Think hard before giving it all up in Aus ...

**Chantel** · 10-07-2012, 08:18 AM

My family are also divided. I try to avoid my step dad, my (half) sister doesn't talk to me, my uncle doesn't talk to my grandparents or any of his brothers and sisters, half of my cousins don't talk to each other...it's a mess! I agree, you can chose your friends but not your family and I have created my own loyal family out of the friends that I have made. It's not the people who surround us because they have to that defines us, it's the relationships that we build from scratch based on a love for common ground that do.

**TheSally** · 10-07-2012, 11:29 AM

@Paul1Perth, we did have birthday parties with friends as we grew up I was speaking more of my parent's birthdays. It was only when I started dating that I went to someone elses house for Christmas otherwise it was just our family. Of course it could always be a case of the grass is always greener, but I wouldn't be the only person to suffer from that :) It's only my perspective. The rellies don't have to be perfect I just want the chance to get to know them that's all.

**Aussie86** · 10-07-2012, 01:10 PM

@Sally: That's good that your family are ok with you making the move. I think it makes things a lot easier on you and your husband. Mine weren't happy at all when we told them we were thinking of relocating. We haven't mentioned it since and things seem to have settled down a bit. My husband and I have decided not to mention it to them again until we are about to book the flights because the reaction was so bad (tears, accusations etc). When are you moving? Good luck. I hope it all works out for you

**Sunshine111** · 10-07-2012, 01:12 PM

Originally Posted by TheSally

@Paul1Perth, we did have birthday parties with friends as we grew up I was speaking more of my parent's birthdays. It was only when I started dating that I went to someone elses house for Christmas otherwise it was just our family. Of course it could always be a case of the grass is always greener, but I wouldn't be the only person to suffer from that :) It's only my perspective. The rellies don't have to be perfect I just want the chance to get to know them that's all.

thanks for your post is really interesting hearing another perspective, wonder if we hadn't of come back home when we did, whether it would have been one of our kids writng the same post. We returned last August my eldest was 5 yrs, youngest 1 yrs. My extended family are also less than perfect but some of it is about getting to know your roots.

**Flake** · 10-07-2012, 07:23 PM

Great Post, I can certainly relate!
Finally made it back to the UK! no jobs or sunshine as yet but still loving it. yes its stressful as there are so many unknowns but i'm sure things will work out one way or another. My OH is an Aussie so big move for him, but i feel positive this is the best way forward in solving the issue of where to live long term. I really hope now that we are here that we can settle into life and give it a fair go. I do miss Sydney in lots of ways, (which i can now appreciate) but i do like that i no longer have the burden of loathing and loneliness that i had in OZ and i can start valuing things objectively. I think both places are great places to live, and only time will tell where we will want to be long term. I think the best thing anyone can do in these types of situations, is to give it a go, in both places and work out what suits you best. I do think though, that you need to listen to your head as well as your heart- which is easier said than done! wishing anyone in similar dilemmas the best of luck!

**rooneycymru** · 11-07-2012, 01:46 AM

Hello..

I have decided to move back to the UK in December or March after only living here for 3 months. I have a 309 Spousal Visa.

I suppose the main reason is Work, or lack of it... I have been lucky in the fact that NHS Wales have given me a year career break (My UK job is Contracts Support Supervisor Admin)

In the time I have been here I have applied for well over 100 jobs from basic data input to jobs at my UK banding and in this time I have only had 5 I/Vs and only one has got back to me which was a Band 3 data input clerk to tell me I didnt have enough data input experince, which i just laughed at!!

The Aussie wife is in work all day and about to start college 3 nights a week, which is great for her but just means I will be staring at the walls 3 evenings a week as well as the day.

I am not homesick or missing my friends as its only been 3 months, but I am missing working (Not been out of work for 15 years) and the Oz process of applying is starting to get me down - I really dont know what else to do? As most of the jobs I could do with my eyes shut!!

So I have decided to return to the UK, after all I had a resonable job, a local pub and 3-4 holidays abroad every year...

I am Not Convinced its the place for me... and the Grovelling for jobs is a bit Tiresome...

Sometimes the Grass is not always Greener - I believe that Now!!!!

Rant Over

R*

**Chantel** · 11-07-2012, 08:15 AM

Originally Posted by rooneycymru

Hello..

I have decided to move back to the UK in December or March after only living here for 3 months. I have a 309 Spousal Visa.

I suppose the main reason is Work, or lack of it... I have been lucky in the fact that NHS Wales have given me a year career break (My UK job is Contracts Support Supervisor Admin)

In the time I have been here I have applied for well over 100 jobs from basic data input to jobs at my UK banding and in this time I have only had 5 I/Vs and only one has got back to me which was a Band 3 data input clerk to tell me I didnt have enough data input experince, which i just laughed at!!

The Aussie wife is in work all day and about to start college 3 nights a week, which is great for her but just means I will be staring at the walls 3 evenings a week as well as the day.

I am not homesick or missing my friends as its only been 3 months, but I am missing working (Not been out of work for 15 years) and the Oz process of applying is starting to get me down - I really dont know what else to do? As most of the jobs I could do with my eyes shut!!

So I have decided to return to the UK, after all I had a resonable job, a local pub and 3-4 holidays abroad every year...

I am Not Convinced its the place for me... and the Grovelling for jobs is a bit Tiresome...

Sometimes the Grass is not always Greener - I believe that Now!!!!

Rant Over

R*

Sorry that it hasn't worked out for you so far. What about your wife? How does she feel about going back to England?

**rooneycymru** · 12-07-2012, 12:15 AM

Thanks Chantel... wife is not happy bout returning to UK!

But, Big But ...... I still have 6-9 months here so anything can happen, as long as i dont go completely insane :)