Heart on sleeve time. I have applied for a visa despite the fact my 'boyfriend' who is 5 years my junior at 49 years old and after 14 years together is not coming with me. I am leaving him behing so that I can be with my son, daughter in law and granddaughter of 1 year old in Oz.
His parents are elderly (almost 80) and I can fullly understand his decision not to move in case something happens. Am I being a self-centred, selfish c-w? To be totally honest, he deserves much better than me and I hope that when I move on he will also move on and can find a woman that will give him what he really needs, i.e. a family. We have never lived together therefore is it really such a big deal or all is it in my head?
All opinions wecome!
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I empathise with you, my situation is not dissimilar.
You can't live your life for someone else, only you know in your heart what the right thing to do is.
Hi Liz .... It Kinda Sounds Like You Have Already Made Your Mind Up ... 14 Yrs Is A Long Time To Have Been With Someone ... Will You Not Miss Him ??? ... Maybe He Will Change His Mind And Join You When You Are Gone !!!
Hope It All Works Out For You ... Wherabouts In Oz Are You Planning To Go ??
Mrs Keily
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Thanks for all you positive responses, much appreciated. Heading for Sunshine Coast. I''ve made first move and am already £700 out of pocket. I will miss him like mad and know I will cry all the way to Oz (if they let me in). Have you ever been on a plane beside someone who has made the big move? I have and cried with her all the way!
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I don't think you're being selfish or self centered at all. You need to do what you feel is right and if that's seeing your granddaughter grow up then so be it! I feel guilty for taking my son away from his grandparents, especially as my dad has no contact with my sister and her children...but...I have to do what I think is best for my son and his future.
Hope you have someone on the plane with a big box of tissues!
My heart goes out to you Liz ..... coz its a tough decision for you either way ... one thing I would say though is a comment on the fact you say you have never lived with your BF of 14 years, to me that means either one or the other of you was holding back from comittment anyway, or am i wrong?
I wish you happiness in whatever your final decision is ((((Liz))))
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You are not wrong Curlysoo or Pinhead. The reason we have not lived together (despite his requests to do so) is that I know I would make his life a misery and i am the one that has held back. I am a such a bl..dy perfectionist and I would not subject that on anyone! Also how can you live with a man that spends more time in the bathroom than you!!!
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Whatever you decide it's not going to easy on either of you. The fact that you've been together for 14 years speaks volumes especially without any formal vows.
