A loss of any kind is and can be very difficult for those who are going through it, But i do think that those who have never experienced a loss within their family have no real idea as what to say which can be equally as difficult for them, sometimes a nice gesture can mean the same as a 1000 words.
I feel for anyone who goes through a loss of a child, its a complete feel of emptiness that you feel nothing will fill, heartache comes in waves, sadly people think you can just pick up the pieces and get on with it, This is not always the case for everyone.
big ((hugs)) to you littlesarah xx