Take it easy on yourself. We all know that moving house is bad enough let alone to another country that along with starting a new job, worrying about the kids starting school and worrying about your OH, flippin heck, no wonder you are feeling a bit down. I wish you luck and wine!
Brisbane to Bolton, what an honest post, I wish you luck too. Do you think you will move back to Oz?
I am currently only at the early stages of this process and I am feeling the strain already of not having a buyer for my house (terrible time for that I know) and stressing about the potential difficulties of not being married to my partner. I am surrounded by my friends and family, house, job familar life etc so I really feel for you and can only imagine how hard a road you have travelled, especially with kids (huge pressure and concerns) and your husband still looking for work. I am so sure though that the minute all these hitches are sorted out you will start to remember why you have done this move. Its a big risk but one that Im sure you will make work. Remember there are dodgy car dealers the world over!
Good luck and give it time, and as someone else suggested you could always book a two week break in southend/blackpool (sorry!) and remember why you have made the change!
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I also am not in Oz yet, but wanted to send my good thoughts to you. Things can only get better (isnt that what they say). Everthing seemed to happen all at once to you, sorry you feel down, hopefully by time you reach my thread and have read all the positive messages you will feel better. Good luck and stick to it. There was a reason you moved to Oz in the first place, focus on that.
Hi Sue, I'm really sorry that you are having a nightmare. We are very much in the early stages of things really - although I am in a slightly different situation in that my partner is Australian. I have had the benefit of my mother-in-laws wise words - she moved over to Australia with husband and 3 children in the late 60's on the £10 emigration programme, she said the first few months were the worst - away from her friends, family and everything that was familiar and comfortable.....she said that if someone had given her the money she would have gladly returned to the UK. Although she did return to England it was only for holidays and she is still over in Oz now. She has told me it's not going to be easy when we do eventually go but i think i am prepared. Reading through some of the posts that are on here I would say don't make any hasty decisions - after everything you've gone through to get over to Oz it would be terrible to cut things short and not give things a chance.
Just keep your chin up and keep reading the words of support and encouragement people are leaving for you.
Just wanted to send you lots of positive and happy thoughts. I hope that things have settled down since you posted your thread and that life isn't looking so bleak. Am sure you will giggle about this in the future - lets hope so!
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Oh Sue, I've been reading this thread all day, wondering what I could say that would be different to everyone else, but hey, I still can't think of anything.
I hope you have some time off soon, and that the wine sounds like a good idea.......
Lets hope by your next post you are feeling a whole lot better....
Big hug Sue, thinking of you....
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Hi Sue, Hang in there, don't let them aussies get ya down, they aint worth it, believe me i learned the hard way, i have sent you a pm. take care & chin up stuju
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Just read your post and needed to reply. We moved to Brisbane end of Feb and i only lasted 8 weeks and arrived back in Bolton 1 week ago. I was having such a bad time in Brisbane, crying daily and as you said when the honeymoon period was over thought "what have i done". My partner and i got very good jobs with Queensland Governement, bought a new car and furniture, shiped 3 cats across all the usual expense.
Then sold eveything shipped ourselves and the cats back, we have wasted around $50k. This is no word of a lie, we have had to place our 3 cats in Quarentine for 6 months, we lost $10k on the car we bought (only had it 4 weeks) didnt even do 1000km, lost the bond on the house. I wont bore you with the details needless to say that i'm writing this in a rainy Bolton living with my parents!!
What i'm trying to say is that as soon as we landed in Manchester looked at my partner and said "what the f**k have i done", in all honesty this is one of my greatest regrets in life, have not even been back 6 days and i'm missing everything about Australia.
I thought i was missing family & friends, but i'm sorry to say that i'm not. It was such a big move to sell up and move to OZ, only for us to do the same thing again 8 weeks later and move back to the UK. I could go on and on but i wont, i only wish to god that i had come back on holiday as i would have seen why i wanted to go in the first place.
Better save up and get back some of the pennies which we spent.........
Good luck what ever you decide.
Sorry not wanting to hi jack sues thread... but You did it bolton2brisbane, you went home,remember you posting in one of the very long on going threads that you were thinking/talking about it, & now you sound as if you are regretting the move back. I do so hope that everything works out for you, good luck & all the best stuju
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Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in what you are feeling at the moment. What we have all done or are trying to do is one of the biggest things anyone could do with their lives. There were days when I got teary over absolutely nothing and that was it, I was stuffed for the rest of the day - I couldn't pick myself up again. Luckily my OH was great and just got on with things. It does get easier though hun! We've been here 8 months now and the down days are few and far between (touch wood). I can even email my closest friend back in the UK and tell her I miss her without getting a bit teary as I type it.
You sound like you need a couple of days off just to relax and give your brain a bit of a rest. At the moment you'll have so much going on in your head - your work, worrying about OH, worrying about kids (whether you need to worry or not) and everything else. Have a family day - do some sightseeing and enjoy the place you are trying to call home.
If all that fails just keep coming here for a good ol' winge - we're all here to listen and while we may not be able to help very much we will all sympathise and understand.
Keep smiling hun!
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