myself end my 2 daughters are moving over in Nov (husband going end of Aug)
Travelling on a 457 visa to Melbourne
From Feb i have been all set for this move and really excited about it until 2 week ago when my oh rang me at work and said he was booking his flight and going to hand in his notice, i put the phone down and thought to myself **** what the hell are we doing. We live in Ireland, both of us have good jobs, house, cars etc... as well as that i am very close to my family and have never not had them in my life + we have a circle of great friends. I find myself now thinking we have a great life here so why change it. My oh and eldest daughter (just 13) cant wait to move and are really excited. I've spent the last 2 weeks crying... as a wife and mother i want to make my family happy. Matt says he will go with whatever i decide
Any thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated as my head is wrecked and cant think straight
I can well understand how you feel, honey. One of my criticisms of the 457 vsia is that it can sometimes happen so quickly that the move is upon people before they ahve time to draw breath.
I am slightly concerned that you say you have not used an Agent. Do you view this 457 visas as nothing more than a chance oto spend a few years in Australia, or are you looking to move out there for good? If the latter, what is your game-plan for obtaining Permanent Residence in Oz, please? Which visa do you intend to use in order to obtain PR, have you calculated all the costs associated with getting it, and what is your intended timescale for obtaining PR, please?
On the emotional front, what are the chances of your close family being able to go out to Oz to spend time with you there, please? If for example your Parents are retired, they could join you for a six month holday (oe even longer) if they and you so wish. Depending on how many siblings you have and where they are, a permanent move might be possible for your Parents in due course.
I can understand you, same thing happend to me and my oh, he came out on 457 visa and I followed 3 months later with 2 children to melbourne. I also received phone call from him saying same thing. We said to each other before he left we wish we could look in a crystal ball 12 months down the line and see what would happen, if we could have looked then we would not be here in Melbourne.
Now I have been here 2 years the kids love it, my daughter who is 18 next says she will never go back to UK as she loves her life here, my husband who struggled with work and stuff has now settled down but its me more then them, I miss my sisters and mum, I am going back home in April for 4 wks so will see what its like and see how I feel.
We now permanent residency so have acheived what we set out to but I still look at out life in UK we had good jobs, nice house, decent area and family and friends in abundance, I think what I am trying to say is if I could pick up all my family and bring them here then I would be content.
We had to come and try because like most people that start on this journey and start having second thoughts it would be always in the back of your mind if you did not try then what if.
Sorry I cannot be more help in your dilemma, but I just wanted you to know I know how you feel
We have all been there, seen it done and worn the Tshirt!
It is the most natural thing in the world to have second thoughts! When we were leaving on a 457, the first time that I got nervous was when the VISA arrived and I suddenly thought "this means I have to go now!!"
If you use it as an adventure it will be a wonderful expereince for the whole family.
You will make new friends but what you need to remember is that it takes time to build the circle of friends. You cant get good friends instantly, you have to work at it.
You will get jobs, you may not earn as much but you will earn. Your life will be as good as you make it. Opportunities are here just like anywhere else in the world, just gotta look for `em!!
You will have good and bad days while you are planning, leaving and when you are here.
As long as you remember you are literally 24 hours away from everyone, and that you need to work for what you want when you are here you will do fine!
Be positive , if you have a teenager that cant wait to go.......thats one more than some people!
Follow your heart and keep in touch with us all (Sorry if I have waffled a bit!)
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We have all been there, seen it done and worn the Tshirt!
It is the most natural thing in the world to have second thoughts! When we were leaving on a 457, the first time that I got nervous was when the VISA arrived and I suddenly thought "this means I have to go now!!"
If you use it as an adventure it will be a wonderful expereince for the whole family.
You will make new friends but what you need to remember is that it takes time to build the circle of friends. You cant get good friends instantly, you have to work at it.
You will get jobs, you may not earn as much but you will earn. Your life will be as good as you make it. Opportunities are here just like anywhere else in the world, just gotta look for `em!!
You will have good and bad days while you are planning, leaving and when you are here.
As long as you remember you are literally 24 hours away from everyone, and that you need to work for what you want when you are here you will do fine!
Be positive , if you have a teenager that cant wait to go.......thats one more than some people!
Follow your heart and keep in touch with us all (Sorry if I have waffled a bit!)
hi
good post
scott
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I just wanted to say that your situation is very similar to mine. We have only started the process, and every day my feelings change. My husband and I have our own business & we are very comfortable, (the house, cars, holidays etc) so why risk it all?
But then I think of why I want to leave, and I switch on the news & that generally reconfirms it for me! I won't start a sermon here but I want to live in a country that believes in human rights for everyone & not just the scum!
Remember why you started the process? What fired up your belly then?
myself end my 2 daughters are moving over in Nov (husband going end of Aug)
Travelling on a 457 visa to Melbourne
From Feb i have been all set for this move and really excited about it until 2 week ago when my oh rang me at work and said he was booking his flight and going to hand in his notice, i put the phone down and thought to myself **** what the hell are we doing. We live in Ireland, both of us have good jobs, house, cars etc... as well as that i am very close to my family and have never not had them in my life + we have a circle of great friends. I find myself now thinking we have a great life here so why change it. My oh and eldest daughter (just 13) cant wait to move and are really excited. I've spent the last 2 weeks crying... as a wife and mother i want to make my family happy. Matt says he will go with whatever i decide
Any thoughts and advice would be greatly appreciated as my head is wrecked and cant think straight
I felt the same, I was so excited about going upto the point we got our visa, then I was so nervous about leaving family and friends, we too had a lovely home family car etc....., My husband was happy to do whatever I was happy with, he suggested rather then view it as moving away forever he said view it has a long holiday in which I could come home at any time if wanted, That made me feel better, that was over 3 years ago, I love it in Australia, I met lots of new friends who are equally as great as my old ones back home who im still intouch with, a couple even have been out to see me. Think about it carefully you don't want to regret not going, even if you come back at least you can say you tried, I have relatives who regret not going when they had a chance when you could go for a tenner. Its getting more and more difficult to get into Oz, Visa's are gold tickets hard to get hold of. Technology is great these days I can see my mum everyday with a webcam, we still can have a coffee and a chat, i can still show her what new outfit I bought in the day, and its all only going to get better.Hope his helps all the best.
We have all been there, seen it done and worn the Tshirt!
It is the most natural thing in the world to have second thoughts! When we were leaving on a 457, the first time that I got nervous was when the VISA arrived and I suddenly thought "this means I have to go now!!"
If you use it as an adventure it will be a wonderful expereince for the whole family.
You will make new friends but what you need to remember is that it takes time to build the circle of friends. You cant get good friends instantly, you have to work at it.
You will get jobs, you may not earn as much but you will earn. Your life will be as good as you make it. Opportunities are here just like anywhere else in the world, just gotta look for `em!!
You will have good and bad days while you are planning, leaving and when you are here.
As long as you remember you are literally 24 hours away from everyone, and that you need to work for what you want when you are here you will do fine!
Be positive , if you have a teenager that cant wait to go.......thats one more than some people!
Follow your heart and keep in touch with us all (Sorry if I have waffled a bit!)
..in a nutshell..Jo has put it so well..your not on your own in the way you feel..all the best ..Tess
Hi I have been in the exactly same position. Nice house, 2 cars, own business, financially well off (well sort of!). So why move? We did nevertheless and wish we hadn't. Sold everything. In melbourne now and just wondered why and what have we done? We lived in Bath fantastic city.
We have been here for 6 months now. have just decided to give it 18 months so we can just say 'we did it'. then we will go back. Just an expensive 'mistake' to make. Good luck to you.
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