Will going back help?

[Gary o]

I've been in oz for 2 and a half years now and i've missed london almost all of that time. I'am going home in 7 weeks and can't wait.Just wondering if it will help or make my homesickness worse when i return.I know this may be a silly question but i'am just asking for any thoughts.

[northshorepom]

Hard to tell - maybe you'll be reminded of what you miss about London, maybe you'll see it in a worse light.

What do you miss about it? And if going back does make yuo miss it more, is going back home permanently an option?

[AKA]

Hi Gary.

I can only come at this from a very personal perspective.

When I was homesick (way back when) I went back for several weeks, to say it was a mistake is an understatement. I DIDN'T see ANY negatives, my mindset was one of UK IS HOME, MY COUNTRY RIGHT OR WRONG.

I came back to OZ feeling bloody miserable and wholeheartedly despairing, however.

Now I am in a better place and have been for a long time and whilst I still get a pang now and again I have/will/could go back and whilst still enjoying myself come back 'HOME' (OZ).

As I said Gary, very personal perspective and you may see the good, bad or a combination of both.

Good luck to you mate, only you can do it, and see what comes, 'Options' mate are great thing.

Cheers Tony.

[Gary o]

Mainly miss my friends and family. Lots of other little things but mainly people. Don't get me wrong i like sydney,i have a decent job and my wife's happier.But it's just not home to me if that makes sense. Going back is an option if i can convince my wife. Think i'am going to get citizenship first though so at least a couple more years here.

[ali]

I think it's one of those things which may make your mind up one way or another, although it took my friend two visits. On the second, some really thought she'd come back saying she was going back - she surprised us all by saying "no, got it out of my system", she then committed to buying a house and was much more settled. For others it fills all the gaps they've been feeling.

[proview]

If you follow your heart you will not be far wrong!

[shaunaforoz]

I am afraid it will go one of two ways, either you will lvoe being home and not want to go back to Oz, or you will be glad to get back on that plane.

I think one of the biggest problems for people is that they miss family and friends and want to come back home to be around them. Then after a couple of weeks being back home the novelty of you being there is gone (not sure of that is the right word) and they go back to their normal everyday lives and you are left wondering what it was exactly you missed.

I have always found that the problem with a holiday is that everybody is so glad to see you and you are so busy running round to try and get to see all your family and friends that you mistake this for reality. Everybody is happy to go our of their way to do things with you because you are only home for a fortnight or three weeks but after that they have to get back to their lives and you are not the centre of that.

That sounds really harsh I suppose and I dont mean it to sound that way its just that I have met a few people who have come home for a short holiday, say two weeks and they are the centre of their family and friends lives for those two weeks and then they think...what am I doing, why am I living away from this, I love my family and friends and I miss them....they move back whatever length of time later and the first couple of weeks have been exactly the same and they think that they have made the right decision adn then low and behold a few weeks later they are back to where they where before they left and they begin to realise why they moved to a different country in the first place.

I suppose I regret coming back to a degree but I hated Singapore and I couldnt wait to get back home. It really took the travel bug out of me and I just wanted to be back in an environment I understood and could relate to and one where I had my circle of friends and family for support. Now I realise I was just living in the wrong country and I would have been better living in the US, Canada or Australia, hence my plans to move to Oz. Dont get me wrong I loved the US and I would move back to Boston at the drop of a hat if the opportunity arose but that is not going to happen and so Oz was my next choice as I liked it there when I visited.

Best of luck with it but at the end of the day you are the only one who can make the decision about your happiness. All I would say to you is that you are a long time dead and there is no point in being miserable for any part of your life if you can do something to change it.

Good Luck

[Candygirl]

I think it's a great idea that you are going back to London for a holiday. I agree with Shauna, when you go back for a holiday there are not enough hours in the day to see everyone and catch up. When you are back in London I would really think about how you feel there and what the daily grind is like there, it is a fabulous city but remember that all not that glitters is gold.

We live in Spain and I get so excited when I am going back to London (I will be there in 14 days) and I cannot wait, but I know I couldn't live there again. You have to remember the reasons why you left in the first place. Are they still there? Can you deal with them again if you had to?

Wishing you a good trip and hope it helps you one way or another.

[Gary o]

Thanks candygirl.I would just like to say that i never wanted to leave,my wife wanted to come home.