Gaining permission from ex to take child abroad!!!
First post so hi to everyone and am so glad i found this site>
Any help most grateful!!
I have been and seen a solicitor and they have advised me to go and see about the normal things that you have to do prior to living in a new place eg register my son with a school dentist, doctor etc... As i need to prove that this will be a better life for my child.
We are hoping to move to Corrimal and have checked out there website etc... but still not found any links to help me get any further.
We are not planning to move until August 08 whivh i feel makes it even more difficult as no one will take us on the regsiter yet.
If any one has ever had to do the same would love to know.
you may find it difficult to register until you're actually in the country and have an address etc.,
Other people have had similar problems getting ex partners to give permission etc., if you use the 'search', bit at the top of the page and enter key words then you may find your question has already been answered by someone else.
Ali
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"POZZIE" - HAPPY AND LOVIN IT!
I'm sick of following my dreams, I'm just going to ask them where they're going and hook up with them later
Do you have the visa yet or are you applying. If you have not applied yet, then the Department of Immigration and Multicultural Affairs will require proof that you have custody to take your child out of the country.
i also have had to get permission from my ex to take my son who he has had next to no contact with him for 12 years out to oz, this was achieved with 'what can you offer him in this country' and the court threat, christ the thought of him parting with his own cash was enough for him to agree to do the stat dec but i am expecting him to ask for me to pay for his solicitor
Were in the same boat. We have taken a bit of advice on it but we can't even apply for our visa until we have permission. On top of this, both son's have different fathers, one see's his son 48hrs (if that, Overtime seems more important) per fortnight and the youngest has refused to go to his dad's(who pays minimum maintenance, despite being a self employed chiropractor!!) since before christmas!!
We are in the process of gaining the courage to approach both fathers about our plans, but don't know where to start. WE know it's going to be a better life for us all but how do we explain this to the fathers? 'Ummm, well the weathers nice....ummmwe'll be near a beach..errr?
All we can hope for is Luck, the 'what can you offer them' line, the threat of court and the lure of 'no maintenance'.
Sorry we can't be of any assistance but at least you know that your not the only one out there with this problem.
I've heard that threats such as - we will be going whatever, so if you don't give permission for your child to go too then we will sort out arrangements for you to have them full time and they can come to me for holidays. You don't have to mean these threats, but usually the absent parent who has little or no contact will reconsider faced with 24/7 responsibility, cost etc., I think they usually say no because they want to be difficult, the other thing is say that you won't want any money from them once they move - always a good incentive!!!!
Hope it all works out for you
Ali x
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"POZZIE" - HAPPY AND LOVIN IT!
I'm sick of following my dreams, I'm just going to ask them where they're going and hook up with them later
We are also in the same position. My eldest son is 17 but I still need permission despite the fact father and son have had one meeting and no maintenance in 15 years.
Unfortunately for me I have misplaced the residency order I was given all those years ago, so I applied to the magistrates to get a copy only to be told they have no record of the hearing in either magistrates or County court so I can't get any paperwork. When I did speak to my sons dad much to my surprise there was no resistance and he is quite happy to sign any declarations neccessary in order for him to go. He thinks it will be great for him.
Hopefully you will have no problems gaining permission either and it will be straight forward like mine they might just surprise you.
We have approached the father for permission, didn't go that bad i thought :? ( he didn't scream or throw anything!)
But he did say he would fight all the way, I had offered the no more maitanance approach and suggested he can save that for flights. He thought that was funny as he would of refused to pay anyway if i moved to oz!.
Worth a try, I thought.
In solicitors hands now applying for a court order.
Have suggested mediation to see if we can sort out suitable contact arrangements as a last plea to not involve strangers interviewing our child.
Hoping for the latter,
Im sure will come good in the end ( always told you have to fight for what you want)
