leaving children in the uk

[lorraine1627]

Hi

We have submitted our Visa application on the 7th March 08 and are waiting for a CO to be appointed (looks like we have a long wait they have a back log)

I have been reading the posts on this site for several weeks now and have found some fantastic and useful information out. I have asked several questions and got replies on all of them which is fantastic its good that other people can spare the time to answer even the silliest of questions.

Anyway it is with some interest and relief that I find I am not the only one leaving a child behind in the UK. Nathan is nearly 17 and he has decided that he doesnt want to come that he is staying with his Dad, the other two one 14 and one nearly 14 cant wait to go and are hoping to be there by the New Year (fingers Crossed).

I have felt totally at a loss that Nathan doesnt want to come with us and cant persuade him to change his mind. I feel like the worse parent in the world leaving him here. I know they have to make their own minds up and if it was the other way round he would go and leave us here. Still cant help being upset.

If anyone out there is in the same situation and just wants to left of steam and have a good moan and complain just let me know

Many Thanks

Lorraine

..Hi Lorraine and Jo..us too..after all our travels with them, we will be leaving our 19 year old twins behind..one with a bub of his own..very hard isn't it and can't imagine when we leave!!..
Tess

[alfixie]

Hi Lorraine,

We arrived last night Im knackered with a 2 and 3 yr old and they were 1st class on the flight, anyway back to your question my oh has a 21 and 24 yr old they are both fine the daughter a bit more upset as the boy is following soon on a holiday working visa, any way it is so hard but believe me if Nathan does not follow one day then what a great place for holidays.

All the best,

Marina.

..we are lucky in that our 21 year old and little aussie of 5 will be with us, but still my heart breaks to think of the others not close..hearing from peeps who have done it helps alot..thanx x
Tess

[Quoll]

It is hard having a kid on the other side of the world but it happens so often - mine went to UK on a gap year and, 6 years later, still hasnt come back - not likely to under is own volition either. They get to that age where they think they know what they want in their lives and there isnt much, as parents, that we can do about it. I guess this is pay back for me for what I did to my parents at the same age! ((hugs)) though, it isnt easy!

[melissa]

My son will be 17 when we go to Adelaide, and says he doesn't want to come. He's coming to validate his visa and then says he's going bak to the UK. He has no job and my wife's mum won't let him stay with her. My mum lives in Broadstairs and would have him if he wanted to go there. But of course he wants to stay in Essex with his mates.(who are all dipsticks!).
I can't see how he'll survive, but i also can't make him come with us. It's enough grief and hassle emigrating without worrying about him. But like people have said, he'd fly the nest without looking back anyway. As if that notion makes it any easier!
I'm not sure how i feel about it half the time, and some days i just think i'm being selfish, but it's been my dream for a long time, and suppose if we've been there for him for this long then it's our turn to do what we want to do.

Kids, who'd 'ave 'em!!

darren

[debandmark]

My son is nearly 18 and not coming with us,he starts uni in september and has a longterm girlfriend,his dad is also here(i am remarried),i discussed the move with him from the very beginning and he said go for it,there were a few years after i split with his dad when it was just the two of us and without going into details life was pretty tough and really crap for an 8 year old(as he was then).
I feel really torn because i want better for my 2 little girls(his stepsisters) but i know he doesnt want to come he has everything he wants here,i do wonder if when it gets to 'the big day'if i will be able to get on that plane.

[yorkshirepom]

My daughter is nearly 18 and is back in the uk living with family. Shes loving life and is happy and carefree ( she should be at that age! ) Me and my hubby miss her like mad but we have put her on our PR visa which we just applied for, so that she has the choice to come whenever she wants without having to get here under her own steam, so to speak. Its very hard leaving your kids and you cant prepare for how sad it makes you feel at times? But its so easy to keep in touch now with msn etc and that makes it not so bad??