Having only been in OZ 7 weeks am having thoughts about wanting to go back. I didnt expect not having any friends to talk to would affect me so much. This may sound like a really silly statement but it is quite a strange feeling.
We dont have any kids so wont get the chance to talk to othe parents at the school gate, my partner says i'm daft but now that he has stated work and i'm all "home alone" the tears are nearly coming.
I'm not one for these "poms get togethers" please dont take issue with this anybody that does, but i'm one who reflects a lot, maybe i need to get over this or get a sandwich board and walk around Brisbane!!
Given that other people on here have made the same move across the water, are these feelings normal and how long did it take you to feel at home or relaxed with your new life?
Cheers
I can understand how you feel. Before moving to brisbane my husband tried to tell me of all the things i would miss, ie: people that we know, reading the local paper and being able to relate to it, missing bumping into people i know down the street and feeling of belonging in a community. my answer was i wont cause i dont socialise with them very often, were on our own most of the time, but its funny i miss them and im missing all the things i thought i was bored with now . and am banging my head against the wall trying to find out why.
If you are young and want to make a go of it do anything to mix with people, as before i went back to the uk when i got depressed last time all i did was mope in the chair and thought if i was in the u k i could visit family and friends etc , where here i have no one.
Once you start to mix and talk to people you will think less and less of the people you left behind.
My thoughts now though at my age are do I really want to have to start again. I have lived in country victoria for the last 17 years. and now have to make the decision of wether to go back.
Funnily enough i have just come back from the doctors and he said i am suffering from reactive depression! im going to do a google search on it. he also said it can take up to 2 years to get used to moving from overseas or interstate.
So hang in there as Oz is a great place to live, you may find you may have to move around a bit before you settle, as each state is so different, and some places are more clickier than others so its harder to fit in but they are all better than the uk. i have lived in south aust, vic and now qld.
I think if you made the decision to come, and initially wanted to come, then you should be ok. I have also lived in south africa and met some poms there whos partners knew the moment that they arrived that they didnt want to be there, so they went back. as it would never had worked.
Chin up keep pushing yourself.
Having only been in OZ 7 weeks am having thoughts about wanting to go back. I didnt expect not having any friends to talk to would affect me so much. This may sound like a really silly statement but it is quite a strange feeling.
We dont have any kids so wont get the chance to talk to othe parents at the school gate, my partner says i'm daft but now that he has stated work and i'm all "home alone" the tears are nearly coming.
I'm not one for these "poms get togethers" please dont take issue with this anybody that does, but i'm one who reflects a lot, maybe i need to get over this or get a sandwich board and walk around Brisbane!!
Given that other people on here have made the same move across the water, are these feelings normal and how long did it take you to feel at home or relaxed with your new life?
Cheers
Hi bolton2brisbane,
Theres been quite a few replies to your original post, how are you doing, have the replies made you feel a bit more at ease ?
Hope you feeling better.
all the best
gizmo
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The replies have been very kind and did make a difference, however still feel the same and in all honesty dont think they will improve. It's very strange to constantly feel like this given that i've never ever felt like this before.
I start a job on Wednesday so this will either compound the situation or improve? eitherway i'm going to give it another 4 weeks and see how i feel, i cant cope with this for the next 2 years!!
Just feel like a complete knob having sold the house, cars and given up 2 jobs, and it was me i the first instance who wanted to move to OZ. I dont know what i expected to be different, you still have the same things to do, only when you feel low you can pop round to your mates for a brew........
The replies have been very kind and did make a difference, however still feel the same and in all honesty dont think they will improve. It's very strange to constantly feel like this given that i've never ever felt like this before.
I start a job on Wednesday so this will either compound the situation or improve? eitherway i'm going to give it another 4 weeks and see how i feel, i cant cope with this for the next 2 years!!
Just feel like a complete knob having sold the house, cars and given up 2 jobs, and it was me i the first instance who wanted to move to OZ. I dont know what i expected to be different, you still have the same things to do, only when you feel low you can pop round to your mates for a brew........
Nahhh mind everything happens for a reason.
Hi,
I wish you all the very best of luck and so hope that your job works out for you, i really do know how you are feeling and im almost at my 2 year stage now and things aint getting any eaiser here in fact its a bloody nightmare now.
Keep ya chin up and hopefully things will look better for you real soon.
All the best
gizmo
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Hi, hope the job works out - but I think you're right sometimes it's not worth floggin a dead horse, if you give yourself a time scale to make a decision. Two years is a long time, if you really don't like it, and you can become clinically depressed, which will just make things even harder to overcome. Whatever you decide it will be right for you because it's your life
Ali
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The replies have been very kind and did make a difference, however still feel the same and in all honesty dont think they will improve. It's very strange to constantly feel like this given that i've never ever felt like this before.
I start a job on Wednesday so this will either compound the situation or improve? eitherway i'm going to give it another 4 weeks and see how i feel, i cant cope with this for the next 2 years!!
Just feel like a complete knob having sold the house, cars and given up 2 jobs, and it was me i the first instance who wanted to move to OZ. I dont know what i expected to be different, you still have the same things to do, only when you feel low you can pop round to your mates for a brew........
Nahhh mind everything happens for a reason.
yeh i feel the same i was the one who pushed to come to brisvagas! now i regret it. i gave up a beautiful home backing onto golf course, comfortable life, friends and family.
things do happen for a reason, maybe it makes you apprecite things more. and remember what you had, and if you /i go back you may feel a lot more settled of what youve got.
in my case it was the case of feeling fed up and it seemed like a big adventure to come here, where in hindsight maybe i should of focused my energies on making my life better where i was, you may be the same. yet saying yet it could still work out here for both of us as its still early days yet and most people say give it more time.
Only you know how you really feel and dont feel bad if you decide to go back, at least you have given it a go.
all the best with your discisson, take care.
