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[janie606]

hi we have'nt even applied for our visa yet but i am feeling very emotional about leaving family behind and feel like i am never going to see them again, are there any good high interest accounts to put our "flight only" funds. my 2 boys would be leaving thier dad and half sister, i am close with my mum and sister and i am not sure i would be able to get my mum on plane! OH is fine he knows his sister and family would visit, but they are not near us at the mo' and his brother is in spain. i just keep thinking am i doing the right thing for my family, taking them away from dad, sister, nan, grandad, cousins.....then i go and read other peoples threads about what life is like down under and i want it. i have dreamt of going to australia since i was a child and would like my boys to experience living there. just getting our house ready to put on market, it was meant to be our secure family house but just too expensive to pay for what with interest rates shooting up so that needs to go no matter what. OH is 42 so have'nt got long left before he is 45 and boys are nearly 16 and 12 so if we are gonna do it feel like now is the time. sorry to go on its just would feel comforting to know other people have gone through this and came out alright the other end?
jane

[TheBrowningFamily]

Jane Honey, it will be fine, it's going to be an emotional journey, then you hit a point and everythings ok, you feel fab about it all.....then you get here and after you are out of holiday mode...it all starts again!

You'll be fine

[ali]

It's a rollercoaster for emotions and there isn't an easy way to get through it (although sampling aussie wine in the name of research did help a little lol). Hang on tight - it can be a bumpy ride but well worth it in the end.

Ali

[johnosinoz]

I understand how you feel. We have our visas and are hoping to go in October. Some days (today being one) I wake up and can't wait to go but other days I just wander why we are putting ourselves through it!
Our boys are 10 and 13 and although they are really positive, I wander how they will feel when they actually have to say goodbye to all of their friends and leave their schools. They are both sports mad so I try to concentrate on this aspect of the move. We don't have huge family ties so that is one thing in our favour. I think it is also the thought of leaving our lovely home and a successful business behind.
Still...I try to focus on why we are doing this and if we don't go now, the children will not see may not be up for it in a couple of years.
I think it would be easier if we could just get on a plane and go..the waiting makes it worse.
If we don't give it a go-we will looK back one day and regret it...of that you can be sure!!!

GO FOR IT....

[arlene]

Hi Jane
I feel exactly the same as you. We are in the process of applying for our visa again! We lived in Perth for a year and returned home for family reasons! My husband and 4 sons and myself loved the life but decided that family are more important than lifestyle etc!! We have missed Oz alot since and I have pined for it alot. We started talking about going back and at first i felt very excited about it. Now that we have spoken to family (loads of guilt trips) I feel terrified that this is the right decision. Like you I am very close to my mum and sister and my mum has said she will stay with us for 3 months of the year. That is fine at the moment but she is 69 and my dad died suddenly last year so who knows what's round the corner. I dread if something happens then she cannot travel and I cannot see her. I'm driving my husband mad because his mother died when we were in Perth and his sister and brother could visit, so he does not have the same dilemma. Now I'm thinking I should be putting my husband and boys first but I feel terrible about leaving my mum and sister. When we lived there I didn't torture myself all the time but when my parents came to visit for 3 weeks I hated seeing them going away again. I need to know am I being completely unreasonable to expect us to settle back in Oz or am I always going to be completely torn and feel guilty!
I'm sorry to ramble on and I know wine is a good coping mechanism but at this rate I need a liver transplant already!!
Arlene

[janie606]

thanks for all your kind words and i am sure it will be worth it in the end if we EVER get out there i am determined to see at least 2 years through i am sure by then we will be settled sometimes i feel up then i feel like "what the hell are we doing, this is mad" JOHNOS your boys are at the age where they are not into girls yetso is great time for them i am worried my eldest(soon to be 16) will get one before we go then will not want to come. I have been saying to them they can have friends over to stay.. we work for my sister and bro-in-law so are leaving the family business which is very difficult, guilt, feel like your letting them down, but have worked there for 11 years so now need to think about our own future, they are tied to business for another 10 years so can't come out yet...
ARLENE i do feel for you but at least your mum has your sister, theats what i have to keep reminding myself. i know if we don't do this i WILL regret not going for it, however it dos'snt mean it has to be easy, not told OH how i am feeling, he's a bit harder than me one thing i will def look forward too is meeting people like yourselves who have been through the same things jane