never to cold makes for a perfect climate IMO....you say short days in the winter in the UK being depressing, what about OZ when I go home from work in the dark summer or winter...how depressing is that
And for some the clouds get BIGGER not smaller belive me...horses for courses but IMO Oz does not compare to the UK in sooo many ways.

No idea what you do for a living seeing as you always get home in the dark, but there's only a couple of hours less sunlight at the height of summer in Melbourne (end Dec-mid Jan) than there is in the UK (June), and most of the difference is due to sunrise being much later in Melbourne (around 6am in Jan as opposed to 4.45ish in June in the UK).

I think I can do without that extra hour and a bit in the morning before I'm even thinking about waking up!
It does set a half hour earlier in summer though (8.45ish in Jan v 9.20ish in June in the UK). Then again, I can sacrifice that for the chance that I might actually get to see the sun during the day.

Besides, on the otherhand you get more daylight in winter in Melbourne with sunset at approx 5.10pm in June as opposed to 3.50pm in November here. So, if you like doing outdoors stuff all year round, Aus wins!

I know summers in the UK aren't normally that bad, but what on earth happened this August?!

[steveNem]

Oh you poor thing!! I totally know how you feel. I have moved countries twice in my life. I am aussie born and raised and moved to the UK 10 years ago and missed home terribly in the first few years. Still do. I feel like Im missing out on my little brothers life hes growing up thinking of getting married etc. And I have also lived in Brazil. A country where I knew no one and didnt even speak the language!! I had not known homesickness like it. I felt unbelievably low all the time. It was afterall my decision to be there.

However, it does pass. Things can get better. Or not really better but you get better at dealing with the emotions that it brings.

Im sure you have thought long and hard about your decision (probaly about nothing else) . I wish you all the best with your decision.

[owdgrandad]

Hi all.I emigrated to Oz in 1970 and had the time of my life.
i left Oz in 93 after 23 years, i had lived in Melbourne met a lovely( and she still is) Ozzie girl we got married , moved up country to Swan Hill bought a business, had 2 boys and enjoyed a wonderful life.
But as so often happens we just got so tied up in the business we just grew apart, nobody else was involved it was just one of those things.
I decided to move back to Melbourne as a mate offered me a job.All went well for a while then one night sitting in my flat enjoying a beer or two i decided , hey its time i visited the family in the UK, i hadnt seen any of them for 20 years.
So i teed up a few weeks holiday from work and headed off, it was great , caught up with a lot of old mates, spent many a night at my old pub , went to watch my beloved Stoke City with my brother, it was great.
As it does all things must pass, it was time to go home to Oz, i was ready , id had my catch up and felt fullfilled and content, little did i know how it was to affect me on my return, i was mare than happy with my life in Oz, i had a casual girlfriend, i saw my boys every couple of weeks, things could not be better but there was something pulling me back to the UK, i dont know what it was because while i was there i thought , now i know why i left.
Anyhow i did return to the UK.
After a while i met a lady , a friend of a friend, and we started seeing a lot of each other , to cut a long story short we got married after 6 months , she has two sons from a previous marriage and with my two we have all we need kids wise,!!.
I had my boys over from Oz on three occasions for hols and the loved it .
I feel im tending to drift a little bit here but stick with it.
My OH and i decided on reaching sixty we really didnt want to stay in the UK as really its getting to be not a nice place to live , what with the crazy cost of living and the whole way of life being eroded by the government and the PC brigade, so we have moved over to France, i feel its a good compromise as my OH has her boys and grandkids in the UK and my boys are still single and on the move, as they tend to do in Oz.
So now im very happy here in France, i listen to 3 MP radio on the computer , read the Herald/Sun and The Age, and listen to the footy, Go North Mellbourne, my heart is still in Oz but hey it could be worse, i speak to my boys and my ex on Skype and we keep in touch via email, i cant ask for more can i, the weather here in central France is equal to Melbourne, summer at least , and the wine is cheap.
Im planning on going over to Melbourne for crimbo to have a beer or two with my boys , the world is so small nowadays there is no reason in the world we cant all keep in touch, or visit.
But just before i go , if anyone can come up with a cure for home sickness, they will be a millionaire, its the strongest emotion i know and i will never blame anyone for giving in to it.

cheers all and votre sante.¬!