I know they say time is a great healer but in all honesty i cant give it any longer. I would be the first one to laugh and say that 8 weeks is not long enough. I speak to family & friends daily and bought me mam & dad a webcam, but when i see them it just makes me feel worse.
I got a job when we arrived but i still didnt fit in, i really dont know what i expected when we got here. I could go back for a holiday but i still dont think this will improve anything.
At the end of the day i tried it and i know that it's not for me, shame about the other half and poor bloody cats.......
Hello you,
i felt exactly the same as you are feeling now when we moved to brisbane last year. after four months i was beside myself, couldnt deal with the loneliness and my partner couldnt get a job. (hes an engineer and got no response from thirty applications). I said to my partner after spending thousands of pounds, its time to go back because the thought of being stuck was unbearable. I booked the flights and my partner and i both went back to our old jobs in west yorkshire.
Now we are both unhappy, feel failures and want to go back to try again to brisbane, i am upset because he wanted to stay in oz and i just made the decision and that was that.
All i can say to you is do whats right for you, life isnt long enough, australia dosent suit everyone. If you return and want to go back to australia, even if its expensive you can save and go again! Your family are here and will always be here for you no matter what and iam sure will support you with every decision you make.
take care annemarie x
I am new to this site but I have lived in Aus now for 30 years. Its funny no-one likes a new place because people like familiar things, I left England with my parents and we lived in Africa, New Zealand and then Australia. My mum was so homesick it was awful and no email, phone was expensive and could not just nip back. Then I married a geordie and went to live in England again and I hated it when I arrived there could not wait to get back to Aus. Then we came to Aus to live and I hated Australia because I had got used to the UK by then. Now I love it of course and have been back to UK and would not live there now as we are used to the wide open spaces here and the way of life.
My husband works with lots of brits and one of them up stakes and went back to UK after 10 years here, then he had to come back again and has stayed ever since.
Nowhere is perfect, we only remember the good things about places, its what we make of it and how we approach it. Gosh I had plenty of experience with my parents and it was hard but its life and living in Australia with many other immigrants has given us a great life and our children have no desire to live in UK. Of course we miss family but its good now because we have email, video links and skype and can be in touch just as much as if we lived there.
Just thought i'd say a quick hello and see how everyone is getting on. Dont tend to come on here now as i want to forget about OZ for a while. Everything is going well, got my old job back plus other half got a job at the NHS.
Still living with parents saving some dosh, also got used to explaining why we are back....
Anyway all the very best for the future, and thanks once again for all the many kind replies that you gave.
Just thought i'd say a quick hello and see how everyone is getting on. Dont tend to come on here now as i want to forget about OZ for a while. Everything is going well, got my old job back plus other half got a job at the NHS.
Still living with parents saving some dosh, also got used to explaining why we are back....
Anyway all the very best for the future, and thanks once again for all the many kind replies that you gave.
Ta ta for now.
Hey...stick around...I want some unbiased views of what it is like back home now.....apart from the weather
hi
mY OIPINION I THINK THAT YOU HAVE BEEN SO BRAVE AND YOUR OH VERY PATIENT.
WELL DONE ON GIVING IT A TRY AND WHO KNOWS NEXT TIME IF THERE IS A NEXT TIME TRY A DIFFERENT PLACE IN OZ MAY BE BRISBAIN WASN'T FOR YOU.
AS YOU SAY YOU BOTH ARE STILL YOUNG AND PLENTY OF TIME BUT MAKE SURE IT IS BEFORE KIDS ARE INVOLVED AS I THINK THAT THIS WOULD BE HARDER.
GET SAVING AND PUT THE LAST MOVE DOWN TO EXPERIENCE.
GOOD LUCK WITH WHAT EVER YOU DECIDE LIFE IS TOOOOOOOOOOOO SHORT
TAKE CARE
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Some of these postings are heartbreaking ..... we all go through so much mentally before we even make the initial decision to go to Oz, we then make the emotional step of telling our nearest and dearest what we plan to do ...then comes the expense and the growing tensions as we wait and plan and cope and cope yet again before all plans are made and we go ..... and follow our dream, to then find for varying reasons it just isnt right, it isnt what we wanted, home isnt Oz it is somewhere else.
Sometimes it is braver to be honest enough to say Oz isnt right for me ... and go home. Than to continue to struggle and be unhappy.
I truly hope I dont go through what many of you have ..... I am down to less than 2 weeks before the packers arrive and I am honest enough to say I am nervous about it all.
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Hi i'm new to PIO today...been in Brisbane for nearly 5 months and I absolutely agree with what B2B wrote after 8 weeks - in fact it could have been me that wrote it. I have committed myself to 12 months and feel that it is only fair to my husband and myself to review it after that time.....but oooohhh it is so hard and i know that if my lovely patient husband said OK that's enough i would be on the first plane back to Brum.
This is no doubt a beautiful country but i feel that some things aren't meant to be .....anyway we will see.
I also think that the Australians are hard nuts to crack - ... maybe thats just me!!!!!!!!
Anyway - if there are any other lonely POMS / BRUMMIES out there please respond and tell me its all going to be alright..... cus i cant see it at the moment....just feel sad all the time.
I wondered if there were any Pom Clubs, Brum Clubs etc in Brisbane - the City would be good and Eastern suburbs would be fantastic .
Looking forward............my husband keeps telling me the glass is half full.....but i keep drinkin!!!!!!!!
Oh dear,
Can't help you either way but just wanted to say someone is bound to come to your rescue.You will get loads of support from fellow PIO folk,so you are not alone!It probably will get better as time goes on,but only you know how you feel,take care xxx
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