Hi we are due to move out to OZ, next year. Just had our medicals done and have started to tell people our plans.
Only a few of our friends and only one family member think it's a good idea.
Most think we are mad to try. We have fairly good jobs, low mortgage, two young kids etc.
The reaction we are having is why are we giving up all this to go to the other side of the world, where you have no job, no house and you don't know what it really like there.
The most frequent saying we have is THE GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER.
IS IT ??
It is putting doubts into what we believe is our dream for a better life style.
ARE WE REALLY MAD?
please any advice, would be welcomed.
Hi
We're mad too.
We've just started the ball rolling my hubby Paul is a brickie and we have 4 children 14, 12, 9 and 3 my parents are going to Spain in October and we decided to tell them our plans, they are surprisingly supportive my sis is very quiet about it and I have only told one friend who said go for it (we only decided to give it a go last week). I am worried about telling the others. The children are up for it.
You only have one life and its not a dress rehearsal - go for it. Good luck.
Hi Angie
I much prefer your saying, rather than my hubby's parents who are extremely negative.
It also helps when others think they are mad- like us.
Good luck with your application
probably speak a lot in the next copule of months.
thanks
val
this topic is a very emotive, i think all of us become affected by the thoughts of others and all the negatives associated with what is viewed as family suicide!
we are in the same position. we are waiting for a decision from adelaide everything has been done just the stress of waiting now :? do family and friends know what that is like for prospective migrees!! not a chance.
my family think it is a wonderful opportunity, my wife's family however think its the end of the world. while we respect there views and understand that taking 3 grandchildren away from them will be tough on them, they have lost sight of the fact that this is our life and we so choose to take which ever path we follow.
i have been disowned since xmas when we first told them, my wife became ill for 2 months with the stress and anxiety and the last 3 months it has made me ill. what with applying, the most stressful job in the world, a house sale, the thought of leaving family and friends, will the kids cope with such a move :shock: :shock:
we have been reduced to feeling incompetent and have become doubtful in our own ability to make our own life decisions, WHAT A BUMMER!!!
GUESS WHAT------------- ITS NOT
we have taken the best that can be thrown at us and have become more confident than ever!! we returned from oz this last weekend after a 5 week holiday with the kidz-- totally amazing, it was our 3rd trip their and it just keeps getting better and better!! to all you folks in the same boat
WE'VE SEEN THE GRASS!!!!!
my inlaws said to me yesterday 'do you realise how traumatic it was not to have the grandchildren on holiday with us' to that i said 'it must have" but 'they had a fab time with there mum and dad' whats the moral here
life can be what ever you want it to be, with peaks and troughs. go with your dreams and live your life to the full, you've only got one!!!!
keep focused and take whatever is thrown at you on the chin. mine is bruised!! but we are almost their!!!
good luck to you all!!
mark
p.s. i wish adelaide would hurry up and throw my permanent visa at my chin!! :P 8)
Hi everyone.
New to this so bear with me!
I think its not so much the grass is greener, (in fact in Adelaide its parched brown alot of the time :P ) just that the grass on the other side is very different, which is why we all want to go and see for ourselves.
We came to Adelaide because my husband got a job here, so no pre concieved ideas of what life would be like and no comparisons as to wether life would be better or worse than the life we had in the uk, we just knew it would be different, and now a year later I am finally working out how it feels to be living here and in which ways Adelaide is better or worse than living in the uk.
So no greener grass as such but better grass in places!!
Sunshine :)
We have nothing but support from all our friends, they respect our choices and understand why we are trying to make the move. As for family,my inlaws are okay about it now. My mother in law is quite ill and knows she won't make it out to see us but shares our philosophy of 'you only live once'. Undoubtedly they will miss the kids (and us) but it is only 1 day away and with the internet we will probably keep in more contact with them than we do now.
I have no close family left, parents and sister died in very young of cancer. I am approaching 40 but have been given a new lease of life by having a genetic test which came back negative. Ever since then we have looked to the future.
Whether this is the right move, we won't know until we try - but at least we are prepared to give it our best. As for the grass being greener we are under no impression that Oz is the promised land. We visited Adelaide for the first time this year and found it, in the main, to be what we were looking for. Somewhere clean, friendly and safe to bring up the kids and give them another life experience.
Its YOUR dream, don't let anyone else stamp on it.
Heather
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Me & Hubby & 2 Kids (8&3)
Application in March 05
Meds & PC's submitted May 05
Waiting for the SIR Visa
13/09/05 WE GOT IT
9th May 2006 Arrived in Adelaide
The grass is greener is a pain in the backside. My partner and I lived in Sydney for 2.5 years and then decided that we missed England, family, going to see Brighton & Hove Albion play, etc and came back. We do not regret it as we have had two lovely kids, nice home, dog , etc since then. We should never have come back to England, but the grass is greener........ Now we want to return to Oz and have a massive guilt complex mainly based around the grandparents. My folks visited yesterday and I told them we wanted to move back to Oz. It went OK but the road is full of ups and downs emotionwise from one day to the next. It makes it even harder when your 3 year old says "I love you so much nanny Rose". Next we have to tell my partners dad and we have been analysing it to death. Should we shouldn't we?......then I read what you lot put and that makes me feel a whole lot better that you are all in the same boat. Sorry about that but that's human's for you. Christ we are even worried that we will be taking our dog Boomer away from his grandad!!!! The grass is greener when I was in Sydney and it's greener now in the UK....but that is probably to do with all the rain.
Bottom line is my kids won't be stuck indoors for most of the year, they will have a swimming pool, Brisbane's winter is the same as the UK's summer!!!! Like eveyone has said, life's too short, live it like todays you last and keep positive. We are all not going through this sh1t for a laugh.
I'll get back in my box. Can't wait to be in gods country (as my mate Shane calls Oz) :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Hello there, well we all must be barking mad on this site then!!!
Wait wait wait wait wait - and then wait some more!!
We are off to Adelaide in March, fingers crossed.
what grass u been smokn, we live in a desert where the droughts are followed by floods. U can stick cold wet grey depressing london where the sun dont shine im happy as a pig in ****e over in the land of OZ.
thats my thoughts ,lucky we are all different.well today its going to be 24 deg C and not a cloud in the sky again, what will i do? play golf? take out the Jet ski or lay on the beach.
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A good friend will come and bail you out of jail...but a true friend will be sitting next to you saying "Damn...that was fun!"
Is the grass greener? Im banking on it!
Im not coming this close to worry about it now.
Will it work out? well I dont know but were gonna have fun finding out and hay if it does'nt we will just come back.
Good luck everyone!!!!
who's going? me & hubby and our 2 girls aged 14 & 7
