Mine and My husbands parents wer'nt to happy when we told them we were coming out to Perth 4 years ago. Now though they have been out to see us and what we have achieved, that they now tell us not to dare move back to the UK.
You must do what you feel is right for you not others.
I know how you feel it would be soooo much more easier if you had people behind you ey?
My family does not want us to go either, thats my mum,dad,sister,bro-in-law and all nieces and nephews. My partner and i work for my sister and her husband, we are a very close family where mum helps out with kids(mine are nearly off hand) its so stressful and we have had few rows about them not being supportive but they are worried that we are just running away from problems ie: money situ, bad weather, high mortgage...my sister is saying we could make our lives better in uk and have hols couple of times of year, also my boys father does not want them to go and so i have to go to court to try and get court order allowing us to.
The only one who has said good luck is my brother(pretty laid back sort of bloke) i have said to my family that i would not go if i thought i would not see them again and i would have to find a way of bringing boys back to see their dad anyway. My mum will not fly i don't think unless shes knocked out!! I have dreamt of Oz since little and i have done so much research that i feel that this would be a better life not just for my boys but for my partner and i, better quality of life, yes i would miss family but you just live day to day don't you. oh sorry to babble on just getting some things of my chest. But you are lucky that your mum doe'snt mind and your sister could maybe start training at an occupation,college or something? that way she could join you at later date, failing that once your there maybe on a trip to see you get her hooked up with some fit ozzie bloke jane x
Hi Janie
Yep, its a bit of an uphill struggle, but there is definatly sunshine on the top of this hill were trying to climb.
I think in a way we are all looking at a way out of the rat race, high mortgages etc but why the hell not?? You should work to live not live to work and if that means moving to the other side of the world, then why not.
Good luck with your court thing for your son. And think what life will be like on the otherside.
My husband and I are thinking of emigrating to Perth - he is not the least bit bothered what other people think he has just decided that we have to get out of this country and soon - I wish in a way I could be a bit more like him and say this is what I want and I'm going for it but unfortunately I do care how my family reacts.
We haven't even told my family that we are thinking of it yet - I'm thinking get the visa first at least that way I don't put them through any heartache unnecessarily if we don't get one (a possibility because of my husbands health).
My mum and I are very close and she is even closer to my children - they see her every day and stay there on a regular basis. My mum will be distraught when I do tell her as she is on her own and the only other family I have is my unmarried brother who doesn't have any kids. She basically lives her life around my kids . . . at the moment I'm just really confused, on one hand I really want to give life in Oz a go but on the other I'm not sure I can put my mum through it!
We have had friends who have just gone to Perth and that's making my husband more determined than ever - we are now planning on going on holiday out there next year and I think that will make us want to go more than ever . . . but what about my mum?!!!! Don't even suggest she move too - she has lived in the same village for the past 67 years and only left the country once or twice in that time! Even a holiday to Oz would be a big thing for her as she would have to leave her dogs behind and we wouldn't be able to come back that often as there are 5 of us in total - oh well I guess it will work out in the end I will just have to make a decision and stick to it no matter how hard!
I have just read the posts on this thread and feel the need to unburden myself, so bear with me. In our case things are just happening so fast, My partner has wanted to go to Oz forever, he has done loads of research and even went so far as sending MY cv to agents, I started to get emails and telephone calls out of the blue. I have just landed a great job here in the Uk and what happens I get a telephone interview for a position working for the State in Victoria, they are offerring a great relocation package etc on a 457 visa, we can basically relocate for next to nothing with loads of support. So now it's within grabbing distance and the kids are on board, my partner is having second thoughts. I'm having sleepless nights about what to decide, I've been told that I have the job subject to references and they are still waiting to hear from one of my referee's so I have to sit tight a bit longer. Do we take the plunge and go for it or stay here and reap the benefits of a Job I enjoy and an easy lifestyle with family and friends support??????????? The travelling part of me says go for it but now we have two kids and I can't just do things on a whim. I thought he was all for it and now I am just confused. HELP
ClaireW,
We had the same problem with my mum. We decided though to tell her in advance. It has taken her nearly 5 months to calm down but she is now starting to shopw interest and ask practical questions.
I had to chuckle about th epictures of spiders, my mum had been trawling the papers and showing us all the shark attach stories when we visited each week.
As painful as it is, we have the view that our parents done the best for us when we were kids, we now want to do the same for our kids. That future is in Australia now not the UK.
Good luck
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We have decided that if we do get a visa we have 12 months to get out there and sell the house etc so that will hopefully give her enough time to get used to the idea - or enough time to drive me completely insane with her cries of "What about me" "what will I do" "I'll never see my grandchildren again" "What's the point of me going on" etc etc etc
Hi claire
i am in the same situation with my mum and sister. we lived in perth for a year and then returned for family reasons! Now we are returning and it has been really stressful telling my mum and sister. Initially the guilt trips were a nightmare and i have never drank so much wine and ate so much chocolate!! But now my mum is putting on a brave face and is going to stay with us for 3 months of the year. I still feel really bad about everything but at nearly 39 i feel we should go back to Oz because we all loved it there and we only have one life. Every day i feel such a mixture of emotions but i just remember how alive we felt when we lived in Perth so we are going to give it a go again!
Arlene
thanks guys, my emotionsa re up and down. I know its the right thing for us as a family, i just have to keep reminding myself of that.
x
Hi Ang
I know exactly how you are feeling. The thought of leaving my sister is killing me also. We only live 8 doors away from each other. She has 3 little girls and we have a little girl. They are all like sisters to each other. I see my sister every day and how I am going to cope knowing that I can't just call in to see her well who knows.
Also on Saturday we are off to Ireland for the weekend to tell Ed's family about us going to Oz. Hate to think how his dad is going to take it. He has never had a passport (but hasn't needed it to come to London). Can't really see him coming to Australia to visit.
Anyway like everyone says as long as we all keep remembering that we are doing what is best for us as a family then we should be alright.
Isn't it good that we can all share our thoughts with each other though.
i think when you feel like this then it shows that you are only human! my aunt and uncle moved to oz 35 yrs ago and after 6 months she wanted to come back because she was terribly homesic but they could not afford the flight home, so they had to stay and she swears it was the best decision she as done, her children were born over there and she when she comes bac over hare for visits she compares the opportunities availble for children and there is nothing! i think you are making the right decision by going and your sister could always come out on a working visa or yoy could sponsor her in time. hang on in there after all it is an emotional rollercoster immigrating( or so ive been told). good luc
jane x
