Hi there. I went through the same process in 2007. We applied at the end of 2006 to migrate. At that time I had been marrid to my second husband for 3 years (together for 5). My ex husband had our 3 children (then aged 17, 16, 12) to stay with him every other weekend. At first all of my children were keen to go to Australia. As the time drew closer my eldest decided she didn't want to go and my middle child (son) decided he wanted to stay with his dad, finish school, go to uni and then would decide (he was a very focused student). My youngest daughter desperately wanted to come with us but her father wouldn't agree. we went to court (a 7 month process) - had independent court officers speak to my daughter to determine her feelings etc. We eventually were given leave to take her with us but under very strict conditions - unlimited telephone calls (at my expense) to her father, details of school reports/medical reports etc for her father kept up to date and the biggest one was that we had to pay for her to return to the UK for the month of January (Australian summer holidays) each year to stay with her father. We agreed, got permission to go and migrated in October 2007. Sadly my daughter didn't settle and eventually returned to the UK after only 9 months (strangely enough the eldest came out for a working holiday, met and Aussie and has now been here since Dec 2009). Very up and down - a huge emotional rollercoaster. Having now come out of the other side, I would not change a thing. I have a fab relationship with my kids, we speak on skype every week. They have all been out for holidays but are happy to leave it at that. I have to respect their choices (hard as it was for me at the time). Good luck with whatever you decide to do.