Well today has been slightly better and my mam (sorry its a northern thing cant say mum lol) she is now not acting as though we have all just died, she has asked a few questions but said did we not fancy just going to Spain cos its only a couple of hours away.......errr NO!! OH is back as well, hes been away for few days so didnt really pick the right time to tell her when I was on my own.
Yesterday I wavered so much, that I thought I could go through with it (even though as yet we dont even know if we can get in, we're on a wing and a pray). But then I went into town (big mistake on a Saturday) and had an invisable day, you know those days were no-one sees you. 2 people yes 2.....both let go of the heavy shopping centre doors on me, the second time the girl in question didnt even look behind her and jammed my pushchair in the door when she let go of it, the door was so heavy I couldnt get enough force to push it open with the pushchair being in the way, someone did eventually help me out after several people just looked on. That just did it for me, people are quickly loosing any manners at all, isnt it just normal that you would hold the door for someone or even look behind them before letting it go?????........ok feel better for that thanks
Today OH said all that matters is that we are 100% committed to giving our girls a better start to life and I totally agree. I have spent best part of my life doing whats best for my mam and trying to keep her happy so now its my turn to get strong and do whats best for my family.
Thanks for the continuing support everyone, I have never been on a forum where everyone genuinely wants the best for each other. You really did get me through the last few days.
Thats really good news about your "mam", sometimes I guess people need time to digest it.
Your comments about people around town really made me smile, I keep having these thoughts and am finding people in general ruder and ruder. My neighbours who live opposite me (and have done for 8 years) never ever say hello when we both come out of our houses. I try to catch their eye - just to prove a point I think but it doesn't make a difference. My other annoyance of the moment is how busy everywhere is - the petrol station, the supermarket, the city on a saturday OMG don't even go there!
I wonder if these things would be any different in Oz tho?
Well done Em!
I agree with everything you said. We've had similar experiences with family reactions although not quite as bad! but we know its what we have to do for our family and we are totally committed as a family (and we certainly dont fancy spain either - urggg!). I know as a family we all have days when we wonder if we really can do it but one of the others will 'pick us up'. Our families are also beginning to accept that it is the right thing to do for our kids (and our) futures. My dad is making all sorts of excuses about flying but if he's gonna be like that I cant change him, just hope that he gives it a go (he has flown before), he just very awkward about things in general (luv him to bits tho!).
Nice to have a gripe on here isnt it? and find find so many people agreeing!?!
Lyn x
Hi Em,
You go girlfriend!!!!, You have to think that when you were a child, your mum would of done every thing in her power to make your life the best possible and given you all the opportunities she could. The way I see it - thats all we are all trying to do for our children and ourselves, it is our time to be selfish!!! so well done
Kim x
Hi Em,
So glad that it's better now!! She'll come round in no time now as she has already started the first steps. You may get her on a plane yet!!
When I read your post and told us about your shopping trip I tutted, and thought yep,I totaly agree. It all sounds very familiar!
Anyway, glad your feeling more positive now, Hubby's right, this is your time to make the choices for your girls now.
Lol,
hays
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Just to let you know ,over here people(generally men) will go out of their way to hold or open a door for you when going into a shop,the assistant always asks ''hows your day'' with a smile and theres sometimes ques but not many,this all stops when they get in their cars,they are the most ignorant drivers ive known,they will not let you out so dont even contemplate it ,not even a teeney weeney nudge out or you get the look of death ,what really blows their mind is when you flash to let them out (old habits die hard) they havnt a clue even with a wave of the hand to saygo on go ,theyre completey baffled at this nutter letting them out,its quite funny you must try it when you arrive,,
Cal x
HI Cal, I remember the driving thing from our visits we once drove from Cairns down to the Whitsundays (Airlie Beach) was quite an interesting drive.
Everything is just soooo annoying me at the moment..........and some little g*t has put a huge dint in the bonnet of our car with what looks like a ball and broken paint. Get me out of here quickkkk before I have a nervous breakdown!!
Got someone coming the value the house later. We r just waiting now for M's family to let us know if they r willing to set their company up to sponsor M and then we might even know if we can get in :rolleyes:
Great to see your post Em, glad your mam is coming round to the idea, she will only have to visit once and even she wont wanna come back to England.
Gotta agree the driving in Oz is terrible,and so slowwwwwwwwww..Paul put his hand up once to say thanks for something and the other guy thought he was mad by the look on his face..:)
A funny thing happened to us in Shell Harbour, NSW...We went to a working mens club (which incidently was more like a casino) played on the pokies and Paul even won wahooo..Anyways he needed the loo and off he went..When he came back he said I cant go to the loo again while im here looking slightly embarrassed..He then explained that he was doing his bit minding his own business when another guy said "How ya going" Paul replied "alright thanks mate"..As he spoke the 5 guys standing at the urinals all decided to shake his hand commenting on how they loved the english and hoped he was having a great time...It worried the life outta him lmao..:)
We only ever met great people whilst we have been there...It really is totally different..
Pauls mum called last night and said she had our car ready for us, they have bought us one bless em...Only thing is, it is automatic and I have NEVER driven an automatic in my life!!!! Soon enough I am gonna be one of those drivers EEEEEEKKK!!!!
I have been here 2 years now ( on feb 9th anyway!). My husband and I had very mixed emotions when we told our parents!! His parents both said `we dont want you to go but you have to do what you want to do. you only have 1 life!` Now having both been out here to see us his parents can see what a difference it has made to our life and both plead with us never to come home! They said we have such a good life here.
When I told my parents it was very mixed emotions. My Dad is a matter of fact man and whatever we wanted to do then so be it. Deep down he really wasnt sure that we would do it! He actually said that to us after we had left. My Dad sent me the most gorgeous email that I collected in the internet cafe at Heathrow Airport! We went through to Departures bawling our eyes out!
As far as my Mum , I was living the dream that she always wanted to do. She found it very very hard to think about what we were doing and would not talk about it , to us or any visitors! We had to prep visitors before we got there to say `dont mention australia`.
After a while she realised that we were going to go anyway no matter what anyone said!! She then began to get involved in what was happening. We were happy to send both sets of parents any information that we could to try and reassure them that we were doing this and doing it right!!
They will come round! Mine did! The hardest part is telling relatives. I have an aunt and uncle and three cousins (all boys of 11,12,13 when we left!). Our last night with them was terribly hard! I had to tell my Nan and say goodbye knowing that I may never see her again. I actually didnt see her again as she died after we had been here 18 months.
Once you are here and settled it will be good. Involve parents in your emails, letters that you get. Show them emails of houses you want to look at, areas you want to live in. It will all work out! My parents are now about to send off their application for a contributory parent visa!
probably didnt help that I kept saying "we are just moving house!" everyones over-reacting!!!
It will work out! They will come round and no matter what they are parents and they will always love and respect you!
Joanne
Once they see what a great quality of life you will have they will understand. My parents have put in their CPV application and all fingers crossed that they will be out next year for good!
Telling the Family Update.........
OH is back as well, hes been away for few days so didnt really pick the right time to tell her when I was on my own. 
telling the parents
