It’s Saturday morning so no work to keep me occupied, as ever thinking about OZ. I'm posting this question to gain some further insight on this matter.
I've read on this sight and also spoken with friends who made the move to OZ but said they suffered terribly with homesickness, for those already out there what do you feel are the main reasons. I know many would say family but that aside what other issue do you have.
Is work an issue? I would have thought that if you are at home all-day and not working then your mind would start to race through the factors. If this is the case did it help when you found employment? Is it how you thought the life would be and the place? Did the move place a strain on your relationship, this could be that 1 wanted to stay and the other move back to the UK.
I know it might be easier if you have children as you are able to speak with other parents etc but for those who don’t have or don’t like children :) how have you found making friends etc.
I'm aware that everybody is different and things take time to settle in, it's like any major change.
I don’t know if I’m caught up in all this new life etc and if push comes to shove I’m going to regret giving up a fairly decent job with salary, decent house and to an extent lifestyle.
I'm not on a downer at all but I’m just being realistic and quite concerned that it might not be how I want it to be, and that once over there all I want to do is come back home. Could this be because I’m out of my comfort zone? I don’t know.
Any experiences and how you thought you overcome this would be most welcome.
Not really the response you want but I had a year out there a few years back and the homesickness did hit a while but it soon passed when I met friends and started going out more. The beer does help
Work does keep you occupied and to start with you are busy sorting your new life out. I'm not sure how this will affect me this time, going out on my own with my little boy. Having big doubts about it before we leave, I too worry about leaving my comfort zone at the mo but not sure if I could cope with not giving it a go! I think it is the fear of the unknown. :shock:
I hope it all works out for you mate.
Good luck with it, where do you intend on heading for?
SCoop
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I think it must be the waiting driving us over the edge because it is now getting to me and I have asked myself the same questions over and over in the last month. Are we mad to give up great paying jobs (wouldn't say we were happy in them though) Lovely house, friends and family for the unknown. What if we hate it, what if we don't make friends? I am not a stay at home person so what if I don't get a job, what if I get depressed? will it put a strain on our marriage? what if the house doesn't sell, what if the doctor says I've got a disease? what if what if what if, the only thing stopping me is 5 years ago we applied for NZ and I got cold feet and for 4 years until we decided to try for Aus I kept saying what if we had gone to NZ, what would our life had been like etc etc I don't want to sit here in 5 years and say we should have gone to Aus and at least tried it. I get homesick just going on holiday so I am dreading the homesickness of leaving the country I think I am going to get it real bad! Hoepfully it won't be long now and we will get a CO and then we can test all these what if's!
I'm with you on that one Becca, if I had this Visa I would probably just get on with it, all this waiting drives me up the wall and I feel sick to my stomach most days. I never used to be this much of a wuss before I became a mother!!
Thanks for that. I suppose it's only natural to have doubts, we haven’t even been accepted yet!!
I've always said that I’d sooner regret going than not, but when you have your thinking hat on, that saying seems rather cloudy. We are going back to OZ in December for a good look round at both Melbourne & Adelaide and get a further feel for the places. Hopefully this will reaffirm our gut instincts which made us originally apply.
This time it wont be with a "Holiday attitude" but a focus on jobs, housing etc. I'm like yourself I couldn’t think of anything worse than staying at home not working.
Neil, I think you are making the best move you can, look at what is happening to this country and surely another one has got to have better prospects for everything. Going back at Xmas should only reaffirm your intentions of going and you'll be thinking "what was I worrying for?"
We are making the move for our kids, to give them a much better lifestyle although if you haven't got any and it's just for yourselves, there must have been something to make you even consider moving to the other side of the world.
Think of the better weather, cheaper petrol, more outdoors lifestyle, barbies whenever (hopefully no rain to wash it out) bigger houses, etc.....
For all those of you waiting, good luck and try to destress cos the whole process certainly does take over your life and you live, breathe and eat Australia for the whole time and god does it make you the most miserable person to live with (ask my hubbie!!)
We were lucky and got our pre-grant letter on Thursday and ours took over 5 months and I've never been such a cow to my hubbie and now I've cheered up no end, but i have been where you are, looking at all those lucky buggers getting their visas and thinking "where's my case officer then, how long do I have to wait, etc."
It will come to you all at some point this year, so keep looking on the bright side.
Scoop, I admire you for making the more by yourself with your little boy, you are very brave but think of the improvement in his lifestyle and of course yours.
It's just the unknown that we are all scared of, will I get a job, will I be able to afford to live well, but until we get out there, we just won't know, but I for one am willing to give it my best shot.
Sorry about the rambling train of this message but hope it makes sense, I hope it doesn't sound like I lecturing anyone, it was meant that way.
When you have time to think and to some extent be realistic thats when i start to question things. We are both under 30 and shouldnt have any problems getting a job, and subject to the sale of the house,cars etc make a healthy profit that will set us up no problems.
But then i think both sets of parents live at the most, 30 min away, how easy will it be to ring up and say "Are you in i'm gonna nip down for a brew". I know for a fact that they will all come over and visit and so will our close friends but..........
As long as i can get the BUT out of my head i'll be reet.
I'd echo what has been said about taking just yourself and your lad over you are very brave. But look at what he's got to expect over here when he's older NOTHNG.
Cheers for all you comments glad it's not just me that thinks/feels like this.
Cheers for that mate :) Don't feel very brave at the mo :shock: My Folks only live half hour down the road, my dad don't visit though, my mother does in winter but they work 7 days a week in summer! Do I want that for my lad? Don't think so! I know they will not visit when I move but that would be the same in this country too and with the state of the NHS at the mo I will probably have to move anyway! Our trust £35,000,000 in debt. I have friends who will visit one has agreed to come out with me to help me settle me and the boy in, how cool is that?
Just got to give it a go and see what happens, probably wouldn't be able to cope with the regret anyway!
