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Have told the Children and it went down like a lead balloon!
Well we decided to come clean with the children and tell them what we were up to and it went down like a lead balloon. My 7 year old son looked stressed beyond belief,having been told at school that there are huge mosquitos and sharks,snakes and spiders there, and my 14 year old basically said if we go ahead she will hate me forever. What a lovely start to the weekend!
I kinda thought this might happen but, I blindly hoped they would say "oh how exiting when do we go!"
Any advice gratefully recieved.
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Cath, Matt, Jamie 14 & Travis 7, Agent appointed 12/6/08 TRA passed 08/9/08 13/9/08 offer accepted on house! 30/09/08 175 PR Visa application lodged, the wait begins..!
Try and come over before you make the big move, you may have to validate the visa and this would be a great opportunity, we did this and I put my daughter into school, she was 10yrs old at the time, she loved it and when we came over for good she settled in really well.
Tell them that you have been on here and read all the threads about snakes and spiders etc., and that they probably won't get to see them unless they go to a reptile park or something similar.
Our 13 year old went silent and as white as a ghost when we told him we'd been accepted. He knew that we were trying but i don't think he realised that we meant it until that moment.
As Jaynie says we had been to Perth a couple of times and on one visit we sent Jimmy to school for a couple of days and he loved it.
Real problem came 6 weeks ago when we decided that we were going to Brisbane instead (for work reasons). having never been to Brisbane its a leap into the unknown and Jimmy said he was going to live with his grand parents in Sheffield. Over the last 5 weeks he has come around to the idea and is now looking forward to it.
We told Jimmy why we were going to Brisbane and if we do'nt like it we'll go to Perth and if we don't like Perth we'll come back to Sheffield.
Well we decided to come clean with the children and tell them what we were up to and it went down like a lead balloon. My 7 year old son looked stressed beyond belief,having been told at school that there are huge mosquitos and sharks,snakes and spiders there, and my 14 year old basically said if we go ahead she will hate me forever. What a lovely start to the weekend!
I kinda thought this might happen but, I blindly hoped they would say "oh how exiting when do we go!"
Any advice gratefully recieved.
My child almost ran away when I came over. She's still very angry, but less so. Time cures all ills.
Hi Catherine and Matt, it is a difficult one, three of my children spend alot of time with their grandparents, where they will stay over for a couple of nights a week. Cameron my 8 year old especially has spent alot of his childhood staying with my parents, due to my work commitments and the fact that he loves going, so he is saying that he doesn't want to live in Oz plus it doesn't help that my parents do keep on to him saying "you don't want to live in Australia" so it has caused alot of arguements. I have suggested to him now that he has to go over to validate visas as and when we get them, if he still doesn't want to stay then i will let him live with my parents. I really can't see the point of making him unhappy because then he will never forgive me. A toughie i know but i'm hoping it will be ok. Good luck Tania X
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Tania x
Sorry to hear your news did not go down to well. It is difficult for teenagers/children as they really have not got a choice, they have to do what us adults say.
If you know what area you are going to, why dont you look on right move and show your children the type of house that you are looking for , also contact a school and say that you are moving to Australia and that your children are apprenhensive is it possible for them to try and put them in contact with a pen pal. Try and involve the children as much as you can.
My boys are 14 and 16 and they really cant wait to go, we went to Australia for Christmas 2006 and they loved it. Not sure if there are any poms in oz meets in your area but if there are then go along and take the children as they will meet other children in the same position as them and hopefully they may pal up with someone. If there are no PIO meets organised in your area then put a thread on here and get one arranged, it will be good for yourselves as well as the children.
hi,im Sure It'll Get Better With Time.give Them Time To Get Use To It.mine Would Still Rather Stay Here If Given The Choice But They've Excepted That We Going Anyway.but Your Probably Find They Wouldn't Want To Move Anywhere Even Up The Road If It Meant Changing Schools And Friends! Good Luck,tracy.xx.
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Hi all thanks for the advice. We don't know where we will be living yet as that will depend on where hubby gets a job. We really are open to anywhere.So can't really sort out schools or reccies until we know more.
I wasn't going to tell the children yet but, because we have to do TRA refs it means that friends and family would find out beacause some of them have worked with my husband at various times.
I think I will now just keep quiet about it. The seed has been sown as it were.
My daughters father already lives in Australia with my eldest daughter and his sister lives in Australia and his mother both my daughters grandmother is in the process of moving there too!
So (sorry it complicated!) my 14 year old will have no choice but to come with us as she has no one else to stay with.
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I do feel for you but I am sure it will all come out in the wash, my 14 yr old daughter said she would never move anywhere let along Oz but since finding out is desperate to go, I haven't mentioned it to my 11 yr old yet as we still have not gone public at this stage, I was really worried about my teen now shes fine I am worried about the younger one, shes due to start senior school in Sept, so she will prob get settled there and then the bomb shell, hoping the trip at Xmas will do the trick.
All I will say is just keep dropping positives into the situation and they will rub off I'm sure, kids are amazing and can change just like that, my eldest did and I couldn't believe it, there is always hope.
We pretty much had the same situation - kids (9,7) refused to go point blank when we first mentioned it in January. But 6 months on of mentioning it on and off, watching anything Oz on TV, showing them info on the net and it's a whole different ball game.
We had a family meal out earlier in the week and the kids both said they are looking forward to going! (never thought I'd be hearing that)
We found that by telling them it's not forever if we don't like it we can always come back to the UK and back into their old schools, they found it much easier to deal with.
My best advice is to make them feel part of the decision both going and if you need to come back. You need to sell them Australia to get there and make it clear that it is a family decision to come back if you can't settle. It won't happen over night but they will change in time.
Have told the Children and it went down like a lead balloon!
