OMG Wot have I done Bad few days

[nurse sue]

Having a bit of a downer if someone had given me the air fare back to uk this week sure would got on plane have been here 6 weeks (honey moon period i keep getting told)
Been at work for 4 weeks hubby still looking for work so much for promise " ring us when you arrive wont be a problem" He has been great, a great house husband only so much cleaning though . Think his fuse is running short I am working short days 8 hr shifts am full time so have been rostered 6 or 7 i days in a row not sure if coming or going Where i have gone to work nearly died on first day no support term i think hit the floor running (Oh the promises )difficult enough starting new job in your native land I ask questions but just get told well thats how we do it. one young nurse asked me today if I was newly qualified on asking why she said "oh you were offering patients relatives a cup of tea, you will soon learn" I replied its part of good care and dont plan changing a habit of a lifetime. she was not amused.
We are still looking for car sent hire car back monday as went to pay and collect new (2nd hand car) and they had sold it said we didnt leave a deposit was not asked was just told would hold till monday. not happy am now having to cycle to staion to get to work extra 2 hrs on my day so now cream crackered and grumpy Then yesterday looked at a car was told what we would get inc in price then saw it advertised on ebay for 5,000 less and was also staing make an offer spoke to garage and made a offer he said no then today rings hubby and said spoke to his boss and we could have car then 2 hrs later called to say needed 500 dollar deposit advised i was at work and asked OH could pay with credit card over phone sure he thought came off the bannana boat hubby refused and he said there are other people interested and we will loose the car told him cant do anything till mon he was then quite rude good job he didnt speak to me I would have killed him.

I just am struggling with all these hurdles I appreciate it wasnt going to be easy but not sure how much longer can fight perhaps sleep might help am trying to keep a brave face up for the family children in school and seem to be settling and cannot keep up rooting them
sorry to go on just needed to get it of my chest any advice would be much appreciated

[The Thomsons]

Sorry to hear you are having a bit of a rotten time at the moment. As a fellow nurse I have to say well done for sticking to your guns regarding the tea thing- it should all be part of good care, showing a bit of concern for worried families. I'm not there yet, so not really in a position to offer much advice but it does sound as though you are having a lot of teething problems which shouldn't affect you settling in, in the long term.
Hope you feel better about it all soon

[joetrac]

Hi Sue first of all I know it is a nightmare when you first arrive but it does get better!!!

I remember sitting in a car trying to feed my baby new milk that she hated ...looking for a DECENT rental.....thinking please god what have I done...but it did get better.

Living in Oz aint for everyone...but even the people who are 100% happy here have been through what your going through ..it will all come together im sure of it.

[ali]

Oh Sue, I remember my first day asked a question regarding disposing needles and was told "don't ask me anything" - I thought I'd made a mistake and asked someone who wasn't qualified to be told they were an RN. You'll feel better after a couple of days off and a good bottle of wine I'm sure.

Hugs Ali x

[kdal]

Sue, So sorry to hear that the settling in process is not going to well!! You are probably as you say sooo tired and worn out, and it doesnt help when you have people that you work with that are not on the same wave length.

Sue, I hope your Oh gets a job soon but hey at least you have a sparkly house and havent got to come home to a complete mess!! Make sure that your hubbie has a nice glass of wine ready for you when you next have a day off from work.

Don't try and take on the world Sue, take a step at a time

Big Big Hugz
Kimxxxxxx

[johatts]

I do the tea thing too for rellies BUT the funny thing is...my carers do it too now!

[Quoll]

Sheesh, I hope nurses offer me a cup of tea if I should ever be in hospital. So sorry it is being a bit tough at the moment, Sue, I hope it gets better - soon!

[Bolton2Brisbane]

Hi,

Just read your post and needed to reply. We moved to Brisbane end of Feb and i only lasted 8 weeks and arrived back in Bolton 1 week ago. I was having such a bad time in Brisbane, crying daily and as you said when the honeymoon period was over thought "what have i done". My partner and i got very good jobs with Queensland Governement, bought a new car and furniture, shiped 3 cats across all the usual expense.

Then sold eveything shipped ourselves and the cats back, we have wasted around $50k. This is no word of a lie, we have had to place our 3 cats in Quarentine for 6 months, we lost $10k on the car we bought (only had it 4 weeks) didnt even do 1000km, lost the bond on the house. I wont bore you with the details needless to say that i'm writing this in a rainy Bolton living with my parents!!

What i'm trying to say is that as soon as we landed in Manchester looked at my partner and said "what the f**k have i done", in all honesty this is one of my greatest regrets in life, have not even been back 6 days and i'm missing everything about Australia.

I thought i was missing family & friends, but i'm sorry to say that i'm not. It was such a big move to sell up and move to OZ, only for us to do the same thing again 8 weeks later and move back to the UK. I could go on and on but i wont, i only wish to god that i had come back on holiday as i would have seen why i wanted to go in the first place.

Better save up and get back some of the pennies which we spent.........

Good luck what ever you decide.

[Mrs C]

Hiya Sue,

I wish I was there already, to give you a shoulder to cry on! Sometimes a good old cry makes everything just a little bit better. Don't worry I'll be there soon, but I expect it'll be me crying on your shoulder........lol By then you'll be all settled and will have forgotten all about this thread.

As they have said before, a nice day off with lot's of wine, always does the trick.

If you want to let off some steam send me a PM!

April xx

[kdal]

BoltontoBrisbane, So glad you posted this as I am sure it will help Sue. You are right about coming back for the holiday and that is why I am trying to put money to one side for when I feel the need to get back and see. My brother-in-law did the same thing, he was soo unhappy in Australia after abt 5 months felt no different, he packed his bags and returned to England for a reccie after 3 weeks here he packed his bags again and returned home to Australia early than expected. He is now happy in Australia.

Good luck and hope if all goes to plan for you xxx