We are currently sorting out our final bits ready to fly out of the UK on May 16th for our new life in Perth WA.
My question to everyone who has done this is: Did you find the last bits such an emotional rollercoaster? I seem to be going from elated and can't wait to go through to scared witless and panicking over the silliest little things.
I remember all too well the nervousness of waiting for the visa descision, but this seems to be far scarier, and changes every hour. I'll be looking at something or someone thinking I'll not see you again, or this won't be available in Australia
We are going over to live with my wife's family whilst we get our house built so will at least have support in place to help us settle in.
Any advice or support would be much appreciated as I'm hoping that this is only normal and everyone goes through it.
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We haven't left yet - go on 2May but we're on that rollercoaster.........
To make things easier we have started making plans for when we get to Melbourne. We've booked some tickets for a footy match and also a food and wine exhibition.
All normal emotions ... Living with the in laws whilst you're having your house built - don't envy you there - my friends house is taking ages to build
Ali
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All of its perfectly normal, a few days before we were due to leave I asked my hubby if it was not too late to withdraw his notice from the royal navy and stay in the uk !! I got into a right old stew about packing towels of all things, sounds ridiculous now but felt so important at the time. I couldn't even begin to sort out the attic and ended up bringing over all sorts of rubbish, to cap it all on the second day of the removers packing I got a migrane and had to stay in bed until the afternoon. I never get migranes, it must have been the stress. We had so many leaving parties with different people, we got to the point where we just wanted to go NOW and get it over and done with.
Hang in there, it will all come right in the end you'll see.
i was a total mess up to departure and it will get worse up to leaving sorry to say, my husband came out 2 weeks after me and he didn't understand my emotions that i was going through until it was his time to say goodbye you will be up and down but be focused on your future you will be living the dream very soon.
claire, jason, penny, wesley secret harbour
As said before ...all normal emotions and going to get worse Im afraid.However,ride the storm cause before you know it you will be where you want to be.
Dont want to make you but my house is 1 year behind schedule ,it was predicted to move into last june and it is still not completed!!!
Our last two weeks were the worst in my life so far!!
I was on automatic pilot for months organising things and getting excited about moving to Perth. But we had to move out of our house on the 4th Jan 2008 (Xmas was a blurr) and move into a Travelodge hotel for a week before we left - it was hell!!
We spent the week before we left calling in on friends and family saying our goodbyes over and over again. It was very emotionally draining and when we landed in Perth on 11th Jan it was like OH MY GOD what have we done! We realised we were homeless, had no jobs and no where to live and had to face lots of hurdles as we were a million miles away from home and everything is done differently.
We have been here for 3 months now and the kids have settled in so well, they are going to have an amazing life here.
The emotional rollercoaster will carry on for some time - most people over here say at least 2 years!!! Hang on in there we are all in the same boat but life is what you make it and I'm sure you'll be ok.
We are currently sorting out our final bits ready to fly out of the UK on May 16th for our new life in Perth WA.
My question to everyone who has done this is: Did you find the last bits such an emotional rollercoaster? I seem to be going from elated and can't wait to go through to scared witless and panicking over the silliest little things.
I remember all too well the nervousness of waiting for the visa descision, but this seems to be far scarier, and changes every hour. I'll be looking at something or someone thinking I'll not see you again, or this won't be available in Australia
We are going over to live with my wife's family whilst we get our house built so will at least have support in place to help us settle in.
Any advice or support would be much appreciated as I'm hoping that this is only normal and everyone goes through it.
Mike & Claire
Hi Mike & Claire,
Your ride is just begining (in the nicest way) on the emotional rollercoaster, I have had so many ups & downs, highs & lows and, the strangest of things have gone over & over in my brain before I left the uk and once I had arrived in Oz. Have laughed at many things and have cried over the most little things (even if its something that has gone right).
Everybodys situation is different and we all handle things in different ways.
Just remember it's ok to cry,
it's ok to scream,
but even better when you start to laugh
all the best
gizmo
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The rollercoaster is only beginning as everyone has said. Any little problem manifests itself into a huge one when really it neednt!!!
GOodbyes are the most horrible thing to face. We were like some others. We did a HUGE party in Yorkshire before we left and met all my OH family. Then we spent a week seeing everyone adn saying goodbyes and having lunches!! The worst one was the Thursday before we left as we did 4 seperate goodbyes including my Nan, fav Aunt and cousins. Saying goodbye to those three boys was horrible. Not something Id ever wanna go through again. My uncle allowed them to stay up til midnight (a skool nite too!) and we just spent time with them. Apparently the youngest one - he was 11 at the time - went to school on the day we left with 1430 written on his hand so he would remember the time we were leaving! How gorgeous is that!
We stayed from Friday - Sunday night at my parents and it was a great weekend but still felt really weird as we all knew this was it. My brother was there and we stayed up til the wee hours just talking. He kept telling me I couldnt go to bed as I was leaving him!!!! We left on the Sunday night and drove to the Heathrow Hilton. My brother left at the same time and stayed with us the whole way down the M11 until he turned off for the M25 adn we kept going. My last vision of me brother is him hanging out the window waving! An image I cant forget!!!
Still I am lucky! My mum and Dad have their house on the market and are inline for the July 1 CPV visas! I cannot wait til they get here. They will be living with us until they find the house of their dreams. We are a close family and I know that as soon as I see them it will feel like we have never been apart!
The trick is to spend as much time with everyone, make sure you see everyone. (There were a few people that we just couldnt see and I regret that now). Enjoy the time left in UK and dont worry about what you cant get here. There are things you`ll miss but the trick is to live without them. Embrace Australia for what it is and dont try and make it the same as the UK cos it aint!!!
WHen you get here it will be a crazy few months as you get everything sorted. Lets just say three years down the line, we are still here. We livein the area that we always wanted, we have our own house, we are renovating it, we own 2 cars, we eat out every week and work hard for that! We have no children here, my OH kids are in UK and are 20 years old.
Life is good and if you look forward and not back.......it will get better and better!
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Thanks all for your advice - I'm absolutely sure that we are doing the right thing in emigrating, but it just all seems so real all of a sudden.
Our visa took 23 months to get in the end as we had to wait for wife's aunt to ger her permanent residency on contributory parent visa after we had started our's.
For so long things have been in the future, and that future seems to be coming at us like a brick wall now. There are so many things to do, and I'm also dreading the leaving party as I don't want to have to say goodbye.
We said goodbye to Claire's gran last night and she burst in to tears - that made me feel really s**t about myself, but what can I do?
We are going to live with Claire's aunt and uncle in Canning Vale - Perth WA - Fills me with some dread, but at least they will be going away quite a lot as they want to go around Oz in their Caravan and have us house sitting for them.
I understand that it takes ages to get your house built over there - I'll just be so relieved when we get the mortgage we want as I'm a worrier and hated doing this in the UK with an excellent credit rating, let alone over there with little or no rating yet? How long do you have to be in employment for before the mortgage companies will consider lending to you?
Anyway I'm so glad I found PiO forums as at least I know that it's not just us on our own feeling this way - Anyone in WA or coming over we would love to meet up with you and do the obligitory BBQ's and sink a few cold ones.
but my house is 1 year behind schedule ,it was predicted to move into last june and it is still not completed!!!
