Hi All
I have not seen the ex for almost 15 months. This state of being exes is not new.
Saturday night, phone rings out of the blue.
Him: Would you like to come round and share pizza & chips right now?
[Gill thinks - God. Some sort of flavoured chip buttie? Jeezuz. Apart from the fact that I'd rather starve than try to swallow that mixture, if you think I'm going to leap in the car at 2 minutes' notice and rush round to your house you can think again, chum.]
Me: This is very kind of you but I have already eaten, thank you.
Him: Well how about a drink then?
[Gill thinks: You are not hearing me are you, buster? If you are not on duty tonight - as you clearly aren't - by now you will be halfway down your second bottle of wine. I've got a can of cider in my hand too. Our houses are 6 miles apart. So - since there is no pub that is equidistant between us, and anyway my roller skates are broken....]
Me: This is very kind of you but I am busy with other things this evening. Thank you for your kind thought, though.
Half an hour later the phone rang again.
Him: I'm being headstrong now...
[Gill thinks: Suicidal more like but since you are determined to tell me about your "headstrong" idea, I suppose I will have to hear it.]
Him: How about I buy you lunch tomorrow?
Me: Thank you again, but no. Our relationship ended over a year ago. It is over.
Him: I miss you, though.
Me: Ah well. That's life, isn't it? You win some, you lose some. Now, if you will excuse me...
Stone the crows. I got an e-mail today. Apparently he "did not intend to rekindle any relationship."
How very flattering it is to know that, then. (As well as flattering himself because that particular decision does not rest with him anyway.)
So what does he think is likely when two adults who know each other well get pie-eyed together for no better reason than that the male element is bored for an instant and the female element is a schmuck who has been there with him & done that with him before but has eventually realised that all that this geezer ever really wanted then or wants now is the hay without the commitment?
Gill
