Peaches

Hi all, thanks for your comments. I was always going to be honest and truthful that was never in doubt, it was just how best to broach the subject which was the tricky part I was looking for pointers on. Obviously having both recently completed meds/ police checks etc. we knew the decision was coming. T-bone had the right idea for what I was after, although I checked the replies after having already broken the news to my OH and tbh it wasn’t too far off the mark from what you suggested but as expected it hasn’t gone down well. It used to be a dream for both of us 10 years ago to emigrate, however the dream has only stayed with me. I have worked hard changing jobs roles and gaining new qualifications to be eligible to apply, and now our visas have been granted I’m really keen to move as soon as possible (2017), however OH wants to wait till 2019 before moving. Main arguments to delay are so we can save more money before going (I think we already have enough, 6 figures saved), think it’s going to be hard securing a job (fair enough who knows what’s going to happen to the economy there in the next 12-18 months, same could be said for UK after Brexit though. Having said that I have a job to go to lined up for 2017/18), having kids then going (this worries me the most but is a whole can of worms I don’t want to get into on here..) Regarding the comment of Australia not being ‘better’ just different, I think it’s what you make of it. Who’s to say it can’t be better for me and the family I hope to raise there? Granted life is pretty good for us where we are at the moment, but having had this dream for so long after a number of trips I feel I have to follow this through or I’ll never know and regret having never tried. If it doesn’t work out as planned we can always head back to the UK, but having known that we’ve given it a go. I’ve been told that I’m just being really selfish and unrealistic . I desperately want us both to want this dream, and to undertake this together as the next chapter and adventure in our lives together. I don’t want to get to the end of my days looking back with any regrets. If anyone else has been in a similar predicament I would appreciate your thoughts and experiences as to how things panned out..

Hi alien1975, how did things work out for you in the end? I feel in a similar situation with two people having different dreams.

Hi all, I've just received the long awaited email that our PR visa has been granted for us both, we should be jumping for joy.. However it’s only the dream for one of us and the other would prefer to remain in the UK. Any advice on the best approach to break the news to my OH that we have been accepted would be appreciated, or comments/tips from anyone else who has gone through this process. Thank you